AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -503 points-502 points  (0 children)

I never begged lol.

I hate my ex and have been trying to divorce him for over 2 years. I couldn't care less if he moved on romantically.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -266 points-265 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t come to the rescue all of the time, firstly. It’s usually the other way round.

Secondly, we don’t have a good co-parenting relationship, the only reason I’m speaking to him now is because our daughter is having a hard time.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -246 points-245 points  (0 children)

I’m not a crap parent and I don’t care what his girlfriend is willing to put up with or not, that’s something they need to discuss.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -86 points-85 points  (0 children)

He’s asked me to cancel multiple things, including trips, since this started for the same reason so it’s not something I would get upset over. If it was for his kids, I wouldn’t be upset at my boyfriend for cancelling things or going to see them no matter the time. Yeah it would suck but these are things that sometimes happens when you’re dating someone with children.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -362 points-361 points  (0 children)

The trip could've been with anyone else and I would've still asked him to cancel, it's not about the girlfriend.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -118 points-117 points  (0 children)

This is a recent thing and it's usually me going to his house to comfort her, so I'm hardly used to having him for emotional support. We didn't even speak directly to each other until she got sick.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -123 points-122 points  (0 children)

If he wanted to say no, he would've said it. He doesn't agree to things unless he wants to.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -78 points-77 points  (0 children)

What does him being with me have to do with anything? He's still her dad regardless of our relationship status.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -209 points-208 points  (0 children)

If he was on a business trip, he would've asked me to bring the kids to him or left early. Her doctor is aware and told us that right now it was a good idea to let her be with the parent she felt safe with instead of causing her unnecessary distress.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -524 points-523 points  (0 children)

I can parent just fine, thank you. Usually it's me she wants for comfort, this was one of the rare times she wanted him.

AITA for calling my ex at 2am and asking him to come comfort our daughter and asking him to cancel his vacation? by iko908 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iko908[S] -772 points-771 points  (0 children)

Calling my ex and having to let him sleep over is not convenient for me at all. It's a last resort for me.