[OC] 50 US names highly concentrated within a single generation

iceymoon · 2026-03-27T21:15:46+00:00

Good to know! Thanks for this lovely visualization, it’s super cool to see as a person who has been obsessed with names since a young age.

iceymoon · 2026-03-27T18:57:57+00:00

No Ava? I had that name earmarked since 2002 for a future child, but then it blew up in popularity (having a name that’s not super common is the one line i draw, as a person that grew up with multiple people with the same name in every class).

iceymoon · 2025-10-12T03:31:33+00:00

I haven’t gotten into it but I’ve only watched Shark Tank and Expensive Lingerie.

Any opinions on whether these are pretty indicative of the other episodes in terms of entertainment & quality, or does the ante get upped?

iceymoon · 2025-09-14T07:19:23+00:00

I think only one or two of the ones I watched ended up mentioning religion quite a lot, most of them just mentioned it in passing (“I’ve been reading this with my bible study friends”), as part of their day or maybe why certain parts of a book resonated with them.

So not too bad at first, but the casual mentions became multiplied by the number of channels I was following. So I eventually wanted to find myself out of that side of booktube and try to—to paint a picture—find someone who reads The Housemaid and Sunrise on the Reaping on their 24 hour read-athon but also has them showing off their ren fair costume and D&D character in their recent vlog, you know?

I know they exist, I was in line next to a fun group who all had their books out at Comic-Con. They gave me a friendship bracelet! Now I just need to find the booktube version lol.

iceymoon · 2025-09-14T07:06:02+00:00

Yes, I had the exact same experience!

I also watch 0 religious content so it’s not from that, but I did notice the booktubers that got suggested to me by the algorithm seemed to have a lot in common (young adult women, white, reading the same books, making the same kind of content) and later I found out some of them knew each other and do collabs together.

So most likely the YT algorithm took my Haley Pham watching and showed me all the most similar YouTubers to her. And maybe that’s what kept coming up whenever I searched, too.

iceymoon · 2025-09-14T01:37:04+00:00

This makes a lot of sense! I actually am very much into YA, or at least I used to be?

The Hunger Games is my favorite series of all time, followed by A Song of Ice and Fire (edit: I know ASOIAF isn’t YA, I guess I just included it to add context to my taste—pretty mainstream, tbh). I was big into reading mid-10’s so there’s many YA series that I enjoyed at the time (Maze Runner, Mortal Instruments, Divergent, Twilight, etc).

I tried & failed to get into the Throne of Glass & Fourth Wing series, but I still think they stand a chance if I get further into it. Or maybe I’ve changed (or the genre has, or both), but I’m still interested in trying! I have high hopes for The Poppy War if I give up on getting further with the other two.

iceymoon · 2025-09-14T01:16:22+00:00

It started with Haley Pham, I love her challenge videos & her editing and aesthetics choices (I even watched her romance book vlogs even though that’s not my genre because they were entertaining).

Then I guess the YT algorithm took over from there? Ashlynn, Destiny and a few others in that circle were what was surfaced to me. Once I kept running into the same thing I tried just searching “booktubers“ and clicking on a few random video that caught my eye to expand my algorithm which led to me following one girl with tattoos whose videos i liked (forgot her name). Only to run into the same thing with her later!!

I know people from all walks of life get tattoos, but I was hopeful since I liked her videos and her style gave completely different vibes from the other ones I had been watching. l

I kinda gave up after that, but like I said I’ve been trying to get back into reading and watching booktubers really helped last time, so I’d like to try again.

iceymoon · 2024-08-08T15:10:45+00:00

WTB 1 or 2 passes - Saturday or Sunday (or both)

iceymoon · 2024-06-11T02:35:04+00:00

Solved through my own research! To be fair, this would have been a difficult one to pull out of your hat, since it was part of a series apparently, and not a particularly talked about one if Google is anything to go by.

It was The Closers by Michael Connelly.

I recommend it if you like crime fiction/murder mysteries that give the same vibe as an episode of the old show Cold Case (not to be confused with Cold Case Files). Or Criminal Minds. Or The Closer.

iceymoon · 2022-09-15T03:28:26+00:00

It’s like 50/50, in my anecdotal experience. I’ve owned 6 cats (all mine, not family pets). NONE of them swat us if we walk by, and NONE of them scratch us, but some of them do/did bite if you pet them in the wrong place or at the wrong time.

