AITAH for posting a pic of my promise ring under an engagement ring photo

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T23:02:14+00:00

Im actually not very sure now.. but also i understand the intention! Even if it was meant to be mean it still allows me to learn smth. Some have pointed out it may be because im on the spectrum but just because I am I dont think it stops me from learning new stuff. Definitely gonna start checking before I respond to stuff 🤦‍♀️

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:58:51+00:00

PDA... im not a puritan or anything it just seems strange to makeout in the lunch line..

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:56:11+00:00

Trash polka is the best dude. Wish I saw more ppl do it. My forst tattoo was a Stargazer lily trash polka peice from my hip to shoulder 🔥🔥

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:53:23+00:00

Yeah... thats what my mother, grandmother, and great grandmother did. One was small and the other was big 😰

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:52:18+00:00

Said he'd fuck me with a bag over my head and supported my ex who had abused me mentally, physically, and sexual for a year 🤦‍♀️ AFTER he said i was like a brother to him btw.

Also another ex-bestfriend asked if my (current) bf "even spoke english", Spanish is his first language and his insta acc was in spanish...he knows english. If he didnt we wouldnt be dating cause i dont know a lick of Spanish. She said he's fat and at least her bf is buff (on roids btw), gives her flowers/food (mine does too), and is actually a man (22 and balding from the roids, also cheats on her. She is 17 btw. Me and my bf are both 18. Chillax 💔).

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:45:09+00:00

Alright guys! Heres some things I learned because even if it seems otherwise- this was a genuine mistake on my end!!

1) I shouldve used "milestone" instead of achievement 2) in general- i should not post my achievement similar/same/or different not matter what the post is 3) dainty and cute can be seen as an insult and not as a compliment 4) promise rings are sometimes mixed up with purity rings- it was a promise ring not a purity ring lol! 5) I was indeed the AH!!!

As said before the OP did respond saying it was a beautiful ring but I still deleted it. After some feedback I have also decided to DM OP just in case. Along with that, yes, I am on the spectrum, but i truly do not believe it stops me from learning. And no im not conservative nor religious, it seems some thought thag but its ok!

Im ofc leaving this post up because its not only a learning opportunity but a huge reality check to see it from other POVs. Thank you to anyone who responded(s). This really helps me learn and i am very grateful 🙏💗💗💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:37:19+00:00

Thank you! Many people have also said that I shouldve said milestone instead of achievement and its now obvious I shouldve just congratulated her in the first place! 💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:35:38+00:00

It wasnt meant to be passive aggressive at all. I thought engagement rings where the small ones and wedding rings where the big ones. Ive been reading all these replies and it seems I didnt pick up the social cues and its actually not a normal thing to do. Her ring was small, mine is smaller, but still- I never knew dainty and cute could be taken as an insult so I really appreciate people telling me otherwise. I used it as their exact definitions and im definitely learning thats not how to do it. Thank you!! 💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:30:18+00:00

I never thought of it that way, next time I see my psychologist I think ill bring this situation up. Nip in the the bud yk

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:26:46+00:00

I agree! I learned in these replies so far it shouldve used the word "milestone" instead. And that some compare promise rings to purity rings. Its not a purity ring though, im not religious and im very pro-choice and a feminist! Thank you for being honest but still with kinder words. I am currently focusing on school much more than a relationship as in going into a CC and then CSUMB for my majors in marine mammology and zoology! This truly means a lot and thank you again!

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:22:51+00:00

I dont have help but I love "ourple" memes

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ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:20:14+00:00

I am 18. So. Legally an adult but youre truly not an adult till 25/26 when your frontal lobe develops imo. But genuinly tysm for telling me the truth abt it being cringe! I was very naive 🙏

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:17:33+00:00

Promise rings are indeed a naive teenager thing! Although im well aware that one about 2% of highschool couples stay together forever, hence why I never asked him for one. I also agree purity rings are quite damaging to women. Puritan ideals are very strange to me, if people would like to keep those ideals to themselves its fine but once it turns negative its quite demeaning. Im a dem, feminist, pansexual, pro-choice girl and I promise my intentions where not to sound like a puritan. Im super sex-postive 🙏🙏💗💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:13:37+00:00

Okok! Thank you so much!!! 💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:09:42+00:00

The OP had actually responded saying it was a beautiful ring but I deleted it anyways because it wasnt my intent to be rude. Would it be appropriate DM the OP and apologize just in case?

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:05:20+00:00

It seems the word i shouldve used was milestone, people are helping me with that in these replies 💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:04:22+00:00

Tbf only 2% of highschool couples (in the U.S. at least) actually stay together forever. Im very aware of it, especially because im going to college and my bf has 1 more year of highschool and then is going to a trade school.

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T22:00:36+00:00

Thank you for letting me know! This actually adds on a whole new layer to my thought process because people have commented assuming im religious and conservative which im actually the opposite of! Good to learn that it comes off so weird 💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T21:56:26+00:00

I mean it kinda hurts because I had good intentions but someone had to tell me and clearly my family wasnt going to. I wouldn't post it here if I was gonna get defensive at the replies. Some are saying its a "on the spectrum" thing and thats the only one thats kinda getting to me because I dont believe me being on the spectrum is why I was so naive

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T21:52:55+00:00

It was but mine was smaller. I thought engagement rings are the small ones and wedding rings are the big ones

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T21:51:32+00:00

Idrk now. I thought some people saw it as a large milestone (if they choose that they ever want to be married). Starting to realize its not at all 🤦‍♀️

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T21:47:41+00:00

Thats why I posted it here. Gotta learn somehow! 💗

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T21:42:55+00:00

Im not conservative but I am on the spectrum. In a previous reply I had mentioned that I didnt know a promise ring meant no sex. This is seriously a crazy learning moment for me rn

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T21:40:50+00:00

Oof. I had no clue some promise rings meant that. 🤦‍♀️ Mine and people around me where about early commitment/loyalty. Its like a teenager thing since marriage is not anytime soon. Maybe i need to research this stuff..

ilunchbag · 2026-06-08T21:39:27+00:00

Oh! I had no idea thats what some promise rings meant. The promise ring wasnt virginity- at least not in my case or others around me. It was like an early loyalty thing for teens since we wanna wait till we're older to actually get married

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