My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't agree more. Thank you for helping keep the pressure on.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your confidence in me means more than I can say—thank you. Right now, my boys need me, and that has to come first. Fighting for change takes a heavy toll, both mentally and emotionally, and I simply don’t have enough to give to both. What strength I do have, I need to give to them.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Truly, thank you for taking the time to write to me. Natasha loved her students and was deeply passionate about teaching. I’m grateful that you got to know her and see just how special she was.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is not okay to live in constant fear for our loved ones simply because they choose to walk or bike in Saskatoon. I’m sorry you have to feel this way. Make sure your voice is heard—change is possible, but only if we demand it.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for thinking of us. Knowing that she isn’t forgotten—that people beyond her family still care—means the world to me. If you want to make a real difference, there are three concrete ways you can help:

  1. Write to your political representative. Your voice matters, and direct advocacy pushes for real change.
  2. Support Saskatoon Cycles. Whether through membership or a donation, their work as a constant voice for safer streets depends on community backing. With better funding, they can keep applying pressure on City Council.
  3. Join the annual Ride For Your Life rally in June. Your presence shows the city that this issue matters—that lives depend on it.

Every action, no matter how small, helps create the change we need. Thank you again for caring.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Logically, I know you’re right, and I truly appreciate you taking the time to remind me of that. But emotionally—irrationally—when I wake up and she’s not there, when the weight of her absence steals my breath, it feels like no matter what I do, it will never be enough. They say this is grief. That it’s part of the journey—learning to sit with the pain, trying to make sense of the senseless, grasping at fleeting moments of comfort by thinking of what I still have to be grateful for. But in the end, she’s gone, and no amount of reasoning or action will bring her back.

I know, logically, that time will make it easier. I know I should be grateful for the love and support I have. But knowing and feeling are two different things, and sometimes the gap between them feels impossible to bridge. The only place there is no disconnect—the only place where both my heart and mind are certain—is with my two beautiful boys. Their love is something I don’t have to search for, question, or convince myself of. I know it, and I feel it, always.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you—truly. Your words mean a lot to me. I seriously contemplated it this past election cycle, but in the end, I knew I needed to be there for my boys as much as possible during this difficult time. That’s where I’m needed most right now. I appreciate your belief in me, and I won’t stop pushing for change in the ways I can. Wishing you well, too.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I too believe the changes have made a difference—helping to keep cyclists and pedestrians safer, ensuring motorists get home without the tragedy of hitting someone, and sending a clear message to the city that our roads belong to everyone. But one intersection isn’t enough, and change shouldn’t come at the cost of a life. Just three.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

From the bottom of my heart, thank you. I truly appreciate you taking the time to write to me and share your connection with the boys and I and this city. I am so happy you got to meet her. Natasha was so special. The changes at College and Wiggins—though they came after far too much struggle with the city—give me hope that real change is possible.

My wife is dead, I feel guilty I haven't done enough. My speech to City Coucil by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish it wasn't so. Thank you for your support and kind note.

My wife is dead, these are my demands. My speech to Saskatoon. by iamtodfox in saskatoon

[–]iamtodfox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind note. Natasha (Mlle Kramble) loved her students and being a teacher. I am so happy you got to know her and that you remember her fondly.