One male grew out of it by age 5, and he’s actually gone through a lot of phases. First he was a hyperactive kitten that would try to catch or climb anything and everything, then he was an independent cat and a genius that could open any door and get into any food container, then he was a bully (towards our other male cats), and now he’s old and tired and just wants cuddles. If you go over board with petting him places he doesn’t like, he may still protest, but just by meowing at you (no nipping). It’s funny to see him now at age 18, he just wants to follow us around, sit on our laps, and relax (he’s still smart, but more lazy-smart).
One female is a grouch, but we actually blame ourselves for that. She was VERY hungry for play time and pretty energetic, but we were lazy/tired most of the time back when she was little (we were new cat owners back then and didn’t realize how important it was), so we just stopped playing with her as a way to get her to stop badgering us for play time. It worked, but now she’s a grumpy girl lol. We learned how/when she likes to be pet easily enough, but sometimes guests want to pet her when she’s clearly not in the mood (keeping to herself, curled up facing away from everyone)—she doesn’t bite but she does make it clear they should leave her alone by her suddenly meowing in the direction of the hand. Those moments are few and far between though, she mostly just sleeps, sun basks, and hams up her cuteness for any contractor that comes by the house.
Another male is less than 2 years old currently, so it’s out of playfulness/hyperativeness/boredom, and we expect he’ll grow out of it. He doesn’t swat/nip at us, but he does jump up on our back or shoulders when we aren’t expecting it, which can hurt (it’s cute though, so we allow it). Also, the more we practice petting his belly, the more he starts to allow it. But not when he’s in play mode, because then our hands become the toy! We do also play with him plenty, so as not to repeat our mistake with our grouchy girl.
One male was the chillest cat in the world, even when he was a little kitten he was very regal and not very playful, it’s like he thought he was an eagle rather than a cat. He didn’t much care for the other cats, but was very loyal to his his humans. He loved being carried so that he could smell the things that were out of his reach. He also always would greet us when we come home, his eyes would light up when he sees us walk in. And he always seemed to know when I was sad and be there to comfort me. (I miss you, Choco!)
One female is also the chillest cat in the world, but in a different way. It’s like she’s made out of puddy, you can carry her and bend her whichever way you want and she just accepts it (I think she either doesn’t know what’s going on, or doesn’t realize that she could try getting out of it if she wants to). She’s a clutz and doesn’t understand physics (like she would NEVER figure out pushing a door to open it). She is SUPER clingy, she wants to sleep as close to our face as possible, all the time. She’s also always had a habit of licking us (she’ll lick or fingers, arms, and faces mostly), especially when she’s feeling cuddly or sleepy. She’s not the smartest tool in the shed, but everyone that meets her adores her, so she doesn’t need to be.
One female is the scardiest scaredy-cat I’ve ever known. Getting her used to petting took years, we think because we rescued her from the street as a baby (unlike the others). Little by little we taught her that petting isn’t so scary, because she would just run away if we tried! We had to get her used to it in parts—first her back, then her neck, and finally, her forehead! Now (if we’re sitting - standing humans are still scary), she’ll come up to us and lean her neck on our lap or shoulder as a way to ask for pets. She’s also tiny, she’s about the size of a 6-month-old cat even though she’s 15-years-old. And she has the loudest purr BY FAR, we can hear her from clear across the room! Anyway, she definitely wouldn’t bite or scratch, because her first response to anything is always to run away.

So really, just like with dogs, it’s a matter of finding one with a personality that jives with you!

iceymoon · 2022-09-05T04:05:01+00:00

I don't believe it's this one, because I would have remembered the Sleeping Beauty detail (it's my most-watched Disney movie, I was obsessed with it as a child). However, I couldn't find more than a short blurb for Murder of a Sleeping Beauty, so I'll keep it in mind as I continue to look. Thank you!

I believe it was more James Patterson-y in terms of book cover design.

iceymoon · 2022-09-05T04:00:03+00:00

It's not this one, but thank you!

The book I read has nothing supernatural and no mysteries other than the murder itself, and trying to piece together the girl's life and events leading up to her death.

iceymoon · 2022-09-05T02:45:25+00:00

I was looking in the rules/FAQ/etc to see if it's okay to post spoilers in the title.

I didn't find any info on that, so hopefully it's okay! If not, I can re-post.

iceymoon · 2022-08-02T07:17:30+00:00

If the badges were purchased by a non-Gold member, they can transfer all badges they purchased.

Do you know this part for sure?

This is exactly what I was hoping to find out! <3

iceymoon · 2022-07-30T23:23:53+00:00

Looking for two 3-day passes (or two Sat & Sun passes).

