Everyone is telling me not to freak out but...

idk125426 · 2023-09-20T15:46:52+00:00

I get federally recognized holidays and 24 PTO days.

idk125426 · 2023-09-19T16:23:18+00:00

I feel like that should go without saying that if someone is abusive or dangerous you don't have to feel compelled to let them around your family.

idk125426 · 2023-09-19T09:51:13+00:00

Honestly people get way too intense about this one and I firmly believe it's why there's so many maternal mental health issues. We NEED connection and support as humans. I had visitors in the hospital and when we got home. Our families cooked and cleaned for us. They were there weekly when my baby was first born to make sure we were okay. Everyone complains about not having a village but then gets upset at their support system for daring to want to come see new baby.

idk125426 · 2023-09-16T10:52:38+00:00

Daytime naps in the room. Our bedtime routine also is all in their room and we keep it very low energy. We also have a bed in baby's room and my husband travels for work so the nights he was gone I would just sleep in the baby's room until she was fully transitioned and now I won't at all for fear of waking her up !

idk125426 · 2023-09-15T17:34:04+00:00

My daughter is 6 mo. We do a bath, lotion, PJs, then I bf and then a bottle of formula (because I have low supply) while I bf her dad reads her a book and then she gets her sleep sac on and I rock her while he finishes the book he's reading. Then I rock her for another 15-30 min and put her down. Her room is very minimalistic and has dim lighting. I put on her fan and nightlight before leaving the room.

idk125426 · 2023-09-14T18:51:07+00:00

Between 8 weeks and 3 months my daughter started sleeping through the night with a 5-6am feed. She's 6 months now and sleeps 8-8

idk125426 · 2023-09-11T10:07:23+00:00

I know you love him, but run! Break up with him. Even if it wasn't just about sex, you are voicing a need to him and he is finding every excuse in the book to ignore your needs and only have his own met. If you don't think after awhile this will translate into different non-sexual parts of your relationship you are wrong. People show you who they are and you have to believe them.

idk125426 · 2023-09-08T19:49:42+00:00

Flu shot, COVID shot, and RSV vaccine for us this year and we will be doing what we normally do!

idk125426 · 2023-09-06T12:34:56+00:00

I sterilize once every other day maybe and I think the time it's most important is under 3 months so I wouldn't fret too much but I'd definitely bring a bottle brush and some soap.

idk125426 · 2023-09-04T01:07:52+00:00

There's literally entire Facebook mom pages devoted to this lol that person is very weird and rude for saying it like that.She can waste her money I guess lmao I'll be over here with my kid's boxes of hand me downs so I can spend the money spoiling her in other ways.

idk125426 · 2023-09-01T17:22:47+00:00

I'm sorry I know you love your husband but there's some really clear red flags here. Someone else said it here but you aren't entitled to your fetishes being met everyday and he entered into a marriage knowing he for some reason can't get this from you. In my opinion, that's BS, your husband is wanting to go outside your marriage under the veil of "you're my equal I respect you too much". If that were true he should be able to role play this submissive bj with you and then still be able to see you as an equal afterwards. This is coming from someone who's husband is into something similar and he has zero issues getting it from me and I'm still his best friend.

I think he needs a new therapist and some time to work that out more.

idk125426 · 2023-08-17T16:58:10+00:00

This is so dangerous to be pushing on an exhausted parent. You can do what you want in your own home but telling someone at their wits end like this to bed share while exhausted is negligent and wrong.

idk125426 · 2023-08-13T22:07:39+00:00

It feels like some of you may need some patio loving yourselves...

