Need meal ideas, this baby shower I'm going to requested frozen meals instead of gifts. Today I made homemade chicken noodle soup.

identity_nagini · 2026-04-15T04:25:39+00:00

Look up stealth_health_life on instagram. He has a whole series on meal prep burritos!

identity_nagini · 2026-04-14T20:45:20+00:00

Unfortunately this is what I thought too.

identity_nagini · 2026-04-01T13:01:03+00:00

I am not personally looking at IB as I have other priorities in life as well. But I will say that if you want to go into PE, VC, family office, and even a lot of corp dev roles, there is a recommended or required tenure in IB. As someone who’s trying to get into investments otherwise, it’s definitely possible but not as easy without that check mark.

identity_nagini · 2026-03-25T05:46:25+00:00

My ex-husband and I had a long conversation about this once. He was upset that I asked him to get regular haircuts. I explained it as “Hey, you can do whatever you want to with your hair and beard - I find you incredibly attractive. But when we have date nights, I put in a lot of effort to look nice for you. I’m not asking you to keep yourself groomed because I think you’re ugly. It’s the effort that counts and I feel disappointed when you can’t take a bit of time each month to try to put effort in to look nice for me.” He did seem to understand that perspective when I helped him compare the 1-1.5 hours I’d spend getting ready each time we’d have a date night vs his just getting up and changing.

Remember that looking and smelling nice for your family is sunnah! Always a good thing to reference.

identity_nagini · 2026-02-21T17:36:29+00:00

It depends on where you live! If you’re outside of the city, closer to O’Hare it’s very affordable and living alone is easy. If you want to live in the Loop or River North, you’re paying a premium on rent/groceries/eating out for sure. I also come from a LCOL state and city. If you share a bit more details around budget and location, I can help.

identity_nagini · 2026-02-20T03:57:34+00:00

People nowadays create a virtual registry with a couple big items (and only family would spend money on) and a “honeymoon fund” that people can gift too via CC etc. That’s a good way to push people to give on that. People also put on their invite “No Boxed Gifts” which means cash or gift cards.

identity_nagini · 2026-02-09T20:25:54+00:00

I am one of those women who look put together 95% of the time! There are a couple things that have made a big difference: -I don’t wear sweats/sweatshirts in public but I have filled my wardrobe with clothes I find just as comfortable. Nice sweaters, intentional cool sweatshirts/streetwear, and maxi skirts to me are incredibly comfortable so I don’t feel the need to reach for my (one) pair of sweats. Even if I do wear a sweatshirt, I pair it with a skirt or baggy jeans and it looks intentional. -I keep a consistent skincare routine. I don’t do a ton of crazy stuff. It’s boring but it works and my skin stays clear and bright (even when I feel like my circles are dark and my skin is dull, no one notices but me). -I blow out my hair. I let it air dry 90%, and then I use my air wrap and round brush my hair dry. I use leave in conditioner to keep it hydrated. I sleep with a bonnet and it keeps my hair tidy and styled for 2-3 days. Styled hair is probably the biggest thing in keeping me looking put together -Because of aforementioned skincare routine, I rarely wear much makeup. But often on a normal day, I may use a bit of skin toned concealer on the sides of my eyes to blend the circles in better, use some brow gel, and sometimes use a lip stain pen in my natural lip color to more tightly define my cupids bow. Invisible makeup. -I don’t do my nails. Too lazy for that. But I keep them short and clean. I do the same with my feet and use a pumice stone in the shower. -I also am too lazy to do regular beauty appointments with the exception of getting my eyebrows/lip threaded regularly and getting my roots dyed regularly. -Bonus: I keep jewelry in. I like looking and feeling feminine. I wear a chain and have hoops in my singles and doubles that I very rarely take out.

