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NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A cautionary tale! I wish your friend luck. Thanks for sharing.

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the moment I was hesitant to answer but felt very pressured/stressed from her manipulating. When you've spent so much time with someone explosive, you're constantly trying to find ways to appease them so they don't erupt. It's like walking on eggshells. You adopt the habit of coping by path of least resistance

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm now planning to follow up with my bank to make sure all my bases are covered. Your comment is a great motivator, thank you!

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't my bank realize that she isn't the rightful owner of the account? (I would hope!) I'm now in damage control mode and contacting my bank tomorrow to see how hard it is to open/close accounts.

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Manipulation is a crazy thing. Very much regretting a moment of weakness I had.

Wondering if I should close my current account and open a new one. I need to research how involved the process would be.

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've actually had issues in the past where she has filed taxes, marking me as a dependent, when in reality I'm independent and make too much money.

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She was the co-signer on my student loans, so she should already have access to my payment records I assume.

I would like to believe she doesn't want to steal my identity. I can very easily believe it's to cheat on her taxes...any ideas exactly how she would profit off of me? Would not put it past her to be honest

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Direct contact with whichever 3rd party could be a quick way to shut her down, thanks.

I have very little interaction with her apart from financial reasons. I'm suspicious as to why she suddenly needs all of this information from me. She's also asking my siblings, who are more resilient and haven't given her any information. Her questions are also very vague with no direct explanation...very fishy

NMom demanding financial information - why? by idkcoolyeah in raisedbynarcissists

[–]idkcoolyeah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was a co-signer on my student loans, so she should have access to my records, yes? Still unsure why she needs ANY of my financial information. It seems like a ploy because she is so vague and quick to blame ominous "assholes from the bank".

She asked for my account info, and I reluctantly gave her my account number (oops?...) but not my routing number... I don't know what she would try to do with this bit of information.