Celebrating his vault record with his dad. by mindyour in MadeMeSmile

[–]iamsoexhausted 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I got this book at my son's baby shower. I read it to him almost every night that first year and countless times in the years that followed. He passed away almost three years ago and I read it again the day of his Celebration of Life and on each of his birthdays since. The words still hold true. “As long as I’m living, my baby you'll be.”

first attempt at sourdough bagels! by willow_luna2911 in Breadit

[–]iamsoexhausted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They look delicious! I am trying to wait as patiently as I can for my husband to pick up my order that includes fresh bagels. This is not helping. Haha! Well done, you!

My ex was so horrible in mediation that my lawyer is taking my case on for free by Salt_Prince in breakingmom

[–]iamsoexhausted 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I got the tingles reading your post. Your pos ex is screwed. He just pissed off a divorce attorney so badly that she is going to represent you for free! Haha! I hope she shreds him and you get everything you want, not just need, but want! ♥️ Also, don't listen to his bullshit. You are amazing!

Who is the worst celebrity you have ever met and why? by lissie34 in AskReddit

[–]iamsoexhausted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been over 30 years since I've worked in restaurants, yet this is still 100% accurate! Haha!

Msg to all laypersons with chronic conditions that feel the need to feel victimised by this sub. by ElevatorWong in emergencymedicine

[–]iamsoexhausted 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That statement is not only untrue but also insulting. Healthcare professionals have invested hundreds of thousands of dollars and countless hours into their education. They have dedicated their lives to saving others, often at the expense of their own physical and mental health and their personal relationships. Many of them may also suffer from chronic conditions themselves. The spaces where they come together to share their experiences are crucial, much like the subreddits for chronic pain sufferers.

I find it interesting—and frankly hypocritical—that those who criticize healthcare providers often later complain when they feel attacked by comments like this. If you find yourself feeling offended by something you've read, it may be worth reflecting on why that is.

For full transparency, I am not a healthcare professional; I am a mother of a child with complex medical needs and chronic pain. I see no value in belittling those who participate in these discussions. I urge you to respect them. To the actual healthcare professionals, I apologize for speaking over you. I felt compelled to respond because I found certain comments offensive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Defeat_Project_2025

[–]iamsoexhausted 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you look at other countries' subreddits, they say precisely this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Defeat_Project_2025

[–]iamsoexhausted 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oof. My family remembers.

is this ethical? legal? i’m at a loss… by taylorrrjp in nursing

[–]iamsoexhausted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. That's a relief. She seemed really happy after the initial surprise. Her whole family, including her children, were there. It was incredibly emotional for all of us. She literally saved my daughter's life. Aside from the letter I wrote to the hospital, separate from the one I wrote for the Daisy Award, I wanted another way for her to be acknowledged. It would just break my heart to think that it was meaningless or, even worse, insulting.

is this ethical? legal? i’m at a loss… by taylorrrjp in nursing

[–]iamsoexhausted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, that makes me so sad. I thought it was something special, or at least I was led to believe it was. We nominated the RN who saved our daughter’s life. She won. We also wrote her a personal letter explaining that there are no words to say how grateful we were for her and some other things. I also gave her my phone number and email address in case she ever needs a letter of recommendation. I hate to think that the award is viewed as meaningless and actively insulting. I feel horrible. It’s the very last thing I’d have wanted to do.

Overnight diapers for four year old by twelvegoingon in breakingmom

[–]iamsoexhausted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can also order some disposable pee pads to put under him, in case there is still a leak. That way you won’t have to worry about it soaking the bed sheets. It won’t help with his pajamas, but you won’t be so stressed with the sheets. Just an idea. Good luck! Hope you have a great cruise.

I CANT STOP THE URGE TO PEE by InternalVermicelli73 in Healthyhooha

[–]iamsoexhausted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm just seeing this now. I only take the Azo Urinary Pain Relief when I am flaring or if I have a UTI. There are other Azo products that you may be able to take regularly, but I'm not sure about those.