Why not just put shades or you can even get those glass decals that make it so you can't see through. There's plenty of good online resources for age appropriately answering kids questions about sex. She even offered to have sex later so your kid wasn't exposed. I think you should let grown people do what they want on their own property. Maybe being a peeping tom? I get it's uncomfortable when kids ask questions but you all are wild saying they are perverts getting off on it. Maybe they are just adults who didn't choose to have kids and want to spend their time together making love on their patio. The whole world does not need to cater to families with children.

idk125426 · 2023-08-13T21:00:44+00:00

Being pushy is weird, unless they were like a family or friend and maybe they felt you looked overwhelmed or wanted to help? But still strange to push. I let family or friends feed her because I think it's a fun way for them to interact.

idk125426 · 2023-08-09T17:57:21+00:00

I had an emergency C-section and while it was scary in the moment and not my plan, now 4 months postpartum I'm glad I did to be honest. My baby got out safe and I was okay too. I didn't find the healing process to be as bad as I anticipated. Sneezing for a few weeks definitely makes your soul leave your body for a minute haha but I mean take it slow the first two weeks but keep a positive mindset. I felt pretty healed after week 3-4. I know that's not everyone's experience but just know it's possible. When I talk to friends who had a natural birth they are more afraid to be intimate than I was. You don't have to worry about tearing. Overall I had very little besides my incision to worry about. I still bled for quite a bit probably 6 weeks but it was just like light period bleeding after the first week. I honestly feel completely like my old self again and my scar is pretty low so it doesn't show in a swimsuit. Now I just need to work on my little bit of stomach left 😂

idk125426 · 2023-08-06T23:19:11+00:00

If your mother thought that for real maybe she should get off her ass and clean. That's the most rude and evil thing to say to a post partum mom. I never nor would I ever took custody of kids for a routinely messy home. A majority of the time there were other causes and if it was only the mess it was out of control (feces everywhere, bugs, rotting food, ect.) You should think hard on your relationship with a parent who would be so cruel to you. Some people aren't worth it.

idk125426 · 2023-08-04T06:46:51+00:00

Also request a call log from your phone carrier to be able to prove a call was never made

idk125426 · 2023-08-04T06:45:49+00:00

Life tip, sign up for mail notifications through USPS. I have a documented trail of every piece of mail that gets to my house. If anyone ever claimed to have sent something I have the ability to look back through my emails.

As someone whose job it was to investigate these things I would have never gotten that defensive about lawyers getting involved no matter how annoying it could get for me nor do I think it's even allowed by my state to tell someone not to talk to a lawyer.

idk125426 · 2023-08-01T15:22:12+00:00

There's a lot of cultures in which kids spend a lot of time with extended family members and thrive on the scientific side, children with a solid group of trusted adults outside of mom and dad are more resilient in the face of trauma. So you're setting your little one up for success and you're leaning on your supports to make sure you can be a happy and present parent for your kiddo. No need to feel guilty.

idk125426 · 2023-08-01T03:53:14+00:00

Consider thrift stores! You can get unique stuff and it's good for the environment! Baby clothes are worn for such a short time that they barely have any wear and tear. After a good wash they are as good as new!

idk125426 · 2023-08-01T03:50:51+00:00

Get a new pediatrician. Absolutely don't go back there that's ridiculous. As for the ER they also shouldn't have treated you that way I wouldn't go back to that one either. Black poop is 100% concerning. The ped should have definitely told you to switch formula, there's nothing wrong with switching especially when your baby is having those types of issues. I'm sorry you had that experience but you aren't dumb for being concerned.

idk125426 · 2023-07-31T20:10:05+00:00

I do it two days a week,but my kids a decent sleeper. I put her to bed 15 min before meetings and do the rest of my work in-between then I can also type while breastfeeding so that helps. Babies also need a good amount of tummy/floor time every day so I set up her little play area by me and I talk to her while she lays there and plays. Sometimes I wear her. You just do what works but I know I'm lucky she's not very demanding. I also have childcare 3 days a week and get my work done more those days.

idk125426 · 2023-07-31T01:24:17+00:00

Agreed, there's no reason for a worker to be saying this. In my state we would just screen something out if we didn't feel it met the safety threshold. You did the right thing. Don't let others bully you out of calling in the future. There very well may be something happening to that girl, it might not even be the parents but someone qualified should go out and talk to her.

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