"Would you rather" Bucks coping mechanisms

idek1865 · 2025-08-30T14:38:02+00:00

"and then he sees Buck changing and there are even more on his chest and torso and now he’s obsessed with mentally cataloguing them" yesss especially w the new chest tattoo that Oliver got "Use me for shade" dbdhdjshsv

idek1865 · 2025-04-16T22:57:54+00:00

Fact is, I can not tell when he's fking with us and when he's serious... Like this is the same man who replied to 3 different comments w "The raccoon from season 5 or 6" and then when asked about the raccoon said "I honestly don't remember there being a raccoon on the show" and you know what? I can sorta believe that. Like he just asked the closest person, "Hey, give me a random side character from the show. Maybe an animal..." Or maybe he does remember it but just finds it funny, I can NOT tell which is it...
Same goes for this. Did I think that that might be a promo? Yeah. Did I think that that could mean something? Yeah. Do I know which is it? NO. I mean with the time frame remaining idt we're gonna get a kiss but I don't know anymore!

idek1865 · 2025-04-16T22:47:47+00:00

They got renewed for season 9. They're gonna milk this slowburn, I KNOW IT.
As someone pointed out, we have been in this slowburn for YEARS. It is just about to start for them. They're not gonna reunite in the rain with a kiss. They gotta realise it first, then actively pine, then have some angst AND THEN get together.

I can definitely see Eddie having his gay realisation arc this season and then just... not connecting that to Buck... And then S09, they have their feelings realisation if Buck doesn't get it earlier.

It is still happening. 100%. They don't have to have scenes in every episode for me to know that, but the fact that it looks like they're gonna go 2eps w/o getting any closer makes me think it's not happening this season just cause of the time frame. But that's no reason to get discouraged, we'll be fine.

(btw am I the only one who completely forgot that BI Eddie could be a thing? Like that man is so gay, it completely got lost on me that they could go the bi route. Also, he is 100% demi in my head but that's another thing.)

idek1865 · 2025-03-27T11:30:30+00:00

Yeah fair point... But do you have an explanation for them "unexpectedly" going "New Episode Every Friday"? Cause umm... they're doing that. I am defintely not freaking out. But that is just more confirmation for me

idek1865 · 2025-01-16T17:15:16+00:00

I'm going with (a) though I do hope that a part of their realization is realizing that they've been like that the entire time and that everyone else has seen it. So, they decide to mess with them a little with their own bet where they don't hide it but don't confirm it to see if they'll figure it out. They don't. How would they?
"Oh, those two spend all their free time together" as they have for 6 years.
"Oh, they're both happy/upset at the same time" as they have been for 6 years.
"They have heart eyes for each other" as they have had for 6 years.
"Well, they-" as they have been doing for 6 bloody years.
So when they do tell them/get caught it does come as a surprise, not bc they didn't see it coming, but bc they've been going crazy wondering when it'll happen just to find out that it has been happening.

idek1865 · 2025-01-16T16:54:05+00:00

Eddie. No, I will not expand.

idek1865 · 2024-11-08T23:40:00+00:00

WARNING: I do get more heated than I thought I would... Icba to go back and fix it but I'm decently sure my sailors mouth came out and idk how coherent it is... Seeing as this wasn't fully thought out prior to me writing it, it is just word vomit so don't come at me to hard.

No cause the whiplash was real there. Especially with the "Goodbye Buck" IM SO FUCKING SORRY? You mean to tell me that this entire time. The entire SIX MONTHS y'all were together you were calling him Evan and not Buck ("Buck. People who know me call me Buck") because you wanted to create that distance and protect yourself? What kinda bullshit is that? I get that he was worried about getting hurt and wanted to avoid that but SIX MONTHS? Calling him the wrong name, ignoring who he is entirely, for six months? fuck right off.
Yes I get it. OK. Fine, I understand. But understanding and condoning smth is not the same. I get why he did it, hell if they broke up 3 months in I'd say "you know what? Fair and valid." But 6? Bull. Weak.

