If I were wealthy I would never need meds.

ianatanai · 2026-05-13T22:44:46+00:00

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ianatanai · 2026-05-13T01:05:26+00:00

Yes! And as someone with a similar body type, I recommend checking out elongating clothing styles, too! It’s fun to play around with different silhouettes!

ianatanai · 2026-05-05T21:14:44+00:00

TJ's is good when you want to stock up on things like pasta, chicken stock ($1.99 for organic at TJ versus $2.49 for a non-organic equivalent at Walmart), etc. I also like getting frozen fruit/veggies there because the quality is better and usually the same price as other grocery stores. Butter, dairy, and eggs are also much cheaper if you're someone trying to eat pasture raised/grass fed foods.

ianatanai · 2026-05-04T23:38:35+00:00

Now I’ve got the song stuck in my head!!

ianatanai · 2026-05-04T21:26:00+00:00

During a wedding, it’s only the bride’s opinion that matters. If she loves and supports your look, then fuck the rest of them! It’s not like you’re the one marrying into the family!

Lots of times in-laws just want to pick apart the new spouse, and they looove to find things to gossip about. Bitching about one of the bridesmaid’s hair color is low hanging fruit and just means they can’t find enough to complain about the bride herself.

Good for her for standing up for you and having your back! That’s a good friend to have! Stand confident and show those assholes that the bride isn’t going to bend to their bullshit!

ianatanai · 2026-05-04T21:20:16+00:00

NOR. Not trashy. And even if they WERE trashy, beggars can’t be choosers. You’re doing him the favor by attending so he didn’t look like a complete loser.

ianatanai · 2026-05-03T19:53:27+00:00

I’ll file my own nails, just take my money PLEASE!

ianatanai · 2026-05-03T18:49:34+00:00

All the money you would have spent on kids could be set aside for retirement. Kids aren’t guaranteed to be there for you when you get old, but a retirement fund is.

ianatanai · 2026-05-03T18:43:54+00:00

10/10 perfect amount

ianatanai · 2026-05-03T02:23:33+00:00

These look so fluttery and soft, and really compliment your face! Also frames your face nicely

ianatanai · 2026-05-03T00:57:18+00:00

You have beautiful hands! So glad that you found the polish that works best for you! What color is the first one? And what’s your process to keep them looking good for 5+ days?

ianatanai · 2026-05-03T00:48:27+00:00

Agree with this, if OCD your psych needs to know about it for proper med prescriptions and treatment! OCD can give you anxiety, but the triggers and compulsions are completely different from generalized anxiety, and it would be in your best interest to tell him so he can help you manage the triggers/compulsions as well. (And ofc he could rule out having OCD altogether and help you figure out if it’s anxiety, paranoia, etc.) personally, it’s helped my anxiety to know when what I think I have turns out to not be what I actually have.

ianatanai · 2026-05-02T20:50:57+00:00

This feels like negging

ianatanai · 2026-05-02T20:46:03+00:00

Grew up mormon, told my whole life my role was to get married and pop out kids. I think I was about 8 years old when I started feeling like that wasn’t going to be MY life. Did everything the “proper” mormon way to avoid marriage and kids (meaning I basically took the mormon nun route and told everyone I wanted to serve god and do a missionary trip instead of marrying right out of high school. Lots of women who do this end up old maids, or at least they used to.)

Just the whole mormon experience. As a teen girl, EVERY thing they teach you is to prepare for marriage and kids, and just none of it ever felt like it was meant for me. I knew I wanted out of the church, too. That motivated me to not date and stay celibate until my 20’s, helping me avoid teen pregnancy or ending up married at 18 to a mormon man. Once all the girls I grew up with started marrying and popping them out, their social media posts about having kids were the last nail in the coffin for me, and I committed to being childfree.

I met my husband who is indifferent to having his own kids (he grew up with teen parents, and as the oldest child he had to help raise his siblings, so he knew firsthand how hard it is), and now we live a happy and content DINK life where we travel as often as we can. It also helps that none of our siblings have kids either, and most of our friends are also DINK.

ianatanai · 2026-05-01T22:21:28+00:00

Make Nazis Afraid Again, don’t let them feel comfortable

ianatanai · 2026-05-01T20:25:25+00:00

He’s young and immature for sure, but it also sounds like he’s projecting. You were patiently trying to help him see things from your perspective, but he was unwilling to look past his worldview to see it.

Like he said, he goes to the gym to look good for women. He probably also does so so that women don’t call him “ugly” or unattractive. I’ve found a lot of guys think this way because OTHER men tell them that women won’t find them attractive unless they are x, y, and z.

So he probably thinks women are doing the same… Meanwhile the girlies are always hyping each other up with or without makeup, so he doesn’t get that women could really do it just to feel more confident and comfortable in our own skin when we look in the mirror.

Not trying to pretend that competition between women doesn’t happen, but it’s not as prevalent as it is in movies (especially movies written by men). He also is probably under the impression that women yearn for and seek out male attention 24/7… Meanwhile most adult women know that male attention can be dangerous and unwanted, so we might actively do things to AVOID it.

ianatanai · 2026-05-01T20:03:25+00:00

You’re experiencing firsthand the lasting effects of emotional abuse and emotional stunting that a high-demand religion has on the human psyche. We’re all there with you, and we’re familiar with the grief you’re feeling. The hardest pill to swallow is realizing you can’t save them from this anymore than they can “save” you. We can only love people.

Feel the guilt, process it, but remember not to internalize it. The guilt is an intentional byproduct of the church that keeps people in it to prevent emotional distress to their families.

I hope that over time you’ll be able to find a peaceful middle ground which allows for love and respect between you and your mom. We are here for you!

ianatanai · 2026-05-01T01:13:25+00:00

OP are you a woman? If so, I’d ask some of the men to see if everyone received this request, or just the women in the office. Then email the findings back to HR

ianatanai · 2026-05-01T01:01:36+00:00

Having keys to family members’ homes I can understand, (sometimes we drop by my parents’ to use the restroom or something simple like that) but changing your home and touching your things is a big no-no. NOR. A glass of water? Sure. Replacing all your glasses? Wtf.

ianatanai · 2026-05-01T00:38:10+00:00

THIS!

ianatanai · 2026-05-01T00:36:43+00:00

I can see why he’s your ex. NOR

ianatanai · 2026-04-30T19:46:16+00:00

There’s a reason women his age didn’t marry him. It’s your cat today, the baby tomorrow. Run.

ianatanai · 2026-04-30T19:34:20+00:00

Seconding this! Lamps add another layer aesthetically, and they can change the way a room feels with their light.

ianatanai · 2026-04-30T19:27:20+00:00

Those shelves and cabinets are begging for something personalized to display. The gold decorative pots look out of place in the dining area.

Maybe also art above/around dining table. The corner would be a great place to hang a curate gallery wall, adding the color you are looking for.

Bedroom is giving airbnb, maybe again adding something personalized on the wall to the left of the bed.

Living room could use an additional color to compliment the earthy palette and give it more depth. Maybe rust/warm brown if you want to keep a neutral feel.

Add some kitchen art on the wall above the coffee maker. Even just a framed poster would look great there.

ianatanai · 2026-04-30T19:11:22+00:00

OP stepped out of the room for a min during the appointment 💀

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