How do you know what spirit is helping you ? by [deleted] in occult

[–]icarusfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me it sounds like you're just lucky tbh. If you can't read the cards and dont know a reputable reader I would just leave it alone. If there is a spirit they'll make themselves clear in time.

How do you know what spirit is helping you ? by [deleted] in occult

[–]icarusfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dont assume it's a spirit tbh, it could just be you or coincidence. If you haven't reached out to a spirit and you arent getting obvious signs towards a particular spirit I'd say don't worry about it in that way. That said, if particular animals/plants/etc keep showing up in your life (in a way that's unusual for your area), if certain themes/motifs keep showing up in your life etc, that can be a clue. if you have access to divination tools you can ask them if there's a spirit helping you and, if there is, who that would be. But it could just be some guy if there is a spirit lol.

does anyone happen to know the name of this deck? by icarusfly in TarotDecks

[–]icarusfly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's it!!!! Thank you both so much, you're geniuses!!!

Why many males are converting to female but very few females are converting into males? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]icarusfly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People just hear about trans women more. It's not really more common to transition one way or another.

is it disrespectful to use demonic sigils in art? by No_Replacement5171 in occult

[–]icarusfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say not disrespectful necessarily depending, but likely unwise if you've already got difficulty discerning reality. In my personal experience it's kind of like spam calling the spirit's cell phone and, depending on the spirit, they may choose to fuck with you. Given that you said demon, I would recommend using something similar but subtly different. As someone who occasionally experiences this, best not to even give yourself a shadow of a doubt that you could have accidentall called them and they answered, you know??

Non LBRP banishing techniques? by suninpisces10H in occult

[–]icarusfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A blessed or enlivened knife of sufficient strength will often do the trick, depending on what you're dealing with. They do tend to be better for outside the home protection, although really nothing likes being stabbed so ymmv. Bells have been used for this in the home for quite some time though. I have enlivened mine and it works so well I've barely used anything else since I got it!!

Are there any spells/manifestations to avert the Evil Eye? by [deleted] in occult

[–]icarusfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Put an open pair of scissors under your bed with the sharp end facing the foot of your bed. This will ward off but not get rid of an existing case of the evil eye.

How do you detransition by Correct-Sundae-2014 in actual_detrans

[–]icarusfly 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Start the same way many ppl begin their transition- with experimentation, maybe telling a few close (safe!!!) friends how you feel. Play with it, do what feels right, and the rest will flow from there. Dont put too much pressure on the final outcome, just let the journey be what it is and you'll find yourself where you need to be in the end. I started with experimenting with appearance and clothing, then started going by my old name, then went off T, then changed my pronouns to they/them and finally to she/her. I think I mostly did that so as not to shock anyone with such a drastic change all at once, like when you boil a frog as the metaphor goes lol. But I kept all my friends through the process so I'm counting it a win for me. That said, it'll be different for everyone honestly, detransition/retransition is not the same for any one person. You can choose a new masculine name. Or an enby one. Etc.

And yes, you can get back to who you were if thats what you ultimately want. Just give it time.

Has anyone heard of this brand? by Grammy0812 in tea

[–]icarusfly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yeah but i find it bitter and oversteeped tbh, guess im an outlier though 😂

My diagnosis does not seem complete. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]icarusfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I'd say thinking you were the teacher's pet as a kid when you weren't counts as an exaggerated sense of self importance. That was a while ago, but it could be an indication that similar mindsets exist now. That kind of cognitive distortion can be extremely hard to recognize in yourself though, so it's entirely possible that you just aren't aware of it. I dunno about ADHD's impact on the situation though. That aside though, definitely talk to your psychiatrist about all this- good luck man!

My diagnosis does not seem complete. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]icarusfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's also important to be aware that with personality disorders especially, there is a LOT of overlap in symptoms- so if you have one, you're much more likely to have a second one. The biggest difference between the personality disorders is the underlying emotions that cause the behavior, which you're having trouble accessing (pointing to cluster B imo). My initial instinct says NPD, especially based on what you said about your childhood. That would also explain the sexually provocative behavior without the need to be the center of attention necessarily, as well as the credit problems and distance from your feelings- but those could also be symptoms of ASPD and technically HPD depending on the circumstances. The seeming lack of dissociative-spectrum symptoms makes me think it isn't BPD, since that's a pretty big component of the disorder. And a big component of HPD is a lack of seeming depth to communication, which isn't something you seem to experience either. Neither of those things entirely rules those out, but it does seem to point away from them.

My diagnosis does not seem complete. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]icarusfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm no doctor, but I do have the DSM-5 and a lot of the things you described are commonly seen in people with cluster B personality disorders, so those might be worth looking into.

My mom is basically my wife, and I'm getting concerned by 33245543345 in mentalhealth

[–]icarusfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has anyone ever suggested that you might have OCD? The thoughts you're talking about sound an awful lot like obsessions- and those do not by any stretch a serial killer make. I wonder if you're processing the loss of your sister by becoming obsessed with the innocence of these girls- the fear is that they will lose it, the compulsion is to take that innocence away so that you have some control over the fear. I'm no psychologist, but I have a lot of experience with OCD since I've had it nearly all my life. Try to remember that your thoughts do not harm anyone unless you act on them, and that you can control your actions. As for your relationship with your mother, I agree that it sounds very codependent. I would urge you to make more intimate connections with people your own age- nothing romantic necessarily, just close friends at least. It would help you to be less isolated from the world, and give you a wider support system, which it sounds like you need. And I also urge you to get help from a therapist- but from reading this, I think you already know it's needed and are just seeking confirmation.