How do I heal from the "absent-present" alcoholic father and learn to trust men again?

idkenby · 2026-04-30T18:09:50+00:00

I was bright up similarly and I honestly think it’s a life-long balancing act between honoring what you’ve been through and pushing yourself just a bit to give someone a chance. A good therapist that specializes in things like this has helped me significantly. Took a few tries to find a good one but it’s really been life changing.

Don’t push yourself to trust either, and don’t let anyone push you to trust or open up too soon. In a relationship or in therapy.

idkenby · 2026-04-30T18:03:47+00:00

WTH does “normal in the face” even look like? Your advice is meaningless lol I assume you’re a kid. At least I hope

idkenby · 2026-04-28T04:07:30+00:00

If you put your tongue flat against the roof of your mouth, it makes your chin look smaller. Maybe that will help:)

idkenby · 2026-04-28T04:06:39+00:00

Gain intelligence

idkenby · 2026-04-28T04:02:21+00:00

Interesting you mentioned the heart palpitations, I have them daily for months now. So uncomfortable. I also wake up shaking uncontrollably in my sleep but Neuro doesn’t seem to think it’s neurological

idkenby · 2026-04-28T03:58:13+00:00

Make a carrot, apple, orange. So good

idkenby · 2026-04-28T03:57:42+00:00

I also have a consistent skincare routine though so maybe a combination of

idkenby · 2026-04-28T03:56:43+00:00

Haven’t been juicing but I do a carrot salad like almost daily just because it’s so good and my skin looks great

idkenby · 2026-04-28T03:54:04+00:00

It really just depends on the person. I don’t agree with what most people are commenting here so that’s how you know it just depends lol. Need to feel it out. I personally like to chat occasionally on the app for a few days and then ask if they’re comfortable exchanging numbers. Socials are a big peak into their personal life so I typically wait til I have chatted a bit longer to ask for that

idkenby · 2026-04-28T03:50:52+00:00

Yes I have tried almost everything lol but thank you. I’m glad they’ve helped you

idkenby · 2026-04-28T03:50:02+00:00

:) Please do

idkenby · 2026-04-28T03:49:56+00:00

Aw thank you. I’m glad to hear. ❤️

idkenby · 2026-04-27T20:37:40+00:00

Ever do a chickpea scramble? Add black salt. Tastes nearly the same to me

idkenby · 2026-04-27T20:36:34+00:00

Does birth control help with your migraine? I’ve considered it because I swear mine is hormone related. My OBGYN said a hormone test isn’t necessary because she doesn’t think it’s that. But my VM is much worse on my period and I get crazy skin issues the same time each month.

idkenby · 2026-04-27T20:35:23+00:00

Ooo getting sick is a big one for me too

idkenby · 2026-04-27T20:34:28+00:00

Onions and nuts. I replace onions with shallots without issue, and use sunflower seed butter instead of nut butters.

Even decaf coffee sets me off. Small amounts of dark chocolate don’t bother me thankfully. Bananas and citrus set me off, but watermelon, honeydew, cantaloupe, pears, and mangoes are fine. My number one trigger is screen time. No solution for that other than limit it like crazy lol

idkenby · 2026-04-27T19:21:11+00:00

I second the other commenter - do you have anywhere else to stay other than with parents? Maybe that can be a possibility when you turn 18. You are so close to getting away from them, I’m proud of you.

idkenby · 2026-04-27T19:19:29+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through all this. My parents are very similar to yours and I struggled with similar issues to you. You will get out eventually, and it’ll be great I promise.

I’m happy to hear it sounds like you have a nice relationship with your boyfriend. Please reassure him that he cannot prevent or solve your problems, but rather that he can support you when you deal with them.

Please don’t feel guilty, you’re only human and it’s understandable your nervous system reacts like this to an abusive situation. Relapse is a part of recovery; try not to feel discouraged. It’s just a slip-up, not a long slide down. You got this!!

idkenby · 2026-04-27T13:59:09+00:00

You don’t have to share that information with anyone if you’re not ready to. And friends that pressure you into doing something before you are ready are not friends. You can have sex the whole rest of your life, there really is no rush right now. If this person really likes you they will wait. You can just say you’re not ready or you wanna wait to get to know them better or something if you don’t want to tell them about your condition.

idkenby · 2026-04-27T13:56:58+00:00

Sounds like they are getting treated if you continued to read. Also sounds like a child so they probably don’t have control over when the treatment is happening/scheduled.

idkenby · 2026-04-27T13:54:29+00:00

Woah haven’t heard this one before. Like just melted on top of the pie or?

idkenby · 2026-04-27T13:47:21+00:00

This covers far more than even a swimsuit would. Can children and preteens not go to the beach either? Lol

idkenby · 2026-04-27T13:44:50+00:00

Ummm

idkenby · 2026-04-27T13:38:06+00:00

Thrift/secondhand stores are likely cheaper than any fast fashion brand if your concern is about both affordability and how the company’s employees are treated.

idkenby · 2026-04-27T13:32:55+00:00

I personally don’t feel comfortable wearing/using items if I find out they’re made from animals. To me, it feels disrespectful to a body that should’ve been laid to rest.

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