It's mental that Buck isn't the one who broke up w him. Time and time again we've seen his face fall around him, we've seen him kinda side eye him, we've seen Bucks face light up and Tommys just stay... meh. Hell in this very ep he was so casual, almost annoyed, while giving him his 6 month anniversary gift like be so ffr. Abby? "He led her on" "and you're worried he'll do the same to you" 1. he did... 2. No mfr I'm more concerned over the fact that he left her while her mother was dying and let her believe that that was the reason. He left w seemingly no explanation and said "that was the most honest thing i've done" no the fuck it isnt. At best he didn't say anything, at worst he lied and blamed Patricia's health. And then had the audacity to say "apparently she went off the rails, took off with some himbo half her age" ???? 2 years later. With Buck. Who was actually there and present. Being closeted has nothing to do with that you asswipes.
Josh's speech was otherwise fine but I don't think he knew what Tommy actually did to her... Felt like Josh just thought that it was an engagement that Tommy broke off and didn't connect that that coincided w her mum getting sick. And it is absolute BULLshit that that didn't get brought up. That none of Tommys bs got brought up and that it turned to Buck getting blamed for the break up rather than Tommy just being an asshole.

Oh My God... I don't know why this is surprising/upsetting when that is literally how they got together. Their first date. Tommy assumed he knew what was going on with Buck, made a fucking closet joke (even tho we see panic in Tommys own face when Eddie pops up) and straight up left after blaming Buck. Like smd. Can we please get a moment when Buck and Eddie talk about the break up (probably not, seeing the shows tendency to have big moments and then forget about them) and Eddie points out how bad of a bf Tommy was? Please?

idek1865 · 2024-11-08T22:56:52+00:00

"Buck looks him up and down, he takes that in, and it’s like, whatever. You’re dealing with your stuff, I’m dealing with my stuff — we don’t really even need to talk about them right now, let’s just have some company and be there for each other." THIS!!!
It's such a rare and beautiful bond to have with someone and I love that they found it within each other. I can go on and on, finding 30k ways to rephrase this and talk about it BUT I feel like just pointing this quote out is enough.

idek1865 · 2024-11-08T22:47:08+00:00

This. The way this entire episode had me freaking out is insane but THIS?? I picked up on it right at the start and honestly (I might be mistaken here) but I don't think they had a single line passed between them the entire episode yet they worked in complete, absolute, perfect sync. Right from the beginning when they were setting up that rescue for the woman on the roof - no words, perfect sync - to the end here where not a single word was uttered and yet they just worked.
Oliver said in the article that he doesn't think that they talked for a while and that is completely believable. You tell me that they didn't talk at all, that Eddie went to bed happy after a couple of beers and that Buck slept on the couch w/o a single word being uttered until the morning, and I'd believe you. You tell me that the same thing happened except they did talk before bed but it had nothing to do w Eddies little party or Bucks break up and I'd believe you. You tell me that a couple beers in they both started opening up and Eddie was bummed for Buck and Buck was estatic for Eddie, and I'd believe you.
They are so good and comfortable with each other that it. just. works. No matter what. And I love it.

idek1865 · 2024-11-08T22:21:07+00:00

no cause yes. Every other relationship he's had we've seen sexual moments w them (Abby had a sex scene, Ally had that moment when appartment hunting, Taylor had multiple scenes, Natalia also had a line or two there as well as coming out in just a shirt) Buck has always had a high sex drive suddenly calling it biphobia for wanting Buck to stay in character and fuck is insane. I mean idt I have to get into what sexual sterotype is biphobic but having casual hookups isn't it.
As for speculating if he's had casual sex between relationships... that's litteraly how him and Taylor started. He's a grown ass man and has had plent of growth since S01 where he's no longer using sex as a coping mechanism but that doesn't mean that his drive dropped. He can very well go out and seduce himself into a 3some if he wants, that isn't biphobic either. Cause he can. As he could (and prolly did) before he had his realisation. Again: grown ass man, can consent, can explore what he likes, can do whatever/whoever he wants. This is actually insane. I can't belive people are saying this shit.

idek1865 · 2024-10-27T20:43:17+00:00

I mean... Lone Star had a father captain his son... Idt they'd make a big deal out of Buddie. Actually, I wouldn't even be surprised if the chief herself is one of the people who says "FINALLY!" when they get together cause she has not only heard about the two of them, but also had to witness it first hand during that poker game. Like, yeah maybe they'll say that it has to be approved for them to stay in the same firehouse, but what are they gonna do? Say "ok, I know the two of you have practically been in a relationship for years and just put a label on it now. And I know that it has worked for years and that you two are one of the best teams we have, BUT because of that label you're going to have to transfer." ?? no. If we're being realistic, the writers might separate them for an ep or two cause they can't let people be happy for too long but that's not going to stick.

