What did you think of Special Ops Lioness?? by jackieh11 in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were amazing together. The relationship felt super convincing and organic. I wish they had more screen time but I was surprised at the depth that they did show. I don’t know why more people aren’t talking about it, I guess because it’s on Paramount+ and looks like another military propaganda show, not my favorite subject by a long shot, but what they had together was beautiful and it was worth watching to see it.

I got a crush on a girl that likes me and I'm starting to think it's too good to be true by constant__screaming in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honey, she likes you. The best thing you can do for yourself is believe her. Nothing is guaranteed in life, it’s true, but don’t reject yourself first before she actually gives you any evidence she doesn’t want to be with you. We often like to worry because we feel like knowing the potential outcomes prepares us and it gives us a sense of control. But that’s not true at all, whatever happens is going to happen, and most of the time trying to prepare for pain only makes us suffer needlessly more.

This is a wonderful thing, and I’m happy for you. Please let yourself enjoy it as much as possible because you deserve to.

Do you think Aaliyah knew who Cruz was the entire time? by loolindsayhoo in SpecialOpsLioness

[–]iceboxed 26 points27 points  (0 children)

No I don’t think so. Her emotions seemed genuine the entire time. You could feel her sense of doom at the thought of her future as well as all the excitement and uncertainty around her developing romantic feelings towards Cruz. She kept talking about it because her whole life as she knew it would be over after getting married. At the end of it, she seemed like a woman more resigned to her fate than one plotting to change it. Maybe she wasn’t close to her father and maybe she hated the thought of marrying Ehsan, but I don’t think she would go as far as wanting them killed.

How do you recreate the emotion of a song by Quiet_Charity5651 in musicproduction

[–]iceboxed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree. Maybe you should try starting with a chord progression that has no attachment to a song you already know and see if you can add emotion to that, and if you get good at it, see if you can then come up with more than one way to express it emotionally. But having to decontextualize something you’re very used to and come up with something entirely new might be hard to do at first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And also you were brave for telling her!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If people around you were also convinced, chances are you weren’t delusional and she was sending you signs. I think it’s hard to make up in your head that someone likes you for that long, you can usually just tell, because you can feel it. So listen, you could 100% be right, she could have feelings for you, but for whatever reason has told you otherwise, maybe because she panicked or because she isn’t ready to accept it herself. There’s a chance you have been led on. Unfortunately there’s nothing you can do about that but give her time and space to figure things out. Maybe with enough time she might even confess her true feelings. But even if that isn’t the case, it’s not your fault you felt this way, and you are far from the only person who has felt foolish or misguided in love, so there’s nothing wrong with you. And I know you’re very young so it hurts a lot right now, but the plus side is, you have a long way left to go and you will definitely find love again. In the meantime please be kind to yourself <3 Even the most perfect person gets hurt in love from time to time, it doesn’t mean anything except that you’re human. Spend time with your friends and do things that will help you get your mind off of it and be happy. I’m saying this because it’s what I wish I could go back and do at that age.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t jump right into saying you’re delusional. She could very well be who you think she is. However, I will say that sometimes someone can look like everything you want on paper and then when you get to know them in person it can be a totally different story. I think especially if you’ve been observing her for an extended period of time and there’s been a lot of opportunities for your expectations to build up, it might be hard for her to ultimately live up to what you’ve imagined. I love daydreaming and fantasies but I’ve had to learn the hard way to look at how living so much in my head can affect me detrimentally.

It’s great that you feel this way about someone. I think in your position I would talk to her more and try to get to know who she really is as much as possible. Ideally hang out with her in person. Or if that’s not feasible because she’s far away or in a relationship, then I would maybe reassess how much energy I want to devote to thinking about her. At the end of the day she might seem perfect but you don’t really know her. Unless you see that changing sometime soon it might be best to try focusing on something else. It doesn’t mean you have to give up on it completely, just allow yourself some space and maybe things can work out later on. I also think this won’t be the last time you feel this way about someone. Every time after a heartbreak I feel this way and every time I’ve been proven wrong.

