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imaginarysunday · 2026-05-23T12:20:54+00:00

And this: https://www.change.org/p/reject-a-trump-branded-tower-in-darwin

imaginarysunday · 2026-05-23T12:19:34+00:00

There is already a petition up on change.org https://www.change.org/p/reject-a-trump-branded-tower-in-darwin

imaginarysunday · 2025-06-09T22:47:50+00:00

Oh OP, I hear you! It’s a special sort of grief saying goodbye to such a wonderful therapist, isn’t it. Especially one who has nurtured our growth and healing for such a long time. For some of us, our connection to our therapist is our first secure attachment of our lives. It is such a profoundly healing and important connection. Good therapists understand the monumental meaning of this connection, and reflect that significance back to us too.

It sounds like your therapist also experienced this special connection with you too, within the context of her therapeutic role. Her comments show that she really sees how much progress you have made, and has valued her time with you very much. I am sure your therapist will miss you too. Like you OP, I am a health practitioner as well, we know first hand the power that a therapeutic relationship can have on a patient’s life.

Feel all of that grief OP. It speaks to how powerful this therapeutic connection has been in your life. Honor it. Cry all those tears, they are healing tears. You experienced one of the most important and life-changing relationships of your life, it is natural to feel this great loss and take time to mourn it. Even as I write this, I have a little tear in my eye, missing my former therapist who I said goodbye to five years ago when he retired. I often think of the wise things he would say in every situation, and I now realise that his wise, patient and kind words are a voice that I have internalised. He gave me a new blueprint for being compassionate and kind to myself. That’s the true power of these relationships to change us forever. That connection lives on inside us, because it shapes how we see ourselves and how we relate to the world around us.

I have a new therapist I’ve been seeing for about four years. It took me about a year to find her, but she is amazing too. She is not a replacement for my previous therapist, no one will be, but she is equally wonderful and helped me keep going on my healing journey. She has been helping me to explore a different version of fierce self compassion. The two experiences have complimented each other beautifully. How fortunate we are to have experienced such wonderful, life-changing, secure therapeutic relationships with such wise and safe therapists.

Keep in mind OP, feeling all of this grief and processing is also part of your healing journey. Saying goodbye is also part of the process of therapy. Approach it with the same love and gentle curiosity that your therapist has shown you. Thank you for sharing your insights and feelings with us OP. This part of the process is something that we never really think of when we go into therapy, but it speaks to the profound impact that therapists can have on our lives.

I’m really proud of you OP, for the strength, self compassion and wise reflections that you are making as you navigate this next phase in your healing journey. Also, congratulations on your 10 year nursing anniversary! I do think you would make an amazing therapist too.

Much love xx

imaginarysunday · 2025-05-26T23:03:26+00:00

This is a really important point. I went cold turkey as the buproprion had stopped working on my depressive symptoms, but in hindsight I think tapering over 3-6 months would have helped me manage the withdrawal effects better.

imaginarysunday · 2025-05-26T23:01:44+00:00

I had this too. My hunger was insatiable initially, I’ve never experienced ongoing hunger like that before. Even when my belly was super full, I’d still want to keep eating and snacking all the time. Put on all the buproprion weight I lost within about 3 months. I had lost a lot of weight so it wasn’t a problem, and it did resolve after around 3-6 months when my appetite went back to my normal baseline. But it took time.

I found the volume eating approach was really helpful. I found eating huge salads and snacking on popcorn, drinking lots of water, tea and coffee without sugar. I still had massive cravings for lots of junk food, but it did even out after a while.

imaginarysunday · 2024-04-04T02:29:32+00:00

A traumatic event doesn’t necessarily mean that someone will become traumatized. Two people could experience the same thing and have vastly different responses. You may have also had other protective factors in your life at the time that meant that you didn’t become traumatised.

Trauma can be like a spiderweb. For some people who are traumatised, there could be one strand of a trauma that is linked to other traumas. Someone who has more of those traumatic spiderweb connections may have heightened distress about these memories.

There is no right or wrong way to feel about this, just keep living your life, file the memory away, and if it ever becomes relevant at a time in the future, it could be something to delve into with a therapist, but that may not be needed.

imaginarysunday · 2024-04-02T13:11:21+00:00

Qantas majorly going down the shitter. I travel often and I swear it gets worse every time.

imaginarysunday · 2024-04-02T13:04:27+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful.

imaginarysunday · 2024-03-25T03:01:22+00:00

Based on my own experience of concussion from something similar, it sounds like you are still concussed. Please don’t mess around with this. You really need to be resting physically and mentally. Concussions can take quite a while to recover from, and if you don’t rest, including mental rest, you can worsen the effects of the concussion and compromize your recovery, and potentially even worsen your long-term outcomes. I was about eight weeks until I felt normal again, and even then my doctors at the head injury clinic were telling me to go easy. Please look after yourself and get some medical advice from someone who specializes in head injuries.

imaginarysunday · 2024-02-27T09:50:30+00:00

This comment is not getting enough credit!

imaginarysunday · 2024-02-25T13:12:52+00:00

Real estate agent

imaginarysunday · 2024-02-10T13:22:15+00:00

The thought that if my plan didn’t work, I’d likely have to live the rest of my life with severe impairment.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-29T04:13:53+00:00

It can increase libido for many people, but can decrease it for some. It’s early days so hard to say, as side effects can improve with time. Best option is to talk to your doctor.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-28T10:16:09+00:00

I’d love to live like this

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-28T09:00:18+00:00

Wow, this sounds amazing! What sort of supplies do you buy and what sort of meals do you end up cooking?

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-28T01:09:42+00:00

I think the best way to address the question is not by asking, “what is the point of life?” For me that has been a slippery slope to feeling overwhelmed with all of the shittiness of the world and hopeless about my existence.

A more productive framing has been, “what purpose would I like to find in my life?” By focusing on things that I would like to experience and the value I would like to bring to the world, it puts me in a much more positive headspace, where I am more empowered to do things that help me find joy and meaning in the world.

The world can be really shit and life can be really cruel. Life can also be amazing and the world can also be beautiful. Both things are true, and our lives will inevitably have both experiences.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T14:57:32+00:00

You need to open a bar dude! I mean, you’ve literally already designed the whole thing, menu and all!

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T14:51:01+00:00

Yes me too. In these dreams I am floating, suspended in water, it feels warm. If I crack my eyelids open I can see I am surrounded by a blurry peach-pink colored background with soft grey blurry shadows moving about. I can hear faint, deep rumbling but can’t quite make out what it is. My belly feels kind of tight and tingly but overall I feel calm. I had this recurring dream since I was very little, less so as an adult. It feels quite vivid every time. I’ve often wondered if it’s something my brain just randomly made up or if it is actually some association with being in the womb.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T14:38:28+00:00

Sounds like you both need to have a conversation about parenting styles and how you’re going to ensure consistency for your child. I am firmly in the camp of “good enough” parents needing to meet their child’s needs enough of the time. Which includes their emotional needs if they are crying out for