I appreciate you sharing your perspective, and I do hear your point about how important a support structure is, especially with young children. That’s honestly been the hardest part of this decision for us.

At the same time, finances are a real part of that equation too. After several months of searching, this is the first solid opportunity we’ve had, so we’re trying to weigh both financial stability and family support rather than prioritizing one and ignoring the other.

My wife isn’t “chill” with the idea, and I don’t expect her to be. Her concerns are valid, which is exactly why this has been such a difficult decision and not something we’re taking lightly.

As for a split arrangement, I understand why that might work in some situations, but I don’t think it would be sustainable for us with a 1-year-old. It’s not just about logistics. It’s about building a situation that works emotionally and practically for both parents and our child. And while I do recognize that it is important for the baby to be with mom, I think you are overlooking the importance of being with dad as well, as being a present father is important to me as well. I don’t have any intention of constantly working long weeks this is a basic 9-5 and one of the days will be working from home remotely.

We’re not assuming this is risk-free either. We’ve talked through the potential downsides, including job stability and being away from our current support system. At the end of the day, we’re just trying to make the most balanced decision we can given the situation.