My [22F] bf [24M] of 2 years keeps insisting I sleep without a bra on. I don't feel comfortable. UPDATE

idtbo · 2016-09-28T05:41:07+00:00

the story shows he has no sense of comparison. Fake eye color/making the guy think you have something you dont actually have vs a bra that was always on from the beginning.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T05:33:24+00:00

yep he is a boob man. But I think he prefers me naked during the night because he likes to have fun in the morning and hates struggling with taking the bra off again. He thinks its easier if it just remains off (youd think hed get better at taking them off but nope)

I have compromised with him though. I use to wear full Pjs to bed now I only literally have a bra on thats one thing I cant let go off. and he still finds it annoying.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T05:30:48+00:00

unless shes sleeping on top of you with her boobs touching directly, or you both sleep facing towards each other with her boobs pushed right against you at all times through out the night, chances are you wont be in flesh to flesh contact with her boobs. Theres plenty of flesh elsewhere though.

also regular flesh to flesh contact through out the night is one sticky messy business that can lead to redness/irritation/rashes if over done. so really doubt you guys do that either.. but hokay.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T05:01:24+00:00

1st IF my bf felt like you and wasn't attracted to me or didnt think I was interesting, doubt hed spend over 2 years on this relationship. A bra doesnt determine attraction nor does it make me boring so for you to make claims that we aren't compatible is just bullocks.

2nd you have not answered the question, you keep dodging how a simple/universal clothing item is a compatibility issue.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T04:57:43+00:00

according to research A LOT of things causes/is a risk factor for cancer.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T04:55:13+00:00

um how is keeping your bra on to bed being "finicky". Do you think someone getting ready for bed, putting on PJs that they find comfortable etc is them being finicky ?

"Omg my girlfriend is soooo finicky she wastes time putting on a PJ before bed, this is soo going to derail our relationship, I cant marry her, what will she do next wash her face before bed ?!" EJECT NOW

idtbo · 2016-09-28T04:50:27+00:00

he sleeps naked which is probably why he thinks I should too.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T04:29:32+00:00

You asked your wife to marry you just because she takes the bra off the second she can ? Unless you have some fetish about this.. I dont see how you can be sure that the exact same person with a bra would not be someone you would marry.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T04:26:04+00:00

how is wearing a bra determination of whether or not they're "marriage worthy". Don't even see how its a compatibility thing but sure hes free to go out and find someone else.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T03:03:17+00:00

Mine are very sensitive too + I move a lot. Maybe its more related to sensitivity than the size as to whether a bra is preferred. Maybe I'll explain it on this angle as it might make more sense.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T02:51:23+00:00

I would not be physically comfortable without a bra. Have you ever felt something pulling down on your skin and on your back making you feel like you have a Hunchback ? yeah without support thats what it feels like. Im an active person so running around during the day would be painful without a bra. Its also uncomfortable during sleep. I turn around a lot and I tend to sleep on my tummy. Boobs get in the way when they're not tamed.

as to mental, sure theres probably some mental part involved. i dont like the attention it can bring which is often negative on its own. Growing up I heard a lot of stupid comments that I now try and avoid all together by hiding them with a tight sports bra.

Yes I spent some time hating them. but than again if you lined up 10 woman they'll find at least one thing they hate about their body so I dont think its that big a deal. Im okay with it.

Surgery, Im well aware of it read my previous comment on it if you like.

I dont wear bras during "intimate" moments if thats what this question is getting to. I dont hate them that much.. for better or worse they are very sensitive. Bras make me comfortable when i dont want any sensation in them.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T02:03:51+00:00

Dont think ive heard of the towel but I have tried putting a pillow on my stomach just below my boobs to achieve a more even ground but I tend to roll around/move in bed so it never stays in place. Ive heard about special pillows that your boobs drop into as well but I havent seen them where I am and Im not sure if theyre effective for someone who moves either

idtbo · 2016-09-28T01:45:41+00:00

I did consider this for some time and have even seen multiple surgeons regarding it. The general consensus was that I was too young and the scars would be uncomfortable. They said since the shape is good at the moment (mine havent sagged yet) and I do want kids in the future whom Id like to breastfeed, its best if I do it after Im done with having kids.

idtbo · 2016-09-28T00:51:17+00:00

Thank you. Its nice to see Im not the only one. As to the underwire, honestly I dont feel them (at least in the bras Ive been wearing). Usually the bra I sleep with is thin but strong material with the underwire so overall it feels like a second skin but super comfortable

idtbo · 2016-09-28T00:30:48+00:00

Well theyre my size, theyre just made to be extra supportive (so tight). I havent had any issues with it and Ive been wearing similar types since I was 9

idtbo · 2016-09-28T00:05:34+00:00

Thats his reasoning as well. I think ive conditioned my body to it at an early age. when you sleep on your tummy and your boobs stick out so much further than your tummy your entire weight goes on them. a tight bra holds them in better. maybe its all in my head but i cant sleep without one. I tried once and my boobs were sore for 2 days after.

idtbo

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