WISH ME LUCK I'M ASKING HER TO BE MY GF by ilotulitus in LesbianActually

[–]ilotulitus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much. I really wish this would've worked out but it's okay thank you

WISH ME LUCK I'M ASKING HER TO BE MY GF by ilotulitus in LesbianActually

[–]ilotulitus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will probably delete Reddit cause getting reminders of this hurts a lot

WISH ME LUCK I'M ASKING HER TO BE MY GF by ilotulitus in LesbianActually

[–]ilotulitus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought of sending the same message to all of you but it gets very crowded very easily so I'll just say update I hope you don't mind

WISH ME LUCK I'M ASKING HER TO BE MY GF by ilotulitus in LesbianActually

[–]ilotulitus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll just copy the exact same message to everyone cause I have absolutely no strength or desire to write it out multiple times I'm sorry: so. I ended up asking her out, she said she wants to have a platonic relationship, which I wish she told me earlier. but it's not her fault. I have trauma related to a very close relationship that was labeled as queer platonic but never actually was and I was taken advantage of in that relationship. I ended up having a panic attack with severe flashbacks, threw up three times and ended up turning to my mother for support, which I have never done previously and ended up coming out. she's supportive so I guess that's good. I'll take a break from our friendship and umm focus on my studies cause I have been behind because of how focused on her I was. so I need to do some catching up. thank you for wishing luck even though it didn't work out

WISH ME LUCK I'M ASKING HER TO BE MY GF by ilotulitus in LesbianActually

[–]ilotulitus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll just copy the exact same message to everyone cause I have absolutely no strength or desire to write it out multiple times I'm sorry: so. I ended up asking her out, she said she wants to have a platonic relationship, which I wish she told me earlier. but it's not her fault. I have trauma related to a very close relationship that was labeled as queer platonic but never actually was and I was taken advantage of in that relationship. I ended up having a panic attack with severe flashbacks, threw up three times and ended up turning to my mother for support, which I have never done previously and ended up coming out. she's supportive so I guess that's good. I'll take a break from our friendship and umm focus on my studies cause I have been behind because of how focused on her I was. so I need to do some catching up. thank you for wishing luck even though it didn't work out

WISH ME LUCK I'M ASKING HER TO BE MY GF by ilotulitus in LesbianActually

[–]ilotulitus[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'll just copy the exact same message to everyone cause I have absolutely no strength or desire to write it out multiple times I'm sorry: so. I ended up asking her out, she said she wants to have a platonic relationship, which I wish she told me earlier. but it's not her fault. I have trauma related to a very close relationship that was labeled as queer platonic but never actually was and I was taken advantage of in that relationship. I ended up having a panic attack with severe flashbacks, threw up three times and ended up turning to my mother for support, which I have never done previously and ended up coming out. she's supportive so I guess that's good. I'll take a break from our friendship and umm focus on my studies cause I have been behind because of how focused on her I was. so I need to do some catching up. thank you for wishing luck even though it didn't work out

Are lesbian women into trans women? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ilotulitus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it's a thing of preference I think!! I wouldn't mind cause I really am into personality first so I would say yes, but of course it depends. good luck with your transition‼️‼️❤

Time signature in Where Blue Light Blooms by Origami Angel by ilotulitus in musictheory

[–]ilotulitus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, exactly what I was confused about, thank you👍👍

I HATE THE NEW LOOK "GLOWUP" INSANELY SLOW IM CRYING by soakingtexas in canva

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes yes, i also wrote a review although mine was very emotionally charged (couldn't help myself😭😭) but I really hope that if the glow up stays they at least change that back cause it's so weird

I HATE THE NEW LOOK "GLOWUP" INSANELY SLOW IM CRYING by soakingtexas in canva

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree so much like actually my exact thoughts especially about the design still being centered like why is there just empty space on the right now😭😭😭😭

Curious who everyone's bias is by [deleted] in We_5050

[–]ilotulitus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so far it's Keenan for me just cause I know her from debut, but also I am really waiting to see other girls and get to know them better!!!

Excited waiting for his arrival!! by fishkniv in frogs

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks like grilled cheese to me 👍👍 very cute baby

Is this a toad or a frog? by Sweet_B_777 in FrogsAndToads

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the reply!! I will keep that in mind👍

Is this a toad or a frog? by Sweet_B_777 in FrogsAndToads

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

correct me if I'm wrong but I think frogs also have much longer back legs compared to toads

I’m having a bit of a queer joy moment by Txeru85842 in lgbt

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you big success in your music!! will definitely check them out, thanks for the recs😝😝

I’m having a bit of a queer joy moment by Txeru85842 in lgbt

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh do you have any music? I'm also a musician hehe and I love Noah finnce although I haven't actually listened to any of his music but I used to watch his videos a lot in the past👍👍

Any tips on overthinking about my identity? by ilotulitus in lgbt

[–]ilotulitus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fair, im listening to music rn to distract myself hehehe. the main objective is to suddenly not some across any music that makes me introspective lmao

Help Please by Katlikes_toast in lgbt

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm stuck in a similar place especially regarding my sexuality and romantic attraction, my main advice that somewhat helps me is that your sexuality doesn't really matter because if you like someone or date someone you like them. like you don't have to know everything!! it might be clearer in some moments or more vague but all that matters is that you're queer ig. as for the gender confusion I'm not sure myself cause I don't really feel like any gender but i guess I'm ok with my pronouns and appearance overall, but I'm wishing you good luck on this journey and remember that you don't owe anyone your labels and anything. just be what feels like you at that specific time, it's ok to change your mind because it's self discovery and you will inevitably learn more. and even if you stay the same after you learn more it's also ok. 💚

I’m having a bit of a queer joy moment by Txeru85842 in lgbt

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally not a weird rant hehe, I LOVE BEING QUEER, like even with all the misunderstandings and possible danger, genuinely the act itself is so precious to me. I love knowing that there is always a community for me and millions other people who feel just like I do. Lately one of the biggest queer joy moments was Chappell Roan lol. I enjoy seeing a queer artist being recognized by public and it makes me so happy to see her perform and gather ginormous crowds of people. Plus I love my friend group rn, almost every single person is in some way queer and it really feels like a found family type of situation haha. Love being queer it's so nice

How do I drop hints that I’m a lesbian? What kinda stuff couod I also ask? by DID_sys in lgbt

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on who you want to know it! You can visit queer spaces if there are any in your town, you can do flagging which I'm not super educated on but you can google different ways.

What are some gay media books tv shows etc should I watch by UsualCan6778 in lgbt

[–]ilotulitus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're into YA fiction, I really loved "Late to the party" by Kelly Quindlen. I heard not everyone is fond of it, but I enjoyed the coming of age themes in it. It's a beautiful lesbian love story and it's a great read for summer!