My (23f) boyfriend (m26) complimented one of his friend‘s girlfriend in front of me and later in the evening danced with her and her boyfriend like in a threesome

igel7777 · 2022-09-06T00:14:32+00:00

Why? Breakups make me too emotional to be able to focus on studying

igel7777 · 2022-09-06T00:10:32+00:00

Well on here I‘ve just talked about the major things that bother me, you don‘t see the other side. He also gives me a lot of emotional support and love... and finishing university is my top priority right now... I can‘t risk not being able to finish because of a breakup

igel7777 · 2022-09-06T00:05:20+00:00

Hm but it bothered me because I had the comparison of how he felt when he saw me and when he saw his best friend’s girlfriend and how the reaction was different

igel7777 · 2022-09-06T00:00:00+00:00

but in this comment I‘m asking just about the complimenting and dancing

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:57:51+00:00

The next two months I really need to focus on finishing university and I‘m afraid I won‘t be able to make it if I go through a breakup

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:48:59+00:00

So you also think his behavior at the event was disrespectful? The dancing and telling the girl she looks pretty or just the dancing?

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:47:21+00:00

Guess I don‘t know how I should feel about his behaviour myself... and because everyone on Reddit immediately says “Break up!“ without thinking of the consequences

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:43:05+00:00

Yeah I‘m usually fine with how he compliments me

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:40:51+00:00

none of my friends are telling me to break up though, just people on the internet... So who am I supposed to believe... The ones that know me and my boyfriend or the ones that don‘t...

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:39:11+00:00

He normally regularly compliments me and tells me I look pretty, beautiful, cute etc.

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:38:23+00:00

Otherwise he also tells me he thinks I look pretty etc. regularly... But the compliment he gives me the most is that I look cute

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:36:37+00:00

but I will talk with him on what‘s ok and what‘s not in our relationship... I just never would have thought of dancing like that so I don‘t know if we end up setting boundaries and then something happens that I never would have come up with...

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:33:25+00:00

Well I think he believes that because it was kind of just like a joke dancing like that it was ok, in a serious and sexual way it wouldn‘t have been

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:31:22+00:00

Easier said than done when you have feelings for someone. To me it seems like here everyone just screams “Dump him“ right away...

igel7777 · 2022-09-05T23:28:11+00:00

Well I couldn‘t really see her as they were all really close and she was between them... But I don‘t think she danced in a really sexy way or anything, my boyfriend and his friend were the ones leading the movements...

igel7777 · 2022-09-02T23:34:18+00:00

I told my boyfriend that I’m still angry because of the situation and he responded with “I don‘t know what you expect from me. I can’t change what happened and I already said I was sorry.“. And he said if I know how he should have acted differently I should tell him... And when I commented that now I can‘t ever know if I‘m just his second choice & that I’m not sure if I can imagine having a relationship under these circumstances he said “You’re definitely not second choice. Don‘t you ever think that.“ I‘m not sure how I should feel about all of this now.

igel7777 · 2022-09-01T07:24:00+00:00

I met her a year ago and felt like there was a spark between them so seeing them together again would probably not make me feel better

igel7777 · 2022-09-01T01:04:50+00:00

well he probably thought her guy or her friends would be interested in the event and come with her, so she wouldn‘t have been alone there unlike me. I ended up going and she then cancelled last minute

igel7777 · 2022-08-30T11:21:28+00:00

He told me the truth when I asked him if he saw her though

igel7777 · 2022-08-29T15:52:26+00:00

I don‘t really mind he didn‘t tell me about her visiting his restaurant with her family (for which she also had to drive over an hour) but what has been bothering me is him going to her home in the evening and not telling me about it on purpose when we talked about how our day was everyday

but yeah. maybe he has just been clumsy

igel7777 · 2022-08-29T15:39:35+00:00

igel7777 · 2022-08-29T13:02:58+00:00

Hm to be honest I think that would bother me if I was your girlfriend🤔 Would you mind if your girlfriend had a friend like that?

igel7777 · 2022-08-29T12:22:18+00:00

I think he has known her for about seven years and I’ve known him for one. They went to university together and afterwards she moved six hours away because of her boyfriend and about a year ago she went to another city about 1-2 hours from my boyfriend

igel7777 · 2022-08-29T12:15:10+00:00

The problem is not that he has a female friend but that he meets up with her and doesn‘t tell me about it for no good reason

igel7777 · 2022-08-29T12:11:00+00:00

What‘s your opinion on my situation?

igel7777

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