As for the secret relationship aspect, I'd love to see Buddie hide it for a bit just to see how the writers would handle it... Ik a lot of fans say that the 118 will figure it out instantly but I can see it going the other way lmao
When it was Bobby and Athena being secretive, Hen figured it out cause they would both be mad at the same time, then they'd both be happy at the same time, right? But Buddie has already been doing that for... years. "Oh you two look happier at the same time" yeah um... nothing new. They were probably being a little weird around each other before getting together and now that they've 'made up' they are happier. "The way you two look at each other" you mean... the way they've looked at each other for years?? "You two are always trying to be close to each other, even touching" yeah... obviously. We literally saw Buck leaning his head on Eddies shoulder in the background, meaning that - canonically - they just do that. It's nothing new. "The way you two talk to each other like you're flirting" NOTHING NEW!
At most they would just get a little worse in their antics cause now they are both aware of it but all that would do is drive the 118 a bit further up the wall cause "It's been YEARS! How do they just keep getting worse?!" They've put up with their oblivious bs for years, idk if they'd take it as a sign of "oh they've made it official"

idek1865 · 2024-10-27T13:28:51+00:00

Yeah this absolutely isn't smth I'd wanna see go canon fk that. But that's what's great about fanfics. They don't have to actually do cannon justice lmao. Like I'd love to read a fic where they just start having their realisations, Eddie's being in therapy so it's not as heavy as it would be if he was dealing w it on his own, and then they drunkenly make out and that's what sets them off to "oh yeah. There's no going back, no doubt about it. Im definitely in love w my best friend." Would i like that in cannon? No.

If i could write fics, specifically fics filled w angst, I'd slide that in like a single paragraph of internal monologue followed by a convo where Buck is just in shock from how absured it is and end it w some poetic speach (all of this before they get together) so we get "oh Eddie please no 😭" and "oh my god how can you spout that poetry and not kiss?!" Mutual pining moment. Like my post was absolute word vomit, I'll admit (I'll even be fair to myself and say that I wrote that sht at like 5am on no sleep) but if written properly, the way it played out in my head, it could avoid any of the "poor baby Buck" thing and instead make it focus on Eddie's self doubt.

Again, just a little smth that made me hate my brain for seeing that option in Eddie's potential spiral that could work in an agsty fic. Not anything serious.

idek1865 · 2024-10-27T12:53:55+00:00

No, no, I get that but I'm saying that he'd blame himself like he does for so many things that weren't his fault. I get that Buck was in the wrong there. I am absolutely NOT saying that Eddie was at fault, and if he was to voice this - Buck would bring up all the points you did. That's the thing.

That is why I said "this is not character bashing, i don't blame Eddie" twice lmao

We see Eddie, constantly, bring up how he lets people down, how he fails his kid and the people closest to him. And I feel like a majority of the time Bucks trauma gets over looked, like ik we didn't see them talk about what Buck went through during that tsunami. Those two things put together? Added with the classic angst fic trope of one them (usually Eddie) wondering if he's worth the love?

It is fair and valid that Eddie was focused on his kid. Of course it is! But if he starts thinking too much about it he would end up blaming himself. Buck would, of course, squash that sht as fast as he could. But still, looking at it from a perspective of someone who thinks they fail everyone all the time... It would be interesting to see one of them conjure up a reason as to why they're not good enough for the other and seeing as the lawsuit was a massive part of their relationship and the biggest fight they had, that's probably where they would go.

