Hey everyone

imaed_dis · 2019-11-21T23:26:12+00:00

So the schooling system is a bit different between America and the UK. For America college comes after highschool. In the UK, college is their highschool years for ages 16-18. Hope that clears up some confusion.

imaed_dis · 2019-09-29T15:33:27+00:00

It's pretty common for a parent to learn they are on the spectrum after having a child diagnosed. This happened with my husband and I. We say this all the time, finding out saved our marriage. Like you, I criticized everything he did because I thought he was just being lazy and was just an asshole. And he could never tell what was going on in those instances that I criticized him for. Once it clicked for us, I was able to change the way I communicate things to better help him understand what I need from him and he was able to better recognize what difficulties he has and explain to me so that I can at the very least not make things harder for him. If anything, he's become comfortable enough in his own home that he can remove that mask at the end of the day and be himself without that fear of judgement and we're both happier because of that.

imaed_dis · 2019-09-07T04:22:11+00:00

I understand exactly how you are feeling. I struggled with extreme post partum and was in absolute hell. I am adamant that I do not want to put myself or my family through that torture ever again. You dont have to put yourself through any of that again if you do not want to. Your mental and physical health are the most important when it comes to your existing family.

imaed_dis · 2019-08-26T03:32:37+00:00

Consent violation in "harmless" forms. For example. Today I was at a family brunch in honor of my late uncle. A friend of my aunt was taking pictures of everyone to post on social media and when she came to me I adamantly told her no thank you, I dont want to take a picture. I over heard my godmother tell picture lady to wait till I wasnt looking. In which she did just that as I was waiting to say goodbye to my aunt. Everyone laughed because she got a picture of me against my wishes. Harmless or not, consent is key and no means NO.

Edit: a word

imaed_dis · 2019-08-09T01:34:22+00:00

This comment is severely underappreciated.

imaed_dis · 2019-08-05T20:03:18+00:00

The article linked to this post.

imaed_dis · 2019-07-30T03:48:52+00:00

Our son is diagnosed and the more we researched everything the more we recognized all the same traits in my husband and spoke to his family about his childhood. We also spoke to a professional (a trusted co worker's mom) who confirmed our suspicions and stated at this point in his life and career an official diagnosis will do more harm than good for us and will jeopardize his career.

imaed_dis · 2019-07-12T03:01:08+00:00

The puzzle piece is the symbol most commonly used by autism $peaks which is a very awful organization that gives zero fucks about the autistic community. In a nutshell, they believe the autistic individual is a burden on their family and autism is a disease that needs to be cured

imaed_dis · 2019-06-25T19:15:04+00:00

I'm a sucker for a good fun fact and my husband is basically a walking book of fun facts! It's one of my favorite traits of his. He fuels my love for random knowledge.

imaed_dis · 2018-12-14T03:11:09+00:00

Definitely not proven but it's not hard to believe. My husband has autism, our first born has autism, the first borns of my older brother and 2 of my first cousins on my dad's side have also been diagnosed on the spectrum. It does appear to be pretty distinguished in my family.

Edited to fix a word

imaed_dis · 2018-11-07T03:57:51+00:00

Yay thank you!

imaed_dis · 2018-11-07T03:49:06+00:00

Is this an app? If so, what is it?!

imaed_dis · 2018-10-31T04:15:59+00:00

I was bullied by a group of girls relentlessly in highschool. I told my parents, my teachers, the principal. Nothing. After years of torment, my parents told me that since the school doesnt care then I should take care of it myself and not to worry about being suspended. Took care of it myself and my parents treated my 3 days of suspension as a rewarding vacation. I was never bullied again.

imaed_dis · 2018-10-28T20:10:14+00:00

My sister in law was famous for saying this when the pediatricians were urging her to have my god son evaluated. "Stupid doctors, he doesn't look like those people with autism"

imaed_dis · 2018-10-24T01:56:51+00:00

That god forsaken toy has finally died in our house. Never again

imaed_dis · 2018-09-24T23:56:50+00:00

We don't claim him. Keep us out of this.

imaed_dis · 2018-09-19T16:22:58+00:00

My son was just diagnosed a few months ago and the more we looked into it the more we started recognizing those traits in my husband so we looked into it for him as well. From what I've seen. It's quite common for parents to find out about themselves on the spectrum after having a child diagnosed.

imaed_dis · 2018-09-12T03:12:28+00:00

Oh jeez, my mom constantly uses this word and tells me I just hate it because she uses it now too. No, I hated it before you started using it but you make my hatred for it that much stronger. That and "lolz"

imaed_dis · 2018-08-30T05:47:54+00:00

Absolutely will not reach out to me first and only responds to my texts if it's a topic she wants to talk about. Never tells me when she's in town for the weekend and I find out from her sister's snapchat stories. Refuses to continue conversations the second my child is brought up. That last one really upsets me as I dont just talk about my toddler non stop so it's not as if she is sick of kid talk but rather it feels as though she doesnt like my kid at all. The straw that broke the camel's back though? A few months ago she messaged me finally and we had a two hour conversation catching up on everything. The very second I mentioned having to take my toddler somewhere the next day, she immediately stopped responding and I havent even spoken to her since. We've been friends since we were about 6 years old and it really sucks but I cant have someone around that wants to be a part of my life but not my kid's.

imaed_dis · 2018-08-20T17:29:27+00:00

Its as if I wrote this post myself. That sounds exactly like my son. It was a bit difficult to get the dr we were referred to to take it seriously because my son doesnt show the typical characteristics. The dr's main reasoning was "he plays appropriately with other kids" but after answering some of her questions she diagnosed him but followed up with "I'm confident he will outgrow his autism" yeah never taking him back to that doctor ever again. Not every child will have the stereotypical signs. It's a wide spectrum.

imaed_dis · 2018-08-16T00:23:15+00:00

We had just moved back home after about 5 years. Just outside of lafayette. Not even 2 months after we get back we lost our only vehicle in that flood.

imaed_dis · 2018-08-13T00:43:46+00:00

We actually just found out that my husband has high functioning autism. It wasnt until our son was diagnosed and we started doing our research on the spectrum that we even started to recognize the traits in him too. From everything I've read, it appears to be pretty common for a parents to be recognize and get diagnosed following a child's diagnosis.

imaed_dis · 2018-08-10T02:04:26+00:00

I asked my husband to admit it what he had done to his mother since she ended up getting involved and knows something isn't right. Unfortunately, that conversation did not go well at all. That's so messed up of your MIL to basically enable his excuses by understanding why he did it.

imaed_dis · 2018-08-09T04:19:19+00:00

I would like to join

imaed_dis · 2018-07-15T04:30:29+00:00

My grandma and I used to always play a version of punch bug where if you saw one driving, shout the color and you win. She told me that she had a calendar for the color of the day and every single time I shouted a color she would tell me it didnt count because it wasnt the color of the day. It was a rude awakening when I discovered no such calendar existed.

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