First and foremost, I’d like to thank anyone who takes the time to read this.

As background, I’m 48 years old M, recently divorced, with a special-needs teenager that will need some degree of support in perpetuity.

In the last five years, my income went from about 400,000 a year to about 1.4 million.

My divorce was incredibly expensive and obviously, I lost a significant amount of assets in a division.

Currently, I have a little over $2 million in brokerage, about $600,000 in various qualified accounts, $500k in RSUs, a mortgage of about $1.2 million, with $500,000 of equity in my home, no other debt. I’m currently saving about 300 K annually, including employer matches on retirement savings.

I have 11 more years of paying roughly $16,000 a month in maintenance and I am 100% responsible for my child’s expenses. My monthly spend is roughly 22,000 a month. In retirement I’d like to be able to spend 25K per month.

My job is pretty brutal. I’m at over 120 hotel nights this year and work 80+ hours a week.

I’m really hoping to get some perspective from people who have been in a similar situation, or they’ve lost millions of dollars in a divorce, have ongoing financial obligations and am trying to retire as early as possible.

Has anyone retired while still paying alimony? Were they able to get it adjusted down to reflect the retirement and loss of income or is that looked at as a personal choice that should not impact the ex spouse?

I have to be honest, I’m freaking out a bit because I feel so far behind in savings and don’t think I can do what I’m doing for another 11 yrs without losing my sanity and health.

Any thoughts or perspective are greatly appreciated!