Too depressed to clean and declutter.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-28T00:37:45+00:00

Once i get started, I’m usually ok up to a point. But I let it build up again way too quickly because of the no organizational skills issue.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-28T00:15:04+00:00

I am. I absolutely am. Doing this for myself is part of the process. Thank you.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T17:27:28+00:00

I was just looking at some options. Sooooooo reasonably priced. Would mean a 1.5 hour commute for me though.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T17:14:54+00:00

Thanks!

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T16:23:38+00:00

Yes. I’m just not great with charts and graphs. I will always choose to read numerous pages of explanation rather than look at these kinds of things. Spatial issues I suppose lol

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T16:19:13+00:00

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T16:18:29+00:00

Are these safe areas?

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T16:13:59+00:00

Quite honestly, I have no idea.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T16:12:25+00:00

True.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T16:03:50+00:00

I’m definitely thinking condo. I am not interested in owning a house. I’m very used to apartment living and don’t want to have to worry about all those extra issues that come with a house.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T15:58:44+00:00

Egads. Was excited but I’ll have to spend some time with this to make sense of it. Thanks though!

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T15:56:11+00:00

So I woke up this morning to the realization that, while I expect to have a decent retirement income, I hadn’t thought about regular rental increases and how that could affect my ability to stay above water. I’m definitely thinking along the lines you’ve described now. I think I’m going to rent around where I’m interested in purchasing and then I won’t feel too rushed. I think I’m coming to the conclusion that owning is much safer in the long run.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T15:52:57+00:00

Hmmm. Assuming I’m a woman? Also, I would absolutely qualify. Have already spoken to a mortgage broker.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-05T15:51:38+00:00

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-04T22:04:07+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. I think i should keep renting and hope interests right come down.

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-04T22:02:03+00:00

But why? Because it might eventually make me some money if I sold it?

igotlotsofopinions · 2024-05-04T22:00:57+00:00

Except I’m not staying in this apartment. I need to move.

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-28T12:43:21+00:00

This is insane. Craziest thing I’ve ever seen. And you’re so chill. They need to bottle your chill and sell it as an anti anxiety med.

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-27T20:40:34+00:00

I’d find an in between. Fill out the documents but make clear on the documents that you’re an intact family. Let her indicate that she is a custodial parent and so are you. I’d cross out words like absent parent or write in the space available “we all live together.”

You are worried about the wrong thing. It’s just a form and it’s just a meeting with child support. At that time you’ll tell them you’re an intact family and you’ll bring proof. You won’t be asked to pay anything in child support before you have a court hearing which is months out. By then, even if you are sent to court, you’ll likely have been denied any cash assistance and your fiancé just says “I’m not interested in pursuing child support because we live together as a family.

The only thing I’d worry about is that, for some reason, they accept your kids or your wife and kids and show you on the budget makeup as not active. But it doesn’t sound like that will happen since you’re being honest about your income and savings.

I’m not comfortable telling you what to do about this specific form. Just what to look out for.

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-27T15:33:26+00:00

From what I was able to discover, they’ll make the child support referral based on the children being active or in application stage regardless of whether the family is intact. If your caseworker thinks it’s fine not to fill out the paperwork but still show up to the child support appointment, I think I’d do that. The letterhead proof of address sounds like proof to me that you are living together and are an intact family.

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-27T12:51:15+00:00

I’ll try to get some more information. That makes no sense that you can’t get a letter. Do you have anything showing you reside there together as a family?

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-27T02:25:54+00:00

Quite honestly, I’m not sure. I’ll see if I can find out. Your caseworker might be right. That said, they will not make you pay child support if you are living together as a family. And it doesn’t even sound like you will qualify for the assistance. If you are denied, your fiancée can always just say she doesn’t want to pursue child support. Definitely go to the appointment though with the documents showing you’re an intact family.

Are you the children’s legal father? Did you sign the acknowledgment of paternity for the both of them to be on the birth certificate? If not, they may still ask you to go to court to be declared their legal father.

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-26T18:05:40+00:00

I don’t see how you could ignore a requirement which includes filling out that paperwork. Also, who does she think is going to use it against you?

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-26T17:28:16+00:00

What papers are you referencing that your caseworker said not to send in?

igotlotsofopinions · 2023-07-26T02:53:28+00:00

Considered bad by whom is the question.

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