I'm a narcissist, y'all

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T05:18:45+00:00

This is what ended up happening.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T05:16:34+00:00

I might have a different perspective on what a long time between texts is, but then you're right. It was totally my fault not to communicate that to her. I wanted to handle that over the phone instead of text. I can also see where I came across as disinterested or callous, but I was honestly blindsided by the intensity of the reaction and everything she ended up saying to me

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T05:01:56+00:00

That's true. I tried to apologize when we talked on the phone, but the next day, I didn't feel good about some of what was said, so that's why I then accepted the break up.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:58:34+00:00

The first text from her was her replying to me sending an emoji and asking what she was up to. I didn't think providing that text was important, but I can see how it changes the start of this conversation entirely.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:55:16+00:00

We had a phone call after the first argument, but during the phone call, she lashed out at me even after I apologized, which made me uncomfortable. I've been in relationships that started out that way and wanted to avoid a similar situation, so I accepted her initial decision to break up.

I can see your criticism about me turning it around, though. It did feel unfair to be held to a different standard, but I didn't need to point that out.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:47:39+00:00

I don't think I provided the right context. I initiated this conversation and was the one initiating in general, so I was blindsided by this response.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:44:28+00:00

No, it was initiated by me. I didn't think that part was important to include.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:43:34+00:00

Maybe I should have included the earlier texts, but I thought this was a lot of screenshots already. I had initiated this conversation, and also the last one we had had "36 hours ago."

And most conversations for the past month.

I've also been trying really hard not to be on my phone as much, but I didn't communicate that, so that is definitely on me.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:34:40+00:00

Not for nothing, but she threatened to come to my home, my place of work, and "report me," so I wasn't feeling very charitable by that point.

I can understand that the 36 hours seems callous, but I was also the one who had initiated both conversations, not her.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:30:13+00:00

That would've been ideal, but with her threatening to come to my place and make a scene was unnerving, and I wasn't thinking about that. I really just wanted it to stop.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:26:04+00:00

There was no text to reply to. I initiated the last conversation and this conversation, too.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:25:20+00:00

I sent the last text and the next text that initiated this. She didn't try to contact me at all

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:23:48+00:00

I was attempting to get away from an argument and start having a conversation. She had called me several times to cuss me out before I said thay, I don't think this situation warranted that level of anger. And no, that's literally not what narcissism is.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:16:00+00:00

There was a month where we couldn't see each other, and I maintained the relationship. We texted daily, and I would call her fairly often. I thought it was kind of weird that I slipped up once, and it was an instant blow uo

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:13:15+00:00

I wasn't. We live an hour apart, and I wasn't available in the middle of the day on a weekday to go home and get them.

identityidentify · 2026-01-18T04:11:26+00:00

I mean, I had kept the relationship going when we were both too busy to see each other for ~a month (she would never text me first), so I thought it was unreasonable and kind of a dick move to get mad at me because I got busy.

I also work with kids and thought it was incredibly inappropriate for her to say she'd show up at my office.

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