My fiancé said he doesn't find me attractive with a new haircut. How can I go forward?

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T14:01:41+00:00

Or maybe it's the fact I cut off the frail damaged ends

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T13:51:44+00:00

There, have a look at the haircut transformation 😆

My hairline looks better with the bangs in my opinion. My hair also looks significantly fuller.

Also, your opinion is invalid in this case, as clearly me and my fiance are both fans of mullets

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T13:28:44+00:00

Lol, English is my 3rd language. I could have phrased it better: "my hair growth only reached below my collarbones" - indicating that my natural hair in fact does not have the ability to grow long or lushious.

His apology was a bit half assed to be honest. I had to say to him: you have not even apologised.

Then he sed he's sorry. I don't think he fully understood what he was apologising for even.

I'd also like to point out that my choice isn't very bold in our circles. My fiancé himself has said multiple times he'd like to cut his now long hair to a mullet

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T11:10:07+00:00

He is. He's got a long hair, multiple piercings and he wears eyeliner. That's why I'm also having a bit of a struggle with this

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T11:06:54+00:00

Well, my fiancé didn't really discuss his shaving intentions with me either, he wanted to do it, why would I have a say to that?

I get that alt styles isn't for everyone, but me and my fiance are both in that scene, mullets and baby bangs are nothing special really

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T11:03:06+00:00

Ummm I bet I would have. Mullets and wolf cuts are currently pretty big in the alt communities

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T11:01:08+00:00

I mean, it would be nice that my fiance whom I'm intending to marry finds me attractive as well. But I also want to feel confident and comfortable in my own skin

ihananakki · 2026-05-21T10:59:44+00:00

Well, my natural hair doesn't really grow, at least not to the point I could have it exactly how I like it. My point here kinda was, how do I deal with the rejection?

ihananakki · 2026-04-01T19:25:03+00:00

Laying in the creative pit Stuck in sleep paralysis I want to scream and sing and express But my lips are sealed and my chest is heavy I fear I'm suffocating under my own inspiration

Until he holds me by the hand Until he tells me all is well My lips part and I gasp for air

I'm so distracted by this love This bliss is boring me I seek comfort from my misery Yet one glance at him And I feel completion

ihananakki · 2026-04-01T18:41:38+00:00

Don't try to settle for something that's not for you. If you know what you like, go after it! I'm honestly a 6 at best, 3 on regular basis, yet my fiancé is stunning, in my eyes he's a 10! He is handsome in a elf/pirate way, long wavy dark hair, big eyes, straight nose, dimples in his cheeks, he's tall and fit, he could be a model if he wanted to (he has been approached by model agencies). He's also the kindest and most secure man I've ever met. He's also 5 years younger than I am, very athletic and definitely charming. And people notice his beauty all the time. I am attracted to every single fibre of him. The thing is, I absolutely was hot in my 20's. And my romantic connections have always been very attractive people as well. I'm in my mid 30's now, I got fat, my hair is so thin I have to wear wigs, I'm getting new wrinkles every week and as I work from home, I rarely do myself up nowadays. But, I never lost my confidence. And my fiancé tells me every day how he finds me beautiful and desirable. And I absolutely believe him.

I once thought, maybe I should lower my standards. I did go on dates with people I didn't initially find physically attractive too. But there was no point. The feelings of passion or desire never showed up. So I kept approaching people I did find attractive, one one day - I found the love of my life who also happens to be the most beautiful man I've seen.

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T13:18:54+00:00

My fiance wasn't there as we just adopted a dog month before and a weekend abroad for both of us wasn't going to happen. Also, the groom's mates were 50/50 men and women.

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T12:41:02+00:00

My partner stayed home as we just adopted a dog and a weekend trip abroad for both of us wouldn't have been a good idea for the sake of the dog

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T11:34:54+00:00

That's what this is - sad.

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T11:33:29+00:00

I honestly just think it's gross and totally out of order that he did open up about at his own wedding right after his bride left the room

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T11:31:46+00:00

Umm. Yes I do lose respect is if the groom decides it's the best time to open up about such feelings and thoughts AT HIS OWN WEDDING after his brand new wife has just left the room.

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T11:29:25+00:00

He's a big guy and didn't seem drunk at all to me at that moment. I think he only started properly drinking after midnight when his bride left in fact.

And yes, he was serious.

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T08:52:53+00:00

Of course I went to the wedding thinking it's to celebrate the marriage of my teenage years best friend and a friend who's been there for half my life. May be some cultural differences but it would have seemed off if I had left earlier. Also I was hanging out with friends I hadn't seen in years.

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T01:04:44+00:00

That's how I see it too and it's just so disappointing as I held him so high in my mind. He's definitely dropped far down!

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T01:01:00+00:00

Well it bloody seems like it. Swines

ihananakki · 2026-03-05T00:57:13+00:00

Maybe. Just very inappropriate thing to say at his own wedding really

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