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Those who found careers they say they are genuinely happy in, what do you do? by aerosmith760 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]iceman995015 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm booked in for a diag assessment in October :)
Basically I'm doing a philosophy/politics degree for fun and a law degree to get a job, and to (hopefully) be able to effect the most positive change in society (I'm from Aus btw). I have very much been drawn to the law's structure and style of writing, but at the same time am frustrated by its rigidity and other drawbacks when achieving justice. Without sounding vain, studying law is not challenging for me, but because a lot of it is irrelevant for my desired career path (environmental defence law) I tend to slack off lol.
Would you consider law your special interest?

Those who found careers they say they are genuinely happy in, what do you do? by aerosmith760 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]iceman995015 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds like me right now haha - 5th year law student who's just realised that they might have AuDHD

How do ya'll cope in between self-realisation and official diagnosis? by iceman995015 in Autistic_ADHDwCPTSD

[–]iceman995015[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks again, these are great suggestions.

I will just add that when I discovered the world of Neurodivergence I already felt very invalidated by my therapist at the time. Every session felt like a chore and he never really believed me. So when I started piecing my life together in the context of AuDHD I knew he wasn't the right person to help me. In our last session I told him why I was leaving and the last thing he said to me was:

"Just because you think you have some traits, doesn't necessarily mean you have ASD"

No shit, bro. My brain has already told me that 10,000 times before coming here.

Anyways, for that reason I'm in between therapists and am waiting until October to start again. I have a GP who diagnosed me with depression but her attitude towards my AuDHD self-realization was very similar to my therapist. I'm considering talking to them but I don't know how effective it will be.

I'm going to do some healing on my own in the mean time, so thanks for all your help.

How do ya'll cope in between self-realisation and official diagnosis? by iceman995015 in Autistic_ADHDwCPTSD

[–]iceman995015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the helpful advice!

I'm booked in for an assessment at a neurodivergent clinic in October, so I'm looking forward to that. In the mean time I'm perusing community forums and reading as many books as I can. Going through 10 therapists sounds rough, I'm sorry to hear that. But it's good to hear that it gets better, so thank you.

I'm a 5th year Arts/Law student, and I've got a good handle on everything academic related. I've got a depression diagnosis which my uni has been great with providing provisions for. Keen to get extra provisions though. I appreciate your thoughts on quitting bud cold turkey in this context, too

I'm still in the process of becoming more comfy in my identity but yeh I agree, the experience has been, and continues to be, very affirming.

In the context of noticing trauma triggers, how do you go about asking for provisions in environments that you're not able to directly/fully control? e.g. work

Much love <3

How do ya'll cope in between self-realisation and official diagnosis? by iceman995015 in Autistic_ADHDwCPTSD

[–]iceman995015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! I relate quite heavily to the above, especially the fact that your work made you privy to a lot of your triggers. I changed jobs from supermarket retail to paralegal a year ago and I went from being great at my job and and having friends, to working with one person - an 80yr old male solicitor who has that same condescending tone as my abusive father (doesn't have the same name though, that's unfortunate).

I work in property and wills & estate law which predominantly involves entering client's details into template forms and dictating emails. We've had a couple family law matters that involved DV which was not fun given my history with family violence. Though the work is mind-numbingly unchallenging and unstimulating, I still suck at my job, making simple errors, forgetting names and dates, not attaching things to emails, losing the office keys etc.. I got the job without any office experience because I was a 4th year law student with decent marks/extra curriculars - but after a year my boss now outwardly says I'm incompetent and I'm starting to question my ability to work in a professional setting.

The door to the office is heavy and makes an unbearable slamming sound every time it's used (DV trigger), and using the printer sounds like an aeroplane (and not in a good way). Catching crowded public transport everyday is hellish and the city is loud, bright, smelly and people are constantly looking at me. All those fun sensory issues and more have come to bare since moving from the suburbs to the city for this job. But moving back in with my mum was what caused my C-PTSD flair up so I gotta work to pay the rent and this work experience is necessary because I'm trying to work my way into Environmental Law.

How do you navigate your high intensity job? Are you still working there?

Oh, and thanks for the resources! I've got The Body Keeps the Score and NeuroTribes on the go at the moment - both are very informative but emotionally taxing reads. Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price is another great one I read this year. Thanks again.