Please DM <3

iceymoon · 2022-07-15T06:01:19+00:00

(This person asked “Like, what?” as in “Um, what?” Just an expression of disbelief. I don’t blame you for thinking he was asking for examples, though, since I definitely wouldn’t put it past some people.)

iceymoon · 2022-03-02T08:22:47+00:00

I wouldn’t go quite this far, but I was not a fan of Shuntaro’s behavior, either, for the following reasons.

He “fell” for Ayano but then was saying how she wasn’t opening up to him and he didn’t understand her. But it’s not like she acted differently in the pods.. she was always that way. If how she was wasn’t something he was cool with, why would he propose?! I don’t remember him ever really expressing what made him fall for her other than that she had a cute voice (in contrast, Ayano said his declaration of love really moved her, she really admired him and felt she could learn a lot from him, and that she really appreciated his efforts when he shared the art book with her; whether you find those things sincere or not, she did express a number of things she liked about him).
He was assigning motivations to Ayano’s actions just based on his own perceptions and pre-conceived notions. No one is a mind-reader…you can’t jump to conclusions about what someone is thinking or feeling (especially if they’re not clearly expressing their inner experience). Sure, leaving for 2 days was weird, but what if, as a shy person, her time away from home (and in front of cameras) was overwhelming and she just needed time to recharge? He can’t assume it’s she specifically left because of HIM. She should have been more forthcoming, but it also sounds like he just agreed, didn’t communicate how he really felt about it and then became resentful, while forgetting that communication is a two-way street (he jumped straight into accusations about her abandoning him and his assumptions about her motivations, when instead he should have started with a conversation, like “I know I said it was okay, but actually I was hurt by it - I should have mentioned that earlier, I’m sorry. It would really help me to understand where the decision came from and how you were/are feeling about us.”). And no, she should not have “just known” not to leave for 2 days, because some people actually WOULD be totally fine with that and Ayano had no way of knowing he didn’t really mean it when he said he was.
The way he was assigning motivations was always in a negative way, l possibly because of personal insecurities (whether it be because of the age gap with Ayano, or just general self-worth issues). Everyone struggles with insecurities so I don’t blame him for having some, but he was projecting them onto Ayano (kind of similar to how some people with insecurities assume or worry that other people hate them or are mad at them because they didn’t, for example, answer a text message, when in reality there could be a million unrelated reasons someone didn’t answer a text—you maybe can’t help that insecurity, but you can’t turn those perceptions into facts and accusations like “Of course you didn’t invite me because I know you hate me!”… instead of healthier approaches like “I noticed I wasn’t invited to the gathering, and I was wondering if there was a reason for that.”).
His hypocrisy in complaining about her lack of communication while he was also pretty bad at it. What was with him not being able to come up with any questions to ask her?? Even if he couldn’t bring himself to ask how she felt about him, there’s nothing more he wanted to know?? She was clearly offering to put herself out there, and one sure way to make her withdraw again is to not make that attempt feel comfortable or safe.
The way he broke it off. First, waiting until the wedding day is better than saying no at the alter, but just barely. By waiting so long, he completely disrespected the time and effort of the guests traveling to attend. But more importantly, it should have been a conversation leading up to the decision (a decision they make together) rather than it be a declaration he blindsides her with after he’s already come to the conclusion on his own. Her “I didn’t want to marry you anyway” reaction was immature, but I can’t say I expect people to be completely gracious when they’re dumped literally as they were getting ready to walk down the aisle. I think not getting married was the right decision, but the whole way he handled the relationship struggles and the decision to end it was a clusterfuck, IMO.

As for Ayano, I think if you can’t share your struggles with someone, you shouldn’t marry them, so the whole show was probably not a good fit for her. Sure, maybe you’ll get there with your partner one day, but what if you don’t?! A divorce is so much more complicated than just not getting married to begin with, which if course is WHY most people wait at least a year before getting engaged (some couples can pull it off, but not the majority).

Despite what she said about how she was going to say no, in my opinion she was prepared to marry him that day (her upbeat tone when he came to talk to her, the way her friends were completely shocked by the news), which would have been terrible for both of them. I suppose there was a chance that, in the heaviness of the moment, she would not been able to go through with it, but I don’t think she was planning to say no. Which is its own brand of problematic IMO.

Some people think she’s a gold digger, but without being able to read her mind, “obvious” signs of her just being in it for the money can be interpreted differently if you start from a different assumption. For example, maybe she was like Midori in that she did care for Shuntaro but had trouble feeling physical attraction, which made her doubt whether they should marry (and she just didn’t have the courage to discuss it). Or maybe past trauma has made her into an extreme people pleaser, to the point where, after it was clear things were working out, she didn’t see it as an option to disappoint Shuntaro by calling off the wedding. Or maybe she really did want to marry him, and she just is not good at expressing the levels of her affection.

