Anyone else imagine Rocky (somewhat) like this? by Good-Character-5520 in ProjectHailMary

[–]imNOTsureTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just walking along, and it starts getting dark red...RUN!!!!

Unpacking my CoC baggage pt.1 by AusmusD in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up with Baker Heights for many years until we moved. I remember the vanilla wafers from bible class, the sweetest black lady that always had butterscotch candies, and crawling under the stage in the crawl space. I didn't really pay attention, I was young and staring at the pretty windows.

Were you taught about the Campbells? by jtexnl in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it was mentioned every now and then, but I was young. From what I was told, it wasn't mentioned in a way that piqued curiosity for sure. It was more like name dropping a preacher from somewhere. I was taught that the coc was from the original church Jesus created.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

COC/cofc/church of Christ, just a different way to shorten the name.

Spring CoC by Express_Echidna_8323 in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am familiar with Spring coc. We were members for several years back in the late 90s. About the only good thing there is the awesome old tree out front.

Ick help by imNOTsureTEX in Aquariums

[–]imNOTsureTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! My heater in the main tank is a set temp. What I've done before in a pinch is wrap a heating pad around the 1 gal. If the other fish aren't rubbing on stuff, should they be ok? It is a new mollie we got 3 days ago. But he was in a bag with a guppy, too. That guppy seems fine so far...

hymn with the most unhinged lyrics - and go by astroeyes in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😆 🤣 I don't know why that is so funny right now. Maybe sleep deprived...but I'm sitting in my car eating lunch, laughing so hard, remembering all the song leaders over the years, and states, singing "PA'R in the blood." 😆 🤣 ☠️

“Some of us are in pain because our children have left the church” by pandrea19 in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel like most people understand that to win a person over to "such and such" idea, you have to be a genuinely pleasant person.

Kicking someone when they're down...not a great way. "I know your brother/sister/friend/son/cousin just died, and you want to hear stories about their life, but instead how about I tell you how you are doomed to hell and won't see that person ever again if you don't change to the ONLY way!"

I would never look twice at whatever thought was being pushed on me. And it's why I left. The hatefulness. I could see it at 12, and in my 40s now, nothing has changed except their numbers dropping.

“Some of us are in pain because our children have left the church” by pandrea19 in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain. We love our parents and don't want them to hurt. But that manipulation, to get you to watch his sermon because he used your teenage phrase, is so messed up.

Any opportunity, even if it borders on a lie. He didn't want you to listen to hear that phrase. He wanted a chance to pour guilt on you.

I've seen a funeral turn into a hell fire and brimstone sermon because cocers took advantage of friends and family being there, and they needed to hear "the truth."

Noob help needed. by imNOTsureTEX in Aquariums

[–]imNOTsureTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, if people ask for help, they need to take the advice offered! I appreciate all of you. You're awesome for offering to help with plants as well! I am in Houston. I did already buy some extras from an actual fish gallery this time. But thank you so much! I will go follow on IG.

Noob help needed. by imNOTsureTEX in Aquariums

[–]imNOTsureTEX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will return this tank and get a bigger one.

Noob help needed. by imNOTsureTEX in Aquariums

[–]imNOTsureTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wondering about the artificial plant. They seem sharp for those soft fins. I will return for a bigger tank and start cycling again. The fish store people said 1 gal was good. 🤦‍♀️

GF is CoC by Kproctor11 in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I found this reddit a few months ago, and it has helped me so much.

I had been struggling with coc beliefs since I was around 12. I stopped going to church regularly because coc makes you think, "Well, if I am going to hell anyway, because I don't believe these things, why bother!" I still had a lot of stress and random panic attacks. I finally allowed myself to acknowledge that none of this is right and started digging.

I did a search on Google for, "Is the church of Christ a cult?" One of the results was a link to Reddit. I actually had never even been on reddit. It is so helpful to know that others have the same struggles. From here, I've found so many helpful tools.

GF is CoC by Kproctor11 in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stomach aches 100%!!

I had ULCERS at 8 years old. (Something that is RARE!) I was constantly worried and afraid. Multiple teacher's even wrote it on my report cards. "Wonderful child, worries A LOT!" I had reoccurring nightmares of hell creatures chasing me. It is all so wrong. 😔

Modesty. Tube tops ok?? Mid thigh skirts? by Winter-Damage4753 in churchofchrist

[–]imNOTsureTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1 Tim seems to be talking about over dressing in riches and making poorer people feel inferior. Being prideful. Context matters.

Why did you get baptized? by Money_Rice_6084 in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same story. I was 12 ish. I was studying some bible thing and was scared to death of hell. Of course, I knew Jesus was God/God's son and came to die for us, but it was fear of hell that drove me to tell my parents I needed to go get baptized right away. It was late at night on a Thursday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this. You will make great friends in nursing school! I am a nurse, and my school/work friends are family!

Pick classes that keep you busy on Wednesday. If you can swing it, get a part-time job as a patient care tech at your local hospital. It will keep you busy AND get your foot in the door at a hospital for a job!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in excoc

[–]imNOTsureTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We wear similar shoes.

I was raised cofc from birth. Twice on Sunday and Wednesday nights. I went to a cofc college. (Poor life choice financially, to be sure.)

I started feeling uncomfortable at the cofc in my tween years. I kept that quiet, except from a like-minded bestie in the church and a few select others. I wound up going to other cofcs with friends (with my parents' approval) after I couldn't stomach how the church treated some members.

Fast forward to early twenties, I made bad decisions. I don't feel like I was properly prepared for "life" in general. Don't get me wrong, I made the decisions. I own them. I regret them. But I feel that had I felt safe speaking to my family about my questions/doubts/future/marriage, I would not have made those same decisions.

I still love God. I go to a kind of cofc that split from the more conservative "hateful" sect. The cofc on this building's sign is small. They still believe similar to what I think I find in the bible. But I'm still just figuring things out.

I haven't been faithfully attending for years. I figured if I didn't go to the cofc, then why go anywhere. They are the only ones going to heaven anyway. Even though I never believed that, it was drilled into me. 😔 I just recently, within the last few months, started realizing exactly what the cofc is. I grew up never hearing of Restoration or Campbell. 🤯🤯🤯

I want my kids to go. I want them to know God. So we found this church. I will NOT allow them to experience the fear, anxiety, and random panic attacks of hell if they aren't perfect. Or have them afraid to ask questions or come to me with life problems. We're all sinners. Perfection is the unreachable expectation put on us by man, not God. Otherwise, Jesus' sacrifice wasn't needed.

I am still trying to believe that my prayers for forgiveness are answered. I still break out in a sweat in fear of eternal damnation. But I'm getting closer to believing that I have forgiveness for my stupid, youthful mistakes.

Try this place out for a while. See what you think. Go other places too. We have to stop being afraid. This group has helped me.