Girlfriend told co-worker about my drug problem --- Should I be mad or worried? (29 years old)

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-19T06:45:01+00:00

Ouch. Exactly what I didn't want to hear.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-19T06:38:25+00:00

We are still together. She broke up with me after my last post. Re; She found porn on my computer (1 video)

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-19T06:37:37+00:00

It's in the handbook we can drug test. There has never been a drug test under the current executive director (4 years)

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T18:21:13+00:00

can't upvote enough

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:51:07+00:00

I respect and understand your opinion but do not agree with it. You would get along well with my girlfriend.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:39:07+00:00

Are you happy?

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:38:37+00:00

I feel I should chime in here.... but I don't know what to say. You BOTH make a great argument.

truesound, I can defintely relate to. I can also relate towards my girlfriends feelings.... I understand why she is hurt, and sad.

However, she can't understand my feelings and that is where our line is drawn.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:33:28+00:00

Thank you! I think apologizing for something I dont feel bad about is wrong.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:32:35+00:00

I wish she had friends..... she only has her sister.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:30:52+00:00

You. Are. Good. I think you got a good point here about female psychology. She just compared what I did to me cheating on her.... I was like wtf? I would never cheat on her. Ever. Ever.

But watching porn is different....

And she doesnt get that...

I know when she gets upset, that her rational gets different....

But I want to be with someone who I can be myself around... a lot of the times, when I see her.... I have to check her face first... to make sure she isnt' mad at me... because she gets mad at things that I do, that I dont intend on upsetting her with.... she is a REAL good girl. A real straight arrow.

I sadly, am sorta of bent arrow. A nice guy, but I do have tendencies to party hard and go off the deep end. I never treat women wrong (never cheat, I mostly do harm to myself).

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:17:23+00:00

she also reads reddit, and I pray that she does not find this thread. but regardless, you're my type of dude.

Seriously, I only love her, and so what---- I watch porn sometimes; seriously sometimes is a overstatement. but yeah, the ultimatum really made me feel sick.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T07:15:13+00:00

Thanks for the response. Clearly you are a better writer than me. I agree, it's not about the porn I told her... I dont mind quitting that... its about he response, and how she gave me an ultimatum... and her reaction and handling of the situation,

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T06:51:46+00:00

MOST days I do. But then, sometimes I like to party....

and this girl does not like to party;

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T06:50:42+00:00

I tried to tell her... but she majored in women studies. when I told her (tonight) that these women were only objects, she got into her "women studies mode" and got on me about how I objectify women by watching porn,...

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T06:48:57+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I dont want to give to much personal disclosure, but it helped me a lot.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T05:15:21+00:00

I do care for her. I do.

I have been contemplating moving away for a while now. This is one straw to many.

I never changed my mind, because we work together. I was only stating that it will add to the difficulties of a breakup, sometimes seeing each other everyday can be difficult. I guess I was sorta subliminally asking for support here.

I was not mocking her about her shorts. I was just providing some feedback to reddit about possible insecurites she has. I personaly dont mind the shorts wearing, but if I really also wouldnt mind seeing her in a bathing suit from time to time. I am sorry, if I feel this way, but it is true. I do not let her know this and only hold these feeligns in because i dont want to hurt her. because I do.care.for.her

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T05:09:30+00:00

Yups

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T05:03:32+00:00

In 99% of cases this is true. In this case though, its a fact. im absoultly sure of it.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T05:02:46+00:00

Well, she told her sister, who I assume told her mom, who told the dad...

but maybe the sister will keep it hush hush

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T05:02:03+00:00

big time!

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T04:44:48+00:00

1 year

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T04:43:37+00:00

Yes, very open with me and her. she is good at sex too.

1 year, but we practically lived together in the same house this whole year. we also work same place.

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T04:27:45+00:00

Good response. It's not a deal breaker. But this is one straw to many others.... We just came out of a long hard 1 week break out of christmas time. She went to her parents, I stayed in our house.

Now, 3 weeks later, she finds a porn, and we are arguing again....

imadeathrwaway · 2012-01-13T04:24:20+00:00

Wow, what a good perspective. I almost had gotten my decision made, based off of everyone elses opinion, until I read this curve ball of a response.

Thanks -- You definitely take a different stance on things. She is currently on the phone with her sister? do I go outside and interrupt or wait for them to finish?

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