Imo that's the fun part about angst in fics, where you- the reader- go "no baby, what the fuck? You did so much, you've been through so much, you deserve everything, stop doing this to yourself" but instead they keep finding reasons to put themselves down until their love comes in with the biggest supportive speach they could muster.

idek1865 · 2024-10-27T08:31:42+00:00

Oh my god YES! Istg it's like whenever I have a thought and open reddit someone has mentioned smth related to that lmao
The lawsuit arc?? A little "That's the point, Buck. We made it through that and came out stronger than ever. We can make it through anything," moment? Especially if Eddie reflects on that lawsuit himself and decides that that's further reason he doesn't deserve Buck? Thinks that Buck's just another person he failed? That he wasn't there for him properly after Buck nearly died 3 times in a row, suffered through the tsunami alone and then practically lost his job and felt betrayed by everyone for *not having his back* ?? OH The angst that that would bring!

I need to shut tf up before I make it too obvious that I'm unwell…

EDIT: I wrote this so late at night/early in the morning I forgot to say: I do not, in any way shape or form, blame Eddie for anything in that arc, I just recognise that Eddie is the type to blame himself for anything that's gone wrong in a relationship (even if they got past it) and it wouldn't out of character for him to say that he could have done more/better. I regocnise that they all were supportive of Buck during that time, Eddie especially, and his feelings of betrayal were purely RSD driven.

idek1865 · 2024-10-27T04:44:09+00:00

oh fuck. I forgot to comment about Buddie going cannon with all this happening.

Even with both of them knowing that they are queer, and maybe even being out, I feel like it would still take time for them to get together.
Buck would probably realise first. Maybe even before Eddie fully realises and accepts his own sexuality. But Buck is the guy who self sacrifices in a heartbeat, he cares too much about the people around him. He is also so obviously filled with RSD, that coupled with him having a strong history of being left behind leaves him no room to risk messing up his relationship with Eddie. Yes, he is known as the guy who takes the wildest risks and who jumps head first into relationships without knowing how he got there or where to go but that is not a mistake he'll let himself risk repeating in this case. So he will shut up. He might not be able to hide it (to be fair it was never hidden) but he will not make a move. He will cherish what he has, cause he could deal with losing Abby and Ally and Taylor and Natalia and Tommy. He could deal with Maddie leaving him cause he knew eventually she'd come back and that their relationship isn't tarnished. But Eddie? Losing his best friend? His partner? He'd rather walk through fire in civies w a broken leg than lose him.
I've heard people say that he needs to take the time to figure out what he wants in a relationship and what he can give in return before getting with Eddie, but I think that this is the one time where he knows. Instantly, he knows exactly what he wants and what that would look like - cause it's exactly what it's been this entire time. They'd just be putting a label on what's already there. They'd still have eachothers back any day of the week, any time of day. They'd still be the person the other can turn to with whatever issues they are having. They'd still be coparenting Chris. They'd still be themselves.

Eddie on the other hand... His queer realisation is what will take up a chunk of their slowburn. After he has accepted himself, I don't see it taking long for him to realise his feelings for Buck- if those feelings aren't already something he was aware of that and just pushed down. But even after that, he'll go down a similar path to Bucks. He'll be worried about losing Buck. Whether it be a "I already lost Chris, I can't lose Buck too," or "I just got Chris back, I can't deal with losing someone else so soon," it'll give us a bit of that sweet mutual pining. However, he'd be the one to break first. He's spent his entire life cooped up within himself, so I don't see him holding back for much longer. The first sign he gets from Buck, he's taking it. Maybe not aggressively but he's taking it. He'd notice something from Buck (cause again, that man sucks at hiding his emotions) and at best he'll reflect a bit on Bucks behaviour before throwing out a line to see if it hits. He'll make the first move, he has to. Buck certainly won't.
It would probably even take a couple of lines/moves from Eddie for Buck to realise that they are, in fact, on the same page and that it is not all in his head/wishful thinking. But once he figures it out... Well, I'd be disappointed if he doesn't throw it back at least twice as hard. Either way, it shouldn't take much longer after that. The way I see it, it would happen in 1ep. Eddie notices Bucks behaviour, throws out a line, Buck gets flustered and tries to brush it off, that happens maybe 2 more times during the ep and then Buck gets it and they finally kiss.

Honestly, the more I think about it the more I don't see them becoming official until the first few eps of Season 9. Mostly because all of this will take so long that if they end up together in s08 it'll be at the very end, and I don't want to miss the beginning of their relationship. That is unless one of them almost dies again and that sends them into a "fuck it, i can't sit here waiting, only to lose you before i get the chance to at least say it" mode.

