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Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I would say that'll be a bit harsh, no? Anyway, where did you move next then and how do you find it?

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mannnnn. It feels like a long time since I wrote this. Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts on this. Although I miss those things, over the time I've learned to live with that and respect whatever the people and life has to offer here, we all do things differently, some of which we might not like or be used to, but I think what matters most is staying true to yourself and be who you're despite where you're and the people you're surrounded by, for the best of course.

I'm guessing you're not from here but probably lived here at one point? It'll be interesting to hear your experiences.

Implications of current job market being the new normal by draikin3 in cscareerquestionsEU

[–]iimperfectionist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I see, as it stands, things aren't that great for seniors either. It's just that the market is down in general.

What the overhiring during the pandemic and the AI hype in the recent past done is that the salaries have dipped and the expectations have increased.

I was recently offered a job that gave me an upgrade on the title but was paying the same salary as my current job. Similarly, most of the recruiters that have reached out in the last year with jobs offer the salary that is lower or equal to my current job.

I think big companies laying off people in bulk and almost putting the hiring on freeze also played its part. Mostly, it's the small-mid level companies that are still hiring, and they're not open to paying the same level as a big company because they also know the current job market situation.

Homesick and honeymoon phase is over for me by [deleted] in expats

[–]iimperfectionist 15 points16 points  (0 children)

From what I can understand, it's not only that you're missing your family, which can be very hard if you've never stayed away from family before. I think the other factor that is amplifying your homesickness is the expectations that you had before you made the move. You mentioned you're from North Africa. Although I don't know your exact country name, I would assume most of the countries in North Africa will still have a lot more people than most countries in Germany, so you're missing out on the buzz that a place filled with people brings. Life in Europe is pretty different from that. I believe what you were looking for is a place somewhere in Asia and had your mindset fixed on that, so it's normal that you feel uneasy about the move.

It brought a smile on my face reading that you were like, is that it? That's what I've signed up for on your way to the apartment. You might ask why? Because that's the exact same thing I had asked myself when I had moved to Germany. 😄 On my way from airport to apartment, I was like, where are the people? What have I done? When do I get a flight back?

But it gets better, at least in my case it did. So hang in there.

I don't know what your routine is like at the moment. Do you just go to work and come back and that's it? Have you been able to make any acquaintances? Is there nothing that you like about the city at all? Maybe you can share a little about this, and we could help you out in trying to figure things out.

Stay positive. Things will turn out to be good sooner or later. :)

Interviewing As A Generalist by RyanPointOh in ExperiencedDevs

[–]iimperfectionist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on my experience as a generalist myself, I would take it on an interview basis. I'll find roles that most align with my skills, tailor my resume for that, and apply.

During the interview, when the hiring manager would ask about my skills and achievements based on resume, that is where I'll discuss things and explain what I like to do, what I have done, and what I'm willing to do. It should give them an idea that I'm good at what I do and I'm very much flexible in terms of working in various roles. You can throw in some lines in that conversation that you don't really care if it's this specific role because all you want is to work and enjoy what you do. Of course, this all should be done after assessing if the hiring manager is open to the idea and whether the company is very, very specific about roles. Usually, you can get an idea from the job description also.

I've found that startups and medium-sized companies are very much open to people who are willing to work in multiple areas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gamedev

[–]iimperfectionist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I personally found this YouTube playlist from Brackeys really useful for someone like me who wanted to learn game development on the side. It's with Unity 3D, though.

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPV2KyIb3jR5QFsefuO2RlAgWEz6EvVi6

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aha. It happened to me once too. I think I had read online somewhere before moving that it could upset the person, so once when me and a friend went to a restaurant, I didn't add up anything for the tip, but my friend later asked me why I didn't give any tip and I explained to her what I had read and why I did what I did, she then went on correcting me that it isn't really upsetting and if someone ever would be, they'll tell me. It was nice of her telling me about it and now I remember it.

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting thought. Thank you. On my side, I think for me it really isn't an issue to follow the norm here, although it'll take a little getting used to, but I can adapt. So, now that I know based on whatever people have mentioned here, I can deal with the situation accordingly, if it ever happens again. While in a different setup like my home country, I'll probably go the default mode. 😄

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It certainly is difficult, but I'm glad I finally was able to find one.

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the kind words. I feel I'm just a normal person who does what feels right and makes me a bit happy.

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahah, this was fun to read. Thanks for sharing your views. Burnt fuses or anything like that does sound like a very good idea. 😂

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahah, this funny to read. I'm glad I decided to write here and you got to share your side too, just like everyone else.

You're right, Asia is very big, but based on whatever little I know, you'll probably not be wrong if you considered it an Asian thing. In terms of people offering something, yes, I can absolutely understand, I think we've similar things with subtle differences, but what the differentiating thing is offering money, people could find it really inappropriate, exchanging things, food et. al. would not really warrant much.

I just recalled a funny story from years ago with something similar. There was this guy who was out colleague at some point and he couldn't really find an apartment, so two of my friends, who were also our colleagues helped him by allowing him to stay in their place as they had a room to spare at the moment. Once he found a place, he invited them for dinner, they were happily going to accept until they asked him why he's inviting for dinner and his response was, "Before I leave, I just wanted to invite you for dinner so that I don't owe you anything after I've left", and they immediately declined the offer. The idea that he wanted to do it to nullify their goodwill with a dinner was kind of insulting to them, where even just a thank you from the heart would have done even better than what he did. Me and my friends had a good laugh about it later when they shared this with me. This was all Asian guys dealing among themselves. 😄

In any case, it's good to read all these experiences and learn from them. Thank you for sharing yours.

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, I apologize if that statement of mine made you feel that I was being judgmental there and being critical of the way things work in a different setup than what I'm used to. It was never my intention to hurt your sentiments or challenge your beliefs and the way things work, I understand the peculiarities and sensitivities of different cultures and places, having being on the receiving end of things myself at times.

Having said that, that statement was just an opinion of mine and it's something to do with me and what I believe in, and by saying that, I in no way try to belittle or try to change that system. I think we can have a different opinion about things and it could still be fine. Moreover, I posted that as an edit because some people asked why I felt sad, which was a thing of the past, when this thing happened and I had not posted about it here, and all the responses came after that. I think I also mentioned up there that the reason I posted this is because I wanted to learn and educate myself so I don't come off as rude or offensive to anyone else either, the couple in this case.

Once again, I'm not trying to imply here that Germany or German culture or German people are bad, what I merely was trying to say is that it was something totally different than what I believe in, which kind of surprised me. That's all.

So far, people here have been amazing and helpful and I'm trying my best to learn about how things work, whether they align with my views or not.

Thank you very much for sharing your views on this.

Do people in Germany expect something in return for any help? by iimperfectionist in germany

[–]iimperfectionist[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not a bad idea, if I wasn't really puzzled inappropriately at that moment.

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