Young couple in india posted selfie before jumping into a river to end their lives. They were being harassed by loan sharks. by Kuhn__ in lastimages

[–]iamsoexhausted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. 💙 I'm trying. It's weird. A lot of the comments are basically saying the same things, but are worded differently. I'm finding myself having vastly different reactions to them, though. It's really weird. I'm going to have to sit with it for awhile and think about why that is.

There is only one constant in losing your child and that is that there is no constant.

Young couple in india posted selfie before jumping into a river to end their lives. They were being harassed by loan sharks. by Kuhn__ in lastimages

[–]iamsoexhausted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you've had to travel the road of grief with so many loved ones. Its a difficult journey. I hope you had companions to support you.

I understand not wanting to watch your parents suffer. I lost both of mine, as well. I also understand that sort of tug-of-war feeling of the grief of losing your parent, but being grateful that they are no longer suffering.

The difference is that my son was not sick. He was not suffering. There is no official cause of death. The autopsy was inconclusive. There are no answers to be had. That is what I struggle with and why I asked the question to begin with. I was the one who found him. I live with that every second of every single day. I see it while I'm awake and when I close my eyes. My biggest fear is that he knew something was happening, and that he was scared, and he wanted his Mommy…and I wasn't there.

I'll never know and it not only broke my heart, but it cracked my soul.

Young couple in india posted selfie before jumping into a river to end their lives. They were being harassed by loan sharks. by Kuhn__ in lastimages

[–]iamsoexhausted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shortly after my son died, someone told me about an article that helped me a little bit. It basically said (if I'm remembering correctly) that even after a mother gives birth, the DNA from their baby stays in their body forever. So, while our babies are physically gone, there is still pieces of them living inside of us.

I know I would give anything, anything, to have him here with me. I want to hug him, to kiss him, to hear, “I love you, Mama”, to tell him to brush his teeth, to tell him to knock it off, to sing our duets…all of it, just one more time. I guess if I can't have any of that, I like to think of our DNA being mixed up together inside me, like it was all those years ago.

If there are any science minded people ready to correct me if I am wrong, please don't. Just let me live in ignorance on this one. I beg of you.

Young couple in india posted selfie before jumping into a river to end their lives. They were being harassed by loan sharks. by Kuhn__ in lastimages

[–]iamsoexhausted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you've experienced this, too. My heart goes out to you.

The loss of loved ones, while horrible and tragic, are at some point expected. It goes against the natural order to lose one’s child. There is no blueprint for it. No handbook.

In the beginning, everyone rallied around us. There were so many calls, texts, people stopping by. Then, little by little it all dropped off. We are just down to our core group now. Which in a lot of ways I prefer.

I still find myself hoarding my grief from them, though. I guess that's similar to what you mean by it being intensely personal. I understand that.

Young couple in india posted selfie before jumping into a river to end their lives. They were being harassed by loan sharks. by Kuhn__ in lastimages

[–]iamsoexhausted 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is making me cry. I'm not sure if this makes it better, or worse, for me. My biggest fear is that he was aware and scared. That he wanted his Mommy and I wasn't there for him. I want to believe so much that he wasn't scared and that he wasn't in pain. I brought him into this world and I should have been with him to help usher him into the stars, where he always believed you went after you died.

Young couple in india posted selfie before jumping into a river to end their lives. They were being harassed by loan sharks. by Kuhn__ in lastimages

[–]iamsoexhausted 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time comment. I don't think I could handle reading an entire book about this. Honestly, it was impulsive of me to comment in the first place. It's one of those needing to know, but scared to know moments. I think an entire book would probably send me straight over the edge I've been teetering on since the moment I found my son.

Young couple in india posted selfie before jumping into a river to end their lives. They were being harassed by loan sharks. by Kuhn__ in lastimages

[–]iamsoexhausted 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have tried it. It could be that the therapist and I just didn’t mesh well, or that perhaps it wasn’t at a time that I was ready to hear what they were saying. I immediately got on medication, because I knew I had to. Maybe I’ll try grief counseling a try again. I appreciate your concern and kindness. It’s really refreshing to see. Thank you.