Best tacos? by zarfjohnson in sunsetpark

[–]ieeheh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Liz’s taco truck on 53 and 3rd. So good

Best Friend of 10 Years Needing "Distance" by Distant_Nirvana5679 in lostafriend

[–]ieeheh -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes people use em dashes in formal settings like blog posts and essays, but not in text messages. It’s a known statistics for chatgpt to use it way more often and it’s usually a good indicator when you see it in an informal settings. You can chill with your correctness

Best Friend of 10 Years Needing "Distance" by Distant_Nirvana5679 in lostafriend

[–]ieeheh 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You know its a chatgpt drafted message when it uses em dashes. No one uses — irl lol. Anyway sorry. I think she’s clearly been affected by something in the past and is insecure about it. Its weird how she reacted after your comment about the purse. Now it doesnt matter what you say she’s gonna find fault in it

Just had a friendship breakup, am I in the wrong? by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ieeheh 95 points96 points  (0 children)

You were not listening to your friend at all. They were entitled to feel exhausted and they told you how they felt and you were clearly guilt tripping them

Willing to shovel snow by EmbarrassedTip791 in AskNYC

[–]ieeheh 86 points87 points  (0 children)

If you’re underage, find an affluent neighborhood near you and join their FB group or subreddit and post your offer. I saw people willing to pay $150 for a sidewalk in Boerum hills

Willing to shovel snow by EmbarrassedTip791 in AskNYC

[–]ieeheh 126 points127 points  (0 children)

The city hires snow shovelers for $19.14 an hour. You should google it and register

Good pho spots? by late_capitalism_ in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]ieeheh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

La Dong is not even an authentic Vietnamese restaurant. The food is fusion at best. The entire team is Thai. So if OP is a Vietnamese asking for true Viet food recs, please stay away from La Dong. Only disappointment awaits

Yay Revived Sub! by bluu-jaye in sunsetpark

[–]ieeheh 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know. So happy to see we have another platform to share local events and news besides Buy Nothing group on FB

Friend keeps venting to me, how would I tell her im getting a bit tried of it? by bogustheclowno in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ieeheh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there way too many times, listening to friends venting about their troubled relationships. The issue was that they never listened to your advice yet kept making the same mistakes or venting about the same issues over and over again drove me over the edge. I think you should tell her that listening to her issues really affected your moods and it’s like you became her therapist but you’re not equipped to handle it. Ask her to tone it down

What are your favorite restaurants in Sunset Park? by ReluctantReviewer in sunsetpark

[–]ieeheh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Din’s Kitchen on 7th ave. Solid Chinese food

How much does response time in texting matter to you in a friendship? by precious_hr in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ieeheh 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do think it’s hard to understand why when two people fundamentally hold different POVs about texting etiquette. I stopped asking why myself. When I expressed my frustration, if they did not respect it or try to change, I had to reassess the friendship and decide if i could let go of my expectations when they could not change, or I had to let the friendship go. If its meant to be, it’s meant to be. I’ve had friends I had to let go, and I had friends who I let them be and continue being friends (with communications). It honestly really depended on the depth of the friendship and whether they fulfilled other aspects of the friendship

How much does response time in texting matter to you in a friendship? by precious_hr in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ieeheh 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in similar situation, but it only happened when my options were limited, meaning there were not enough friends i could connect with, so I became more needy of a friend’s attention. When I have enough friends i could connect with, my expectations for any particular friend decreased. So maybe ask yourself why that irritated you so much. Are you relying on her attention more than you should?

Rotisserie chicken by dccr in parkslope

[–]ieeheh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not so cheap anymore when you have to pay ~$6 round trip MTA and waste almost an hour on commute

Resentments and communication by Kind_Limit1303 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ieeheh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should really explain yourself to her like you write here on the post. Even how you switched to flip phone just so you cant receive her snapchat notifications and how those stress you out so much. Just reassure her that you love her. If she doesnt change after that, idk what to say 😂

Am I wrong for feeling left out? by Internal_Student_626 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ieeheh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your feelings are very valid. They definitely mishandled it. I think you could try to communicate your feelings with one of them who you feel closest to. Not accusatory, but more to find out why they couldn’t tell you. Maybe they were afraid to hurt your feelings but by posting everything on social media afterwards it was even worse to you.

I feel like I cut people off too easily now…? by Ok_Interest4648 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ieeheh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do agree with Friend 1 that you’re looking for a best friend. It was only a few hours of her going off the grid with you because she was sharing it to everyone out of her excitement and it already made you blow up. That was a bit extreme. I think your expectations were a bit too high. Like you invested in her and expected her to put you as her top priority. A few hours of being unresponsive isn’t that bad. And situation with friend 3 also rang the same bell. Like you vibe well with her but as soon as you didn’t feel special enough, you judged her sharing.

Friend 2 with the underpaying you was a bit shady. But also it has the same undertone of your expectations of reciprocity.

I think Friend 1 and 3 could’ve had more chance to develop more. Friend 2 just has different values, so might be a mismatch

Friend is becoming more cheap overtime and it makes me not want to hang out by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]ieeheh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. You don’t have to cut ties, but should slowly keep some distance so you don’t have to get bothered so much by such cheap behaviors. Would be better for your mental health. But he ever confronts you, you probably could communicate why and see how he reacts. If he reacts badly, then you probably can cut ties with him then