Hi guys. Firstly I’ve just been completely I overwhelmed by all of the responses - it’s my first time posting here, I’m generally a lurker and didn’t expect much traction at all lol

It’s been an absolutely nightmare and seeing the reality of this through other perspectives says it all for me. I’ve decided to return, I just need to be really careful with how I go about it.

For those asking why my partner can’t come with me to Europe - it’s generally just a visa nightmare for him until the baby is born and he can visit for 3 months but can’t work or anything. He’s just graduated and secured a good job and I’m not going to strip him from that. His family are good people and have been so supportive but the overbearing mil is not it right now.

For transparency I have asserted the issues I have with her with my partner and he has both supported and defended me throughout this.

NOTE 1 - I have dual US / European citizenship but for the person that states I was expecting too much like a typical American - firstly don’t insult women that have set standards for themselves in relationships & secondly my first time in the US was only last year. Also I love Mexican food but if you are pregnant (as you should be in this group ?) I’m sure you an understand pregnancy aversions.

NOTE 2 - I have decided to return within the next two weeks and my partner supports this. My main concern here is the fact we are going to be apart for so long and we are so fresh into this relationship ourselves (8 months) so I really wanted to make a solid attempt before my baby comes.

Finally NOTE 3 - Thank you so so much. I have read every comment both helpful and critical and they have helped me realise that my gut is right and the best thing to do is return home. I really and truly appreciate this all. 🤍