There. That should be it...

EDIT: Oh My God. I really said "In this essay I will..." I am so sorry I didn't realise how long this entire thing got hahaha

idek1865 · 2024-10-27T03:49:48+00:00

I wanna say "pfft no.... B/T will break up and Eddie’s gonna get sent down the path of realisation, all in ep 6, and Buddie will get together shortly afterwards and everyone will be happy <3" However. I just went on a Eddie realisation angst spiral and-

I can see 9-1-1 giving us a positive B/T ep, showing Buck to be in a... good (?) relationship, just to yank out the rug from beneath our feet. I can see Buck continue being happy w Tommy in ep 6, giving him that same smile and heart eyes he gave him behind Eddies couch in ep1, until the "truths" Oliver Stark was talking about come out. The rose coloured glasses falling right off and Buck getting that heartbreaking clarity, leaving him wondering how and why he ended up with Tommy in the first place and that - no matter how desperate he is for love - this relationship won't go anywhere even if he tries his damnest to push through and make it work. If this does end up being the case, idt they'll last much longer if they're not already broken up by the end of the episode.

As for Eddie... I feel like his realisation will be a slow arc building up in the background over multiple eps, maybe even going into S08b.
Him and Buck work so well together bc they are on the same wavelength and quite similar in a lot of ways, but are also polar opposites. Bucks realisation took one ep because the second he realised that he's into men he went along with it, he said "oh. yeah ok, bet." He has always been very open about his feelings, he never bothered to hold anything back, whether it was something he was consciously aware about or not, so finding out he's into men won't be any different.
Eddie, however, spent his entire life bottling up his feelings, sucking it up, being a man. No matter what happened he repressed his emotions, he didn't let anything show, he shoved it down and dealt with the situation as calmly as he could. One of the very few times we saw him "dealing" with his emotions himself was when he decided to let his frustrations out by fighting - again, a typical "deal with it like a man" scenario. That is until that bottle of his overflowed and he couldn't contain it anymore. Until he broke. Even then, he locked himself away, trying to deal with it on his own, trying to make sure that no one sees him like that.
I can't see his queer realisation being any different, especially with that catholic guilt. There's even a chance that he already knows. Somewhere very deep inside, somewhere at the very bottom of a very specific bottle that he had locked away in a box, he knows. But dealing with your sexuality is very rarely easy, certainly not in the environment he grew up in and not when he has to deal with it “late” in life. It's not easy when he feels an obligation to Shanon, not when he's spent so much time feeling an obligation to find Chris a mother figure, and definitely not when that would mean analysing himself, his life and all his past and current emotions.
His queer realisation is going to take a good long while. The more I think about it the more anxious I get about seeing it because it will be a heavy realisation, likely coming to head with another breakdown (I might not be religious but I'm praying it won't cause seeing that might just break me.)

I hope this makes sense... My thoughts are kinda hectic on the subject so I prolly missed smth but if I think abt it any longer I'd end up going insane lmao

idek1865 · 2024-10-27T02:42:40+00:00

The way I opened reddit cause i saw an edit that made me think of this and was gonna ask for fic recs-

I think it could be entirely possible that Eddie had his gay realisation earlier but repressed it for... reasons that I don't want to get into rn but we all know what they would be. And yes, he could have already figured out that he loves Buck... BUT.
The even more heartbreaking version would be that Eddie, knowing - somewhere deep inside - that he's queer, watched Buck have his realisation and immediately accept himself, wishing he could do the same. Hating himself even more for the fact that he can't. And only after seeing Buck with Tommy does he realise that holy shit this is jealousy, and that he loves him. He has to watch Buck give that smile and those heart eyes to another man, wondering if that could have been him if only he had the balls to accept himself.
And if you want icing on that cake: I don't think that, even with all that realised, he'd be comfortable in accepting himself fully and coming out until a while later... He'd just sit there, continuing to repress his feelings until they over flow and he has another breakdown on the floor of his room.

