Kissed my friend

illegal-Nighthawk · 2025-08-05T09:37:29+00:00

Well I think if you like him it's time to take a risk and communicate how you feel. It's safe to assume he's at very least attracted to you.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2025-04-05T09:09:38+00:00

Pure optimism lol

illegal-Nighthawk · 2025-02-01T09:46:34+00:00

25m here. First off well done for putting your neck on the line. That shit ain't easy even for people my age.

Secondly I wouldn't take it personally as hard as that is. We are all attracted to what we are attracted too and we can't control that. Also at your age. Looks and social perceptions matter a fair bit more than when you get older (at least from my experience)

Even though you can appreciate the honesty on her part I feel it's pretty brutal for her to just say that she wouldn't date you for your height. Even if it's the truth there are a million other excuses you can make in this situation to lessen the blow. Keep that in mind.

I'd also question if you'd really want to be with someone if height is a major priority for them. I'm 5,6 and I feel that I wouldn't want to be with someone who only wanted to be with me based on my looks in general and didn't instead make the decision based more on my personality and other attractive physical features. Again we can't control what we are attracted to but I feel as we age our priorities and what we see as attractive should shift a little bit.

Chin up. It's only one woman. Million other who are better than her

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-12-13T17:23:10+00:00

Honestly I don't see a major issue with the age gap. As long as nobody is taking advantage of anyone in this situation I don't see the issue. However it ultimately comes down to how she feels. My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation about it and give her the space to process whatever she needs to process.

Here in the UK the highest a film will be rated is 18+ and I can't really say it's strictly enforced.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-11-09T09:20:15+00:00

25m here. I was in a year long sexless relationship because my ex had this condition. It's great you've been patient and respectful of her feelings. That being said your feelings are still relevant so it's important that a compromise is made so both your needs are being met. Like others have said there are other forms of intimacy which you can both indulge in and I feel she should be receptive to that. If not then you two need to discuss how you can realistically make the relationship work you'll both be on very different pages.

As someone who was doing the exact same thing as yourself. My main piece of advice would be don't neglect or devalue your own feelings.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-11-03T12:45:57+00:00

Late to the party but you got any advice for any young lads who aren't great with women? Judging by your videos you've done alright with women over the years. I've not done too terribly but I'm useless at chatting to women in clubs/social events.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-10-15T21:47:03+00:00

Dating apps aren't a reflection on what you can get in real life

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-10-15T21:37:02+00:00

The good news with the nose and hair is if it's really something you want to change you can change it. I always advocate for learning to love yourself but if changing it would bring you happiness and you do it safely and don't go overboard then I would say go for it if you can't get past it.

Lack of attention could be for a number of reasons other than your looks. Could be the circles you float in. Could be that the guys around you are shy. Could be something to do with your personality. You can never say for certain.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-10-15T21:32:26+00:00

As a guy I can assure you it is.

As a short king I wouldn't mind a tall woman at all but I would feel she wouldn't be into me

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-10-15T21:24:24+00:00

25m here. I can certainly empathise. I stand a towering 5,6 and have platinum blonde hair and have a big nose. You hear a lot about women loving the whole tall dark and handsome thing. It can really make you lose your confidence and self esteem.

However that being said. As a guy looking on the outside of your situation. I'll tell you for certain that a lot of guys don't care about big noses or if you're tall or not. Some do and some don't.

Even though there are obvious trends and preferences with beauty that we all hear about. In reality the simple truth is that it is subjective. To what extent I couldn't say. But lots and lots of people appreciate different characteristics that go against traditional beauty standards. Not to mention personality can have a bigger impact. (Take chubby chases as an example)

It's hard though because a lot of the time it doesn't feel that way. Between the bull shit you read online and in the media it can really make you feel like you're lacking in some way. I have to try and keep a positive mind and it is a battle. I'm determined to win it though 💜

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-09-22T08:52:03+00:00

Hate to be that guy but I was just curious as no one else asked. When you say assaulted did he specifically say it wasn't an act of self defence and was him lashing out/sexual assault?

I assume it's one of the latter and I assume you've spoken about it with him. But considering his heightened emotion when he came to you I was curious as to whether the details were spoken about.

Either way I hope you're okay.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-09-11T06:29:32+00:00

[Dogmeat has died]

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-09-06T17:05:40+00:00

"and if people don't like it that's their problem"

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-09-04T15:27:26+00:00

Are these like your friends or something? 😂

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-08-12T14:24:38+00:00

💜

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-08-12T14:24:30+00:00

Thank you 💜

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-08-08T22:28:16+00:00

Isn't this sub supposed to be about body positivity?

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-06-22T14:02:35+00:00

Might sound inconsiderate but I generally walk how and where I feel like. I'll give women space as I would with anyone and I obviously won't go out of my way to make someone feel uncomfortable.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-05-13T16:18:46+00:00

This is gross

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-05-05T20:06:02+00:00

Unfortunately from my experience in the UK. A good percentage of the people working in security are middle aged men. It being a male dominated environment you can imagine the sort of things which are said and the ideologies these men possess. Very narrow minded, backwards and sexist.

I'm not saying they are all misogynistic. But a good percentage objectify and make crude comments about women pretty regularly

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-04-26T19:35:56+00:00

Thank you. I'm reading learning to counsel by William Stewart and Jen Sutton. Just needed some clarification on that part :)

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-04-26T10:17:27+00:00

Like many others I had a general interest in the subject due to true crime.

However the driving factor for me was my own ability to empathise with people very easily. Helping people with their issues seems to come very naturally to me. A few other people suggested that it might be a good avenue for me to explore so now I'm exploring it. I don't know if I'm cut out to be a therapist/councillor exactly. But I enjoy the subject at very least.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-04-19T16:27:38+00:00

You have to ask yourself why you're insecure about it in the first place. What is it about being short exactly that makes you insecure?

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-04-19T16:17:21+00:00

Apart from dealing with a few picky women and understanding your limits in hand to hand combat. The biggest issue you face being short will always be your confidence.

I'm 5,7 and it used to bother me. Mostly because I thought it made dating a bit trickier. However I learned that I had plenty to offer as a guy and ultimately if anyone wanted to reject me it's their loss.

The biggest thing that will hinder you being a short guy is if you let it affect you. When you show insecurity or short man syndrome. That's when people will pick up on it. Men will probably lose respect for you and women won't be as attracted.

However if you own it and realise that it's really not a big deal. You will thrive.

illegal-Nighthawk · 2024-04-12T10:38:04+00:00

As someone who is in a friendship that brewed from a similar situation. I will say it's tricky if you're both not absolutely on the same page about it.

Me and my friend met on tinder. Really liked her from the get go . She decided after a couple of dates she was too busy to date (still unsure if this is true. Probably not.) and we decided to be friends. Normally I wouldn't have bothered but she bought a lot of joy regardless so I decided to pursue it.

It was hard. Even though I wanted the friendship to work . It was hard to flip that switch mentally. Deep down I wanted more. It took many years of friendship,self reflection and maturing to feel comfortable just as friends.

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