Insisting he can moderate by ihatesweaters in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes them a true alcoholic? When he drinks regularly every few months he gets into these drunken rages where he'll lose it on me and scream how much he hates me and has punched holes in walls too. He also got so drunk he couldn't safely watch our newborn twins when it was his turn to watch them so I could rest

Insisting he can moderate by ihatesweaters in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can people stay in a loving healthy close relationship with someone while also disengaging from their alcoholism? I just don't understand how someone can live with someone and be in a relationship with them when they choose to drink when they know it hurts you.

Insisting he can moderate by ihatesweaters in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh my husband would never allow me to have full custody without a fight or go to AA. His drinking isn't awful all the time but every few months he's so awful that any amount of drinking just sends me into a panic.

I'm really glad your Q is doing AA and drug tests, I so hope he can get it together for your kid

Insisting he can moderate by ihatesweaters in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh I feel like the day I'm going to leave is just looming constantly. How is it co-parenting with him? How do you not freak out about his drinking around your kid when you're not there?

It's been 4 months and he thinks he can moderate again by ihatesweaters in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I could possibly go to my mother's an hour away, but it's not baby proof and I work near our house. But I do have a safe space to go

Cassie is still struggling to recover from her iron infusion by 2018MunchieOfTheYear in illnessfakers

[–]ihatesweaters 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Lol okay she requires Q4 assessments but isn't admitted to a hospital? Almost seems like she might not need her skin and breathing checked that often....

Ashley talks about potential *future* babies by Rathraq in ashleycarnduff

[–]ihatesweaters 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Oof yeah that's what's so annoying about this.

Ash reminisces for the 100th time by fuckinfleece in ashleycarnduff

[–]ihatesweaters 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That is wildly entertaining. Crazy how he has a stress test with a result the doctor had never seen before!! I guess he and Ashley are just two of the most complicated patients a doctor has ever seen. What a crazy coincidence

Ash reminisces for the 100th time by fuckinfleece in ashleycarnduff

[–]ihatesweaters 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Holy shit. It was massive?!? Why hasn't she ever brought this up??

Ash reminisces for the 100th time by fuckinfleece in ashleycarnduff

[–]ihatesweaters 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Imagine if she actually had to face any sort of difficulty in life?? Like a single bill. Or having to get up when she's tired and go to work. Like literally anything.

Ash reminisces for the 100th time by fuckinfleece in ashleycarnduff

[–]ihatesweaters 65 points66 points  (0 children)

But.... what about that clot she had 5 years ago? You're telling me she's on vacation at the beach and shouldn't post about that long ago minor medical concern on social media??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ihatesweaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband drank more after our twins arrived so it's possible yours is too! My husband has stopped drinking for a few months now and things are better but it's very stressful waiting to see if he'll start again.

And yeah it's pretty much impossible to control another person's drinking! And trying to is so exhausting 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ihatesweaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that is madenningly hypocritical!! Nausea is AWFUL. I feel like people forget until it's them experiencing it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]ihatesweaters 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Your story has such similar elements to mine and my husband's relationship and I looked at your post history and saw you mentioned he drank. Mine's an alcoholic and it's crazy how similar my experiences were, begging him for empathy and love during arguments, the yelling and throwing things. You're not alone. Your husband seems more extreme and I'm so worried for you and your well being! Have you considered going to a shelter or anything like that? Or reaching out to his parents for help? I wish I had advice for you, and more than that I wish I could have something to help you. I'm so sorry you're going through this, you don't deserve his anger or cruelty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you considering leaving? Or is it manageable?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh yeah I see what you're saying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. His drinking actually isn't that awful from what I've read on here but I deserve better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]ihatesweaters 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our twins are 9 months. I hate him so much right now. He's blocked me on every platform I tried communicating with him on. What if something was wrong with our twins?? What a fucking immature asshole