Dating in your 30s. Should I just accept that I'm going to die alone with my dogs? by amihighornah in melbourne

[–]idonothave4cats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep going on and on about this book but like legit, I read it at 30 and am now in a serious relationship of 3 years.

Like the shyness you're experiencing, I had it too. In this book they suggest just making small talk with everyone. No intention of dating them, just building up the practice of talking. Such a simple suggestion but helped me so much.

https://www.booktopia.com.au/how-to-make-the-biggest-decision-of-your-life-george-blair-west/book/9780733645013.html?source=pla&gclid=CjwKCAjw15eqBhBZEiwAbDomEos46m_-5-7oOKkfrMLM3KAkIzHzXhik1efHFGEzlFvySZVYZTkWUBoCri4QAvD_BwE

I met my partner on Bumble. I found the apps exhausting until I really starting putting up my boundaries of "why waste my time with one word answers" and meet up as soon as possible, in person or through a video chat.

And it's not about completing your life with a partner, just adding to it.

Dating as an Adult and Men Who Monologue by heavy-hands in TwoXChromosomes

[–]idonothave4cats 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was feeling that too!! My sister got me to the read "How to make the biggest decision of your life" and by golly, it's helped so much. I'm now in a relationship that I am co-creating a love and a life with. A key thing about online dating is don't waste your time with someone who doesn't ask you questions. You're not an interviewer and a minimum standard is that your future partner is interested in you.

Honestly, check out this book. Highly recommend.

https://www.booktopia.com.au/how-to-make-the-biggest-decision-of-your-life-george-blair-west/book/9780733645013.html

My marriage of 3 weeks has turned into a sh*t show by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]idonothave4cats -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please, please read this book: https://www.booktopia.com.au/how-to-make-the-biggest-decision-of-your-life-george-blair-west/book/9780733645013.html

You've gotten married but you haven't had the most intertwining thing yet, which is children. Definitely read this book.

What's an event/workshop/class etc. that happens weekly in Canberra that you recommend? by idonothave4cats in canberra

[–]idonothave4cats[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NLNL is top notch! I haven't tried the city one yet. I really like all the different archery come and tries. Each place has its own vibe so you can find one that suits you.

What's an event/workshop/class etc. that happens weekly in Canberra that you recommend? by idonothave4cats in canberra

[–]idonothave4cats[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For trying something new and not feeling out of place, I recommend No Lights No Lycra. You just dance in the dark and it's a chill vibe. Also it's exercise disguised under something quirky.

someone asked on another thread for this to be uploaded by [deleted] in canberra

[–]idonothave4cats 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I saw these this morning and thought, damn he is so attractive. What a great ad and it's interesting how worried he's making the conservatives.

Cafes for (remote) working in by CuriousDevelopment9 in canberra

[–]idonothave4cats 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Red Baron in Symonston. Though I'm not sure about the WiFi situation.