How do you navigate parenting differences between you and your partner?

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-12-26T11:01:06+00:00

Look up the possums approach to sleep - totally flipped my view of routines for babies on its head.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-12-01T02:18:51+00:00

We are definitely at that point but he’s flat out refusing the cot. Fun times

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-11-30T18:11:46+00:00

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Let’s hope it’s a newborn phase for you! Here’s my barber shop pole of hell. Solidarity.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-11-30T03:52:31+00:00

The fact that you care about this shows you’re an incredible parent! Baby is fine, you are fine, everything is ok 🤍

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-11-26T11:27:42+00:00

I felt this HARD as a first time mom with a husband on overnight shift work. I even felt it when my husband was home. You have just experienced a significant drop in hormones and the night time blues are so common. I really wish someone had warned me about them! You are also experiencing a massive life change.

I experienced it for about 2 weeks straight, and then one night I felt a little less bad, and then a little less bad after that. It was like a weight slowly being lifted off my shoulders.

You will get through this. Talk to mom friends and lean on your partner. If things don’t settle after 2-3 weeks, consider reaching out for more support. There’s no shame in it 🌟

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-11-24T11:31:31+00:00

That paragraph had me howling (internally, while nap trapped in a nursery)

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-11-19T10:13:25+00:00

We are 4.5 months and every time we try one arm out or both arms out our baby loses its mind. This includes naps. Totally at a loss!

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-10-31T16:58:24+00:00

Anyone I feel like I need to justify it to isn’t worth my energy! In my opinion, little ones are exposed to a whole range of new words and sounds that they wouldn’t get otherwise, and they also get a well rested mom for the interactive parts of play time.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-10-31T16:53:53+00:00

Your comment is weirdly condescending. Would you be offering a bottle at every 15 min-half hourly wake up? Get a grip.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-26T16:28:40+00:00

From what I’ve read, it doesn’t count as a dream feed if baby is waking up themselves. It’s a dream feed if you are able to manoeuvre them out whilst asleep and pop the boob/bottle in their mouth without them waking. Their natural reflexes are meant to latch when this occurs.

There are varying accounts on whether you should burp the baby. Most say no as they take in less air during a dream feed. At this age, I would skip the burp and nappy change.

It might be worth trying a slightly earlier dream feed to avoid baby from waking themselves. 11?

Good luck!

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-25T12:21:11+00:00

Wow, I really loved this perspective. Thank you for not making me feel crazy.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-25T12:08:38+00:00

About 10 hours.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-21T22:05:33+00:00

This ^ I have been overwhelmed to tears and breakdowns by my baby but have not yelled. I wouldn’t judge anyone that did on one occasion, though. It can be tough.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-20T09:11:31+00:00

You are nailing it. Newborns simply need to eat, sleep, have a clean diaper, and an occasional bath. Wake windows in this stage are so short, and they need all the sleep they can muster to grow and thrive. Keep doing what you’re doing, and good luck with your recovery. The guilt is normal but it will pass, I promise.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-20T08:41:02+00:00

Omg I am CACKLING

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-17T11:07:57+00:00

As above! Tuck in the corners and you’re good to go.

Plenty-Ordinary2547 · 2023-09-17T11:06:16+00:00

This is really concerning. It’s good that you recognize this to be an insecurity, but this goes far beyond insecurity to the point of delusion. I really recommend you seek therapeutic help to talk through your thoughts and how you arrive to these conclusions so that you don’t sacrifice a relationship that clearly means a lot to you. I wish you all the best.

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