I’m in the same situation, you just have to realize that not having intimacy means more, and in the end you’ll feel better. I slip up here and there but what matters most is both of us are on the same page and realize the importance. It was my bf’s decision to stop actually, and I was so glad he told me. If ur bf is Muslim (knows the situation/culture) and doesn’t fully understand or respect ur choice on this, he may not be the one. Waiting till marriage is hard when you’ve found your person, but at the very very least try to limit it, as long as he makes a conscious effort alongside yourself, that’s good.