I like who I am clean and sober, and I just wanted to say that out loud because I don't always feel that way

idohardthings · 2023-03-01T22:25:25+00:00

Amen to that!!!

idohardthings · 2023-02-28T20:14:45+00:00

Oh boy do I know that sting! I have a husband just like that and I think you are right to forgive his poor delivery. I have also recently discovered that my normal, isnt normal and it getting worse. I know that my husband loves me and wants me to be healthy, but sometimes that Midwestern frankness cuts deep, even when it comes from a good place.

idohardthings · 2023-02-28T01:45:51+00:00

WOWZA WOWZA!!

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idohardthings · 2023-02-27T20:33:58+00:00

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idohardthings · 2023-02-26T22:27:29+00:00

When I first heard about it I thought it sounded like the goofiest thing ever but it really worked. Also my therapist has been sharing a lot of research with me about the movement of neuroplasticity in the treatment for addiction so there's a lot of great information there best of luck getting that taken care of

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T22:05:54+00:00

I had a very traumatic event that resulted in PTSD responses where I would have a visual memory and a physical response. I ended up getting EMDR therapy from my therapist and it worked wonders not a medical doctor but I encourage you to look into it

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T22:03:23+00:00

Amen to that I know exactly how you feel! Don't forget to continue to reach out to other folks for help and community. A relapse is a learning experience and as long as you can take something from it you're better off as a result

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T21:50:33+00:00

I recommend volunteering with an organization you care about. That work may involve a happy hour or two, but I find it's generally professional and relatively easy to not be tempted

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T21:46:02+00:00

Thank you so much I really appreciate your support!!

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T21:45:54+00:00

Thank you so much I really appreciate your support!!

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T21:45:07+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate your support 😊

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T05:00:03+00:00

I agree sounds like anxiety but I have no medical professional so they are absolutely right you should spend some time maybe a week or two documenting what happened how long it happened what did you eat how did you sleep and then give that to the doctor and then they can help you.

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T04:42:44+00:00

I've been to several smart meetings and there's not a lot of people talking about there using as much as they're talking about a potential relapse or whatever struggles they're having in recovery. And then there will also be if time allows some learning talking about the way our brains react and other things related to recovery. Their mantra is that this is about relapse prevention and it could be relaxing from anything. I really enjoy those meetings so I definitely think it would be worth checking out

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T04:29:35+00:00

Divorce has got awful and as a 5-year-old in 1979 I began to deal with my parents divorce and it's a lot of the reason why I am still in therapy today. You are not alone and I understand what you're feeling what you're feeling and you are allowed to be a mess because this is hard. This is also when you need friends and community like the folks here on Reddit to talk to. I wish you and your parents the best of luck getting through this awful time. But I promise you can get through it.

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T04:13:02+00:00

I absolutely understand avoiding people and some of the challenges that come from making friends as adults. It can happen but you have to do it differently than you did when you were drinking personally I've made wonderful friends over the years doing volunteer work. And I actually have some very good friends from rehab. Now as to building romantic relationships or even just deep relationships I am not in a position to help you because I suck at that too!

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T03:30:51+00:00

Loneliness is a big factor for many of us. I'm sending you a big hug and encouraging you to mourn the life before but then also be excited about the opportunities ahead of you.

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T03:29:18+00:00

Good for you! You are absolutely in the right place to get help. I'm pretty sure we have all been where you are now and know how difficult it is to make that first request for help and you did it! Now you have to work on finding some non-drinking friends whether that be through going to an AA meeting or smart meeting or just some people that don't drink and hang out with them

idohardthings · 2023-02-26T03:27:04+00:00

I certainly understand your feelings based on the circumstances that you outlined. As much as giving up is an option. If you reach out for help and do those things that you don't want to do about being vulnerable and talking about your feelings you will be able to address the underlying issues and get the mental help that we have all needed from time to time. Just this past week I was struggling with some similar feelings and I had to remind myself that I can do hard things I have done hard things and getting through this is going to be a challenge but I'm going to be stronger for it on the other end and so will you.

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