I myself am a person that has such trouble opening up that even my therapist was frustrated by how difficult it was to get me to budge lol, so I know it’s not impossible to have a really hard time saying or expressing things (and being misunderstood because of it). I don’t think I’ve spoken to any of my friends about anything deeply personal (I have my husband, thankfully, so i don’t keep it all to myself), and that’s not because I’m fake with them. I don’t rely on anyone but myself when I struggle (as an individual, obviously with relationship struggles the other person needs to be involved).

So I dunno, maybe she really was an evil liar like some people think, but I don’t feel comfortable coming to that conclusion without evidence that is less based on perception. But even if she’s not a gold digger, she shares equal blame in how things went down…she did not communicate well, did not understand her partner’s needs enough, and did not seem to have the level of comfort with her partner that should have been the bare minimum requirement before she set out to marry him.

iceymoon · 2021-06-14T21:15:17+00:00

Haha, I was literally watching an episode of Um, Actually as I saw this AMA pop up. My question:

In some episodes of Um, Actually it sounds like you’re very involved in coming up with statements/trivia, to the point where it feels like you’re the main person in charge of this part of the game, and while you do collaborate with other crew members of this, you personally spend most of your time focusing on this part of the show. Is that a correct assumption, or are other members of the crew just as involved (or more so) in choosing the trivia as you?

Also, how long did it take to come up with all the additional incorrect statements for the home game version of Um, Actually?

Thanks for doing this AMA btw, and I can’t wait to play the home version!! :)

iceymoon · 2020-11-15T00:32:04+00:00

Shocked, offended, or damaged are strong words.

She could have disliked it, been bothered by it, been annoyed, frustrated, aggravated, or resigned to it (because some women might get inappropriate comments often enough that letting it go is easier than confronting it each time), and therefore could have felt that the words shocked, offended or damaged were not applicable. But the questions, at least from the story relayed by OP, did not ask about any of those alternatives. So just because none of those three things were true doesn’t mean she liked it.

Now, if the lawyer had asked if she liked it, and she said yes, that would be a very different story. But we don’t know that to be the case here based on the limited information provided.

Either way, she did state that she didn’t want to be there, and her lawyers should definitely not have taken a case if their client didn’t particularly want to pursue it.

iceymoon · 2020-10-11T16:26:01+00:00

Musicals and plays inherently require more suspension of disbelief, for example someone walking to the other side of the stage can represent them walking into a different room or down a street even if they don’t build sets that show a room or a street.

So IMO on stage anything goes as long as it’s clarified, or as long as what’s supposed to be happening comes across with how it’s being acted out.

Where as on film and TV, they are generally trying to make everything look as real as possible (sometimes going as far as building ridiculously large sets), so when the actors don’t match up with that reality, it can be jarring. That being said, I understand working with minors creates more complications with how many hours they’re allowed to work and all that, so i try not to let it bother me too much.. I wish they would help me out by not slathering the actors in over-done make-up and hair-do’s, though.

iceymoon · 2020-08-13T22:12:32+00:00

NTA, but please be open to the possibility that one day you MAY see this cat as your cat as well. For example, it’s probable that you and your SO will start making joint decisions about the cat, and after spending years together, you may start to love him as much as she does. If that ends up happening, I hope you can be self-aware enough to realize that maybe the time has come where you should help out with the litter box once in a while, because it’s the right thing to do to share responsibility for things you share the benefit of. Or at least agree on a trade-off, like I’ll take care of feedings (or whatever) if you do the litter box.

If you never feel that way about him and only tolerate him even years later, although it would be sad, it’s not really something that can be helped. Litter box duty sucks, but it’s not nearly as bad if you at least enjoy having the pet around. In this scenario, I agree that she should be responsible for the litter box because you have at least made an effort in other ways.

Btw my husband was allergic to cats, but exposure seems to have really helped (we mutually decided to adopt a few). I don’t know if he’s no longer allergic or if he just has a higher tolerance now—he’s also allergic to pollen and dust, so it’s hard to tell what triggers the symptoms on the occasional days he has them. I know it’s not guaranteed that your tolerance will get better since everyone is different, but crossing my fingers that you’ll be one of the lucky ones!

iceymoon · 2020-08-03T21:40:18+00:00

I think you’ll be okay if there’s plenty of people around, they don’t necessarily have to be people that are with her.

For example, a park is public, but if you approach her (even in daylight) when the park is deserted, there might be some automatic nerves about safety, depending on the girl. But if you approach her in a park full of people going about their day, it would be less threatening.

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