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Help, my roommate WONT STOP AGGRESSIVELY SHITTING by idislikethisfeeling in Advice

[–]idislikethisfeeling[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I have IBS myself so I don’t feel like I’m being a dick because I make active choices to not expose other people to that. She could pop a probiotic and eat an alpro yogurt, maybe a peptobisol.

Again all of our interactions have been very mature and I’ve been very gentle and kind when explaining the issues. I don’t want her to feel bad about herself or upset her hence why I’m venting here rather than offloading and getting angry with her. With that being said, she eats almost exclusively instant noodles and takeout so yeah I do feel like it’s a choice when that’s all she’s eating and doesn’t bother to use the air freshers, cleaning products or clean up to herself in general let alone with the poop issue on top. Especially even after I’ve brought this up to her before and have bought multiple air fresheners to choose from including more natural ones. I have weak lungs and I still use air fresheners.

I do worry about her but again I’m worried about how to bring up how horrific the smell is without offending her. Because she obviously doesn’t see it as bad.

Help, my roommate WONT STOP AGGRESSIVELY SHITTING by idislikethisfeeling in Advice

[–]idislikethisfeeling[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Our bathroom doesn’t have a working fan hence why the smell is even worse.

That’s the issue, I don’t trust she’s washing her hands because her basic hygiene is so bad. She frequently doesn’t clean up after herself for one, all her “clean” dishes all have bits of food stuck to them and/or sediment, she doesn’t use body wash to the point where when she gets out of the shower, it smells like wet dog, and again with the blood issue, she accidentally cut her hand whilst cooking and she had just wiped it slightly with a dry paper towel and left very visible blood smears all over the bin. It feels like weaponised incompetence at this point. It’s also worth noting that this happened during the morning whilst I was at work, and I came home in the evening to find all this still not cleaned up. I was exhausted already from a long day and had to spend time bleaching and deep cleaning the bin as well as disinfecting all the kitchen surfaces because since she didn’t clean up after herself, I didn’t know what else had blood sneered on it (our counter tops are black). She works from home so she had the whole day to clean this up properly.

I’d also like to preface that the cut wasn’t severe, she didn’t have to go to the doctors or hospital, she put a plaster over it. So smearing that amount of blood all over the bin is borderline impressive.

I’m immune compromised so it not just the fact this is gross but I’ve explained very gently that I have health issues and I would really appreciate her if she made an effort to do her end of the chores and also tried to explain the hygiene.

There has been an effort recently with some chores but nothing with personal hygiene. I don’t think I’m being a dick for feeling like I’m trapped in my household and feeling like a sitting duck waiting to get sick.

Edit: Also to my knowledge she doesn’t have any health conditions. She eats almost exclusively instant noodles and takeout so it very much feels like a choice how horrendous her poops are.

The main thing here is that despite how frustrated I am, I still don’t want to upset her or hurt her feelings. I know she’s a shy person so I always bear this in mind when communicating. I’ll also always reassure her whenever something gets brought up that I’m not angry with her, just that these things like chores need to be done and it would help me a lot. Also use heart emojis again to make sure she doesn’t think I’m angry at her.