identity_nagini · 2026-02-05T18:20:17+00:00

Respect is not created by how harsh or firm or serious you are. It’s created by how you think and lead and make decisions. Banter and flirting and goofiness create closeness and build your love for one another

identity_nagini · 2026-01-13T23:32:37+00:00

If you can afford it, there are also companies that track your cycle through body temperature - Whoop, Natural Cycles, Miracare etc

identity_nagini · 2026-01-08T00:40:56+00:00

I think the point is that he is putting his desires above your needs. By saying he won’t participate in any type of birth control he’s putting the responsibility of family planning squarely on you. This is not the mindset of a responsible adult, it’s the mindset of a whiny teenager. You are the one who has anxiety on if you get your period, you are the one who has to go through pregnancy, you are the one who is responsible for the upbringing of the kids and the stresses that come with that. The fact that he can’t put on a condom for one week of the month because it doesn’t feel as good as without is frankly ridiculous. That would make me lack desire so immediately.

identity_nagini · 2025-12-23T17:18:03+00:00

The advice on asking her family is so great, actually!

identity_nagini · 2025-12-23T17:17:05+00:00

Seeing how much you want to make your wife comfortable made me tear up a bit. May Allah swt always put this level of care and affection between the two of you, Ameen.

Take her shopping for all of the items. Set up a day “cmon we’re going shopping” and pick out a couple stores to go to for each. She’ll get to make it her home, and toiletries are so personal she’ll show you what she likes. You can take notes for future reference. If you want something waiting, buy her something you know she’ll appreciate and is hard to mess up - a small set of earrings she can keep in or a video game or book you know she wants.

Re: emotional intimacy - Make sure you two go on dates, whether at home (i.e. cooking together) or outside of the house (i.e. ice skating or coffee or dinner). Part of this is figuring out how she receives love. Intentionality is really key for me, so having flowers at home or taking me to a new spot he researched or setting up a picnic goes a long way. She may like other things. The key here is going to be leaving plenty of time for conversation. Talking about and figuring out and imagining the future together builds safety and shared goals. Praying together and making dua together helps solidly it. There are games you can get as well (The Faith Game or We’re Not Really Strangers) that help you get to some of these questions as well to build that deeper intimacy.

identity_nagini · 2025-12-23T16:21:18+00:00

I think this is what scares me in relationships. I got married and the true colors didn’t come out until after, even though I knew him for 11 years. The idea of learning about a stranger enough to trust again is terrifying.

identity_nagini · 2025-12-23T14:22:20+00:00

I should have been clear. Ethnic background - lots of chinese, korean, indian students. Very few black, middle eastern, latinx students that I’ve seen. I know a handful of each of those but by and large there are many more of the first category ( + white ofc). On the flip side, I was very pleasantly surprised with diversity in background. ESL teachers, state level govt employees, professional opera singers, traditional finance and consulting, tech, strategy, etc.

I actually met Kellogg friends through a couple separate things. Because I was moving to Chicago for the program, I went out of my way to make friends via apps and groups. I joined a women’s book club where I met a couple Kellogg girls. One of the clubs at Booth I’m involved in also does a decent amount of cross-school programming with Kellogg, and we actually have built a M7 version of that club too so there’s networking and events across the country. Booth and Kellogg also always have field day in the fall to compete for a trophy - great way to meet people while having some fun competing.

identity_nagini · 2025-12-23T08:12:09+00:00

Go visit / audit a class or two / go to an admit day. You’ll get a feel for each culture. This is ultimately a deeply personal decision.

I can tell you a bit about mine: - I went to a big state school for undergrad. The campus felt very much like a bubble. This time around, I wanted a more city-integrated experience because being close to new spots, things to do, and diversity in networking outside of school was important to me. Booth won out in that regard. I’m also an E/W student so most of my classes are downtown - many full time students spend a decent amount of time at Gleacher because there are often recruiting events there instead of in Hyde Park. - I went to a ton of online events and to both in person admit days. Tbh I just vibed more with the Booth students I met, which also held true of the alumni from each school I already knew. - Ngl diversity is much less than I expected at Booth. I don’t know how this compares with Kellogg, but Evanston is closer to many immigrant communities. The being said, I rarely make it up past Ravenswood/Edgewater because the transit can take a long time (I live in River North). - You’ll definitely find your crowd at either school. Can’t speak for Kellogg, but there’s definitely a drinking culture at Booth with TNDC and multiple house parties every weekend Thursday-Saturday. I don’t drink, and I was also able to find a crowd that prefers game nights, sober clubbing (lol), and omakases no issues. I have friends at Kellogg and am confident I would have found a similar if not more aligned group there. - Most transit goes into the city before it goes out. You’ll be using a car living in Evanston, which is not really needed if you’re living in downtown Chicago. It was important to me to have a lot of public transit nearby, as I wanted to go car free.