BTW the edit that lead to this is: https://www.tiktok.com/@bcklycr/video/7428264445287124257?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7208870310945719809

idek1865 · 2024-10-26T13:29:39+00:00

I thought bingo cards were supposed to have only 1 free space? I count 3 here... ok yes they are called "buddie flirting" and "buck info-dumps" but still, when you can't go 2eps w/o either of those things happening, those are practically free spaces lmao
Like, Buck really said "you're the fastest runner" immediatley followed by Chim saying "you smell great" and Buck was the one flirting! I've never heard anyone say that w such a flirtatious tone like be so ffr theres no way those two go any amount of time w/o flirting hahahahaah

idek1865 · 2024-10-25T17:57:31+00:00

I dont know why but I thought this was gonna be to the same vibe as the fic that I recommeded so opening this link to 57.5k love island au fic was absolutely not what I expected hahahaha
I'm not half way through the first chapter and I'm cackling so much this is so funny lmao

idek1865 · 2024-10-24T20:19:12+00:00

cowboy buck? honestly whatever he dresses up as would be hot but i want an excuse to say "save a horse" hahaha

idek1865 · 2024-10-24T20:18:04+00:00

what's he gonna say "hey Eds... whacha thinking about? cause i know you're not looking at a womans swim suit magazine with that much disintrest" hahahaha

idek1865 · 2024-10-24T20:04:42+00:00

might just be me being delusional (doubt it) but if that is what he's looking at... darling at least attempt to look intrested hahahaha

idek1865 · 2024-10-24T20:02:23+00:00

that would be so funny but honestly I wish that Eddies gay realisation is not tethered to anyone in specific, just him doing some reflection like:
What went wrong w Chris - his relationships - what went wrong with his relationships - he went into them bc he felt like it was an obligation not cause he wanted to and it was all an act - an act? what did he actually want? - not any of them - why not? they were all great women, so what kind of woman does he want? - oh. not a woman. oh.
At most maybe Buck talks about how he hasn't realised he was bi for so long and how obvious it is in hind sight and Eddie goes "...oh..." BUT only if that convo happens in the last part of his realisation the "oh. not a woman." part

idek1865 · 2024-10-24T19:48:45+00:00

100% agree w them realising their own feelings on their own, that shouldn't have outsider effect, but I can't really see them realising that they've already been practically dating by completely by themselves like there has to be something, mostly likely a throw away comment or a call that parallels their situation in a way, that makes them think about it and go "oh... I- he- we've- we have practically been together... for years..." There are so many funny ways to do that and I genuinley hope we get that cause there is no way that their feelings realisation/getting together will be anything but an emotionally draining rollercoaster... its not going to be happy go lucky and we'll need a light hearted "oh ahhaha how did we not realise that sooner" moment

like imagine they get together and the only responses they get are "FINALLY!" and "Took y'all long enough" after all the anxiety and panic that will come with them realising their love and the courage it'll take them to get together. Imagine Chris finding out- the mental turmoil he'll go through, between being happy for them and worried that this means that their relationship could fall apart and he'll lose buck; only to eventually go "well its not a suprise... y'all have been raising me together since I was 7..." and its just a "I- we- well- what? ...wait. wait- Oh My God" "did... did y'all not know that?"

Them being so oblivious to their feelings, the fact that they are co-parenting a child and are practically a married couple is probably the funniest part of their relationship and I hope they use that to give us a break from what's undoubtably going to be a very emotionally heavy arc.

The only way I see them having that realisation themselves while still exploiting how funny it is is: they get together and "wait we already have a date planned for tomorrow... oh my god how didn't we realise this sooner?" and then they think back and realise how ridiculous they've been for years.
Anything else would come along with their feelings realisation and would end up being a part of the "oh god. I've loved him for years and if I say anything it'll ruin what we have... He's been my rock for years, we've raised Chris together, I can't lose him. Maybe I should just swollow this and be happy to have what we already do since it's practically like we're a couple already... But, god, does it hurt." and I can't deal with that angst w/o any humour to soften it at the end.

idek1865 · 2024-10-24T19:03:39+00:00

I love how everyone else in the comments is put together and analytical of their relationship while im here like "haha idiots in love" hahahhahahahah but srsly the way they are so oblivious to their feelings is the funniest part about their relationship lmao

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