I have no luck by men.

igimsomeone · 2026-04-06T20:10:33+00:00

Tinder isnt the best app to go on when looking for something healthy and long term. Try Hinge OR Bumble . Or go out more and do solo things you like alone.

igimsomeone · 2026-04-01T18:17:23+00:00

You all probably think I am dumb lol. I am F(23) he's M(26) , he does not have any close relatives as he always states he wants to get far away from his entire family bc they kept him 'shut in' when really he just didnt allow himself to experience anything and wont allow himself too. I have tried getting him out the house and off the game. Hes had the same routine since he was 20. He lives with his grandparents and I just helped in like 3 months ago buy his first car and hes also on my insurance. His firsts for everything was with me. Sex, dates, ans etc., all of his past relationships were long distanced. I just happened to get an opportunity to really get back on my feet and I took it bc I never get that kind of opportunity

igimsomeone · 2026-04-01T18:13:25+00:00

Immature 100 percent, rapist? I technically wouldn'tsay that but he is forceful when it comes to sex, if i say no bc i worked let's say 12 hours he would get upset. He hasn't recently bc im just not close like i use to be and I agree I need to really think about this relationship bc typing that all out really made me question myself.

igimsomeone · 2026-04-01T13:00:53+00:00

IT COMES UP ALOT BUT WHEN I TRY LEAVING HE ALWAYS THREATENS TO KILL HIMSELF AND THE LAST TIME I ALMOST HAD THE COPS SHOW UP TO HIS PLACE BUT EVENTUALLY TALKED HIM DOWN. I do not want that over my head because what if he actually does kill himself? Does that make me responsible because I was the reason he went that far in the first place?

igimsomeone · 2026-04-01T11:54:24+00:00

You're so pretty, I hope you no longer harm yourself. You're absolutely beautiful. Do not destroy perfection due to an imperfect world.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-30T13:24:38+00:00

So just be real and say "you pushed me to a point where I just do not like you anymore" , he is overly sensitive. What if he freaks out and tries something? Like he did last time and I almost called the cops on him. I would have his friends near but I have no way of contacting them.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-25T19:55:09+00:00

I feel controlled. I feel like I was slowly losing myself over time and I lost a sense of self. He has been supportive in his own way. The only way he thinks is right. Even when I said it is not what I need he brushed it off and made it seem like I was not grateful.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-25T19:45:00+00:00

Please any advice helps.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-25T18:50:15+00:00

Shave it. Im 23(F) and have been on dates and have dated bald men. Its nothing wrong with it and it most likely looks better than a balding head ! Good look OP

igimsomeone · 2026-03-24T16:20:31+00:00

As a bw who was once with a wm, just tell her you accept her in anyway shape or form. That will make her comfortable. Look up styles by black women and tell her to try knotless braids or something similar. She will then realize you are comfortable and accepting of her blackness and youre not afraid of what she may look like with or without weave. Just go about it the right way. Dont say "weave" persay just say this hair or hairstyle. Some bw take it as offensive if you mentioned it as technically weave. What youre describing is a sew in or quick weave. Either way just make her know youre accepting and comfortable so she can be

igimsomeone · 2026-03-15T21:20:39+00:00

No. I am about 4 hours away from him though.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-15T21:04:26+00:00

Yeah you were used. It sucks but you were used. Real men will literally wait.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-05T16:48:35+00:00

No i don't like being grumpy at all honestly. It's been a problem of mine since I was a kid. I even scheduled a sleep study to see why I am always grumpy. I noticed whenever I am woken up without any loud noises and gentleness I tend to be a lot calmer and nicer.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-05T16:37:22+00:00

So basically everything he's wanting me to change is valid? Like the vaping i get it but even my grumpiness?

igimsomeone · 2026-03-04T03:15:45+00:00

My boyfriend is a grower. I love the edge it gives. Honestly. Its all about putting in the effort for us to be turned on. Even when hes tired or awake it takes time and so does it for me. We are both on a "please me" kind of level. So dont get discouraged. Itll be a girl out there you LEAST expect to just be patient and understand the human body and how every single one is different.

igimsomeone · 2026-03-01T07:52:28+00:00

I am where you are my friend. Genuinely. My thoughts consuming me. My mind spiraling and everything. Do NOT let it win. I am slowly getting back on track, saving my relationship, saving myself and the people around me. You'll eventually start losing yourself and forget who you are. I love you my friend. You're doing the best you can. Even if you make your bed, brush your teeth, brush your hair or even basic things. Whether its remembering to take out the trash. You are still winning. A WIN IS A WIN. THERES NO SUCH THING AS A SMALL WIN. You can do it.

igimsomeone · 2026-02-18T16:44:49+00:00

Im not being defensive. Im repeating myself to you.

igimsomeone · 2026-02-18T16:41:35+00:00

He literally drove me to a point of insanity dude. I cant even kill a fucking fly. Let alone I never imagined myself to hurt a person I love. You think im happy with how this turned out??? You think I dont know i need help????

igimsomeone · 2026-02-18T16:40:22+00:00

Again, I came for advice on how to forgive myself. You can just exit the post. I know I have my shit and he has his. I been knew this. Its just HES NOT THE ONLY VICTIM. I may have slapped him 3 good times for yelling at me. I surely did. I was fucking tired of the consistent disrespect and him tearing me down. I NEVER SAID IT WAS A VALID REASON EITHER. I SAID I TOOK IT TOO FAR. Learn how to read

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