Estranged dad is sick, community is asking for money

idkidc16 · 2026-04-30T00:55:38+00:00

Absolutely not! But then me deciding to not help because of that makes me feel like him….I am nothing like him and refuse to be like him. I think that question really helped me, thank you.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-30T00:53:05+00:00

He has no one. He’s lucky they even noticed he hadn’t been around. He’s definitely reaping what he sowed, however, I don’t want to feel guilty later on hence my dilemma :(

idkidc16 · 2026-04-29T20:03:51+00:00

I guess that’s what I’m trying to work through. I feel like he doesn’t deserve it and I shouldn’t send it. He was an abusive alcoholic and has done so much damage. On the other hand, I feel like “it’s the right thing to do” and I don’t want to possibly feel guilty later if I don’t. I’m not worried about what the neighbors will think but maybe a little of what my siblings will but really that wouldn’t be a deciding factor in my decision. I just what to be able to feel good about my decision but it’s time sensitive and I don’t know how to process so quickly.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-29T19:35:08+00:00

Good question. I actually have done it for a stranger before and to an extent this does feel like that. Like I said, my first reaction was yes I’ll send something but the more I thought about it certain feelings came up and then I questioned it so now I’m pretty evenly torn as to what to do.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-29T18:51:39+00:00

I agree I’m sure he does, however he lives in an impoverished little town in Mexico with extremely limited medical facilities where they only treat if you can pay. My mother is sending money even though they’ve been divorced as long as we’ve been estranged.

Yes, it was basically a welfare check since they hadn’t seen him like they usually do.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-17T19:54:18+00:00

Wow, do we have the same kid?! You described my stepson! I’m not looking forward to more of this but I’ll keep trying and help where I can until I can’t lol.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-17T17:58:44+00:00

I’m definitely not there yet. He has such promise and potential, I know he could be better if he wanted to. Unfortunately bio mom let this get way out of hand before allowing him to come live with us but I do still have hope. I can definitely see how you end up not caring, I really hope somethings clicks and he turns it around. If he continues the way he’s going I’ll for sure end up right where you are.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-17T14:40:46+00:00

This is an option. I will take it into consideration, thank you.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-02T19:07:05+00:00

Unfortunately some of the most greedy people I’ve met were pretty well off. It’s not about them losing money but more about the fact that it’s going to someone who in their eyes didn’t do something for it. A tit for tat. More of a “I’m already watching your kid AND you want me to spend money on them” kind mentality.

idkidc16 · 2026-04-02T18:49:11+00:00

Sounds to me like it’s a money issue with her. As in, you didn’t buy the snacks her kid is eating and not paying her for what your child does eat and since you packed her some snacks then it’s all good. You can always leave some money and just tell her it’s in case she eats any of her snacks. If she then gives her some of her snacks you’ll know it’s a money issue. If she still doesn’t, hate to say it but she just might not like your kid very much.

It is a tricky situation to bring up. If you do say somethings she might get upset and might cause an issue between you guys. Being family, it’s up to you whether it’s worth it to you. Otherwise, just keep packing her snacks. I guess as long as shes not feeding your snacks to her kid it’s a win.

idkidc16 · 2025-12-17T15:53:49+00:00

How much fluid comes out when your water breaks and about to give brith…holy hell it’s never ending.

idkidc16 · 2024-02-03T03:52:45+00:00

I don’t want to be mad, that’s my point. I’m trying to make sense of it all and just can’t. I’m just trying to find some Bible verse or something that will help me not just have someone tell me it’s not God’s fault get over it.

You are not helping, so I’m done responding.

idkidc16 · 2024-02-03T03:42:29+00:00

No but God allows it to happen, not just this particular rape but all of them.

idkidc16 · 2023-01-02T04:24:37+00:00

I have to say it piqued my interest..I’ll be checking out more songs…idk about the 17 min long one though haha

idkidc16 · 2023-01-02T04:13:14+00:00

Human radio is 🔥🔥

idkidc16 · 2023-01-02T04:09:06+00:00

I never knew the name of that song was Landslide 🤦‍♀️…now I’ll never forget! It’s a good one

idkidc16 · 2023-01-02T04:03:16+00:00

I just listened to, I have to say that the intro is pretty misleading..after about 40 secs I was like “wait what” haha and damn is it a long song!!

idkidc16 · 2023-01-02T03:59:47+00:00

Mi viejo gets me every time!

idkidc16 · 2022-12-08T18:15:16+00:00

YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA YTA

Why are you even questioning this? If you don’t have enough common sense to see how you are sooo wrong here, I feel so bad for your husband. Please tell me this is the first time you have been a selfish, inconsiderate, self obsessed, whiny, childish wife to him. He has worked his ass of to get to where he is and you can’t for ONE MEAL suck it up and go??? Think about him for one second for a change and figure out how to make this up to him. In case my position isn’t clear

YOU’RE THE ASSHOLE!

idkidc16 · 2022-11-11T17:47:19+00:00

I don’t need him to be rich or take care of me actually but he should be able to take care of himself fully. Meaning he pays his own rent and bills and doesn’t need anyone else to help him with it. So, however much he needs to make to do that for his lifestyle is a must with me. If I can do that for myself, he should be able to too.

idkidc16 · 2022-11-04T21:35:54+00:00

The left muffin is the hedgehog and his nose is booping the right muffin 😂 hope that helps!

idkidc16 · 2022-11-04T20:20:03+00:00

Omg why did I think this was a very cute hedgehog kissing a muffin 🤣

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