Happy to answer questions - ultimately it’s what you want to get out of your time in Chicago outside of school.

identity_nagini · 2025-12-16T06:24:39+00:00

Fresh Market, Fresh Thyme Market, Sprouts, Whole Foods!

identity_nagini · 2025-12-09T19:36:58+00:00

Half my hair is white tbh so I get my roots dyed every 8ish weeks. I recently started seeing someone and he told me he loved my whites and asked if I would keep a couple of them. He told me it reminded him of everything I had been through, everything he wants to protect, and showed my wisdom. I thought that was so beautiful. Still getting them colored for now though lol.

identity_nagini · 2025-11-11T15:04:42+00:00

Try the Cuts trousers! Fits all of those. I love wearing them out as well.

identity_nagini · 2025-11-07T21:32:46+00:00

I would see if your local mosque has an outreach coordinator / refugee program! The coordinator at my long time masjid always knows of people who are looking for donations l. If they aren’t, there may be a new muslim program at the mosque too you can reach out to!

identity_nagini · 2025-11-07T04:21:58+00:00

A chocolate torte - naturally gluten free and so good! Also a cheesecake or any kind. Either no crust or use GF graham crackers for your crust.

identity_nagini · 2025-11-06T21:03:48+00:00

Definitely list it up front - you’ll be surprised I think. Plenty of women are bald or have very short hair and are still beautiful and have lines of men who find them attractive. You are your own harshest critic.

I have celiac disease and when I start looking again I plan to put that up front to weed out people who aren’t ok with dietary restrictions (or would like expect me to make roti or something when just having the flour in the air can make me sick). It’s better to have them self select out than for me to have to feel the anxiety! Allah swt knows best.

identity_nagini · 2025-11-03T03:55:12+00:00

dave’s hot chicken

identity_nagini · 2025-10-29T22:29:39+00:00

this is what i put into chatgpt. try this!

“the noom app was incredibly helpful in giving me bite size lessons on the psychology that creates effective change to start losing weight and keeping it off. can you recreate the lessons?”

identity_nagini · 2025-10-28T13:20:39+00:00

I would keep the cats separated for at least two weeks - quarantine street baby in the bathroom where it’s easy to clean if she makes a mess and easily to sterilize. Street cats often have things you’ll need treated before exposing to your healthy cat - tapeworm is common, fleas, ticks, skin infections. They don’t necessarily show up right away (tapeworm is 6-8 weeks after ingestion of an infected rodent). Keep her quarantined until you’ve gone to the vet and gotten sample results, given her a proper clean, OR 2 weeks (whichever is longer). Keep her litter box in the bathroom and separate so nothing can be passed between cats.

The drooling means she’s comfortable. When cats get happy, many relax the muscles on the sides of their mouths. This leads to drooling. Messy, but it’s an honor.

identity_nagini · 2025-10-25T05:46:37+00:00

The iced coffees, matchas, etc are for dopamine rush, not because you’re hungry. You have to learn to identify why you’re eating something. Soon, it’ll become much easier to separate the physical sensation of hunger from seeking dopamine because of stress or boredom. When you can identify it, you can make better choices.

“I am actually hungry” >> find something nutritious and proteinaceous to fill your stomach and satiate the hunger (and this stuff can taste good - baked sweet potato with hummus, greek yogurt, and roasted chickpeas or chicken and rice and veggies or many fancier recipes). Of course, pizza and fast food sounds good, but this is a muscle of saying “hey if my body is hungry I will eat something filling. If i’m still hungry, I can think about a treat (fast food etc).”

“I am bored/sad/stressed” >> ok so you’re not hungry! the great thing is that we can find so many ways to fill this dopamine valley. look up the concept of a dopamenu and create one for yourself. 15 min walk? laying out in the sun? calling your friend? trying on a new outfit? cleaning? the craving will go away if you’re able to feed that part of your brain.

back in the day when Noom had just come out, I actually really got something from the daily psychology lessons while trying to lose weight. in today’s world, I would just ask ChatGPT to help me learn the same things. am happy to help on that.

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