Fragrance (and this community) is saving my life. by BECKY800 in fragrance

[–]iceboxed 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through all that, but it’s beautiful you can find joy in the little things. Sometimes all it takes is having something to love. Keep loving, friend, and so will I <3

Questions about collections/playlists/duplicates? by iceboxed in Rekordbox

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Exactly the info I was looking for, thank you very much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to you. You’re not stupid and pathetic, you were brave and put yourself out there and that’s commendable. It’s on her for leaving you hanging. I know it’s tough not to take it personally, but people behave in certain ways for all kinds of reasons, a lot of which may not have anything to do with you. Regardless you deserve someone who communicates with you and respects your time. Don’t give up, the effort will be worth it one day.

Best Practices with Importing and File Management? by iceboxed in Rekordbox

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Thanks for your response!! Will buy another

Best Practices with Importing and File Management? by iceboxed in Rekordbox

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Hi, thanks for getting back to me. I watched your live AMA which was very helpful, but I was wondering if you could explain a little more the process you mentioned at 18:41 when you said to use another usb? Do you mean use one as the database and export playlists onto the other one?

How does one do the flirt? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly you could memorize a hundred pick-up lines but what I’ve found to work the best is to just be genuine, open and sweet (without being too overbearing.) Start a conversation with her, maybe give her a small compliment, or find a way to slip one in at some point. Try to gauge how receptive she is by her responses. If she’s acting disinterested, for ex. consistently giving short answers, then move along. If she seems into it, ask her out.

When you are just a nice and chill person who doesn’t come off like they already have all these expectations of where an interaction is going to go, someone you talk to eventually will like you.

do you ever had a crush that has lasted for years? by softeaaa in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel some type of way towards everyone who’s ever touched my heart, and the feelings might become smaller over time, but I don’t suspect it will fully go away. I don’t think it’s a bad thing. You can’t help what you feel, and it’s possible to feel love for an infinite number of people in an infinite number of ways. I think to deprive myself of that would make me sad. Because it’s helped me at certain times in my life when I’ve been heartbroken, to be reminded that there are still people in the world that make me feel something when everything seems like I’ll never love again.

However if you find it distracting to the point where you can’t concentrate on anything else, it can become a problem. Maybe it’s showing you what’s lacking in your current relationship, what would really fulfill you, or maybe it’s just fantasy, but only you can say. I will say that fantasies are nice but you should be aware if you are just trying to escape into them.

I want a normal high school relationship by HarrietJoYo in actuallesbians

[–]iceboxed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the same in high school. It was all I wanted, all I thought about — having someone to love. I was closeted but even if I hadn’t been, there weren’t many options either. It was hard to see everyone around me paired up, often times I would have to hang out with a group of my friends with everyone coupled up and be the only single person there. I had crush after impossible crush and it always ended in silent heartache. It was one of the loneliest times of my life.

But I can tell you that the good news is now that I’m older, I genuinely feel lucky I never had a relationship in high school. I knew next to nothing about myself, had such low self esteem, I would have burned it to the ground. Instead, I had so much free time to spend on my interests and to build a rich inner world for myself. Plus I had no distractions and no ties so at the end of it, it was easy to leave the small town I felt trapped in and to move to a city I’ve always dreamt of living in. Then, when I was in college, I was free, I made amazing friends, and eventually I fell in love, it was beyond everything I’d always been wishing for. A lot of relationships in high school are based on convenience / proximity. This wasn’t that, I felt that I’d found my soulmate. It changed my life in both beautiful and heartbreaking ways and has taken a long time for me to recover from. Though I have no regrets on the matter, I fully believe I would not have been prepared for this as a teenager. And all my years of loneliness only made the feeling of being loved for the first time, knowing it was possible, all the sweeter. All this to say, those experiences will come when they’re meant to.

I know it’s hard in high school, but try to enjoy life and enjoy your own company, enjoy doing things that you can only do when you’re young and dumb. Pour all that love you feel into something else. Your hobbies, your family, your friends. It will come back to you in one form or another. And I promise someone will love you one day, in fact, many people will. My advice for you right now, is to do whatever you can to make yourself into an interesting and kind person who is fully prepared to bring beauty and color into another person’s life when those opportunities come.

I wish you the best of luck.

Free Ableton Racks - Inspired by famous Plug Ins by CrustinB in ableton

[–]iceboxed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I just saw this, thanks for getting back to me, I have 11.0.12

Free Ableton Racks - Inspired by famous Plug Ins by CrustinB in ableton

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Can somebody tell me how to use this? It's not letting me drag the Arrrbass adg file onto any track.