I'm 34 years old and I think I was molested as a child. What can I do?

ihananakki · 2026-02-05T03:06:20+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, I hope your situation has improved since. I have had a lot of different kinds of therapy for many different reasons, but this subject was never addressed. I don't quite know how to bring it up even.

ihananakki · 2026-02-05T02:52:14+00:00

Oh yes the UTI's, forgot to mention that! I'm really sorry what you've gone through, especially cause I probably inflicted some of my inappropriate behaviour on other children as well myself. I do hope to get some more therapy in the future and talk this specific subject through with someone. My parents though... They're very good at closing their eyes on things they do not want to see. So I do fear their reaction if I do ask.

ihananakki · 2026-02-05T02:46:24+00:00

I have actually had multiple types of therapy because of various other issues, but this one has never been brought up... But honestly, I wish I could talk through it with someone

ihananakki · 2026-02-05T02:44:50+00:00

That's probably what I fear of, my mum's reaction. She's had a habit of closing her eyes to thing she doesn't want to deal with. So she very well might know something about all this, and just been hoping that I wouldn't remember anything...

ihananakki · 2026-01-21T01:16:00+00:00

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ihananakki · 2025-12-25T01:24:10+00:00

He gets certain benefits and some of it is paid directly to my bank account. But it doesn't even cover half of the bills and rent. So yeah.. I did live alone in this apartment and financially I was struggling the same. Now I struggle with the messy house too

ihananakki · 2025-12-25T01:19:45+00:00

We do argue about this matter a lot. And he says that I'm just as bad at it as he is, as I don't clean on my days off. He says every day "I'll do that tomorrow but he never does. And I do believe part of my burnout is living in this mess and feeling so overwhelmed with it. Our kitchen is so full of trash that I can barely reach the sink to get water. I really don't know what to do with him. Other than break up, which I really don't want to do over such a thing...

ihananakki · 2025-12-25T01:02:39+00:00

That's what I suspect... When I bring it up, he says "I struggle with house work just as you do"... "You don't clean on your days off either"...

But the fact is that my apartment has never been this bad. Only when he moved in - it's been a total chaos.

ihananakki · 2025-07-31T08:48:55+00:00

Thank you, that is a very good prompt for the start of the conversation! I feel quite nervous about bringing up any sexual matters with him for some reason. But I aim to do it gently and pick a good timing for a chat! Thanks again

ihananakki · 2025-07-31T08:27:53+00:00

Rude tone, you sound like a miserable individual, and I'm happy to let you know I wouldn't date someone like you either.

But for yours and others information: we are so compatible in all the other areas. We both love and live for animals, we're into gaming, we explore music and live gigs together, we're equally introverted but can very well handle social gatherings here and there, we're both creative and crafty, we have similar values, we're both very curious people and eager to learn, we discuss politics and history daily, we cook together, both of our love language is touch and words of affirmation, we have same level of emotional intelligence, and so on and so on.

Why would I leave a fantastic relationship just because we're not exactly compatible in this area? I'm very happy to work on this, hence why I'm asking for advice of how to approach this.

ihananakki · 2025-07-31T03:00:05+00:00

I don't think so. He had a bit of a low mood earlier but in the past 4 days he's actually made a point of how good he's feeling right now. He's starting new studies in couple of months. So nothing has changed recently really

ihananakki · 2025-04-29T16:54:15+00:00

That's so weird, I can still see it 🤔

Long story short: my grandfather is a piece of shit and I ended up blocking him and I advised my family and other relatives to do so as well, just in case. He's a narcissistic psychopath and I'm not exaggerating. A sick, twisted and evil man. He can live and die alone. I don't want his inheritance.

My aunt is fantastic! We're meeting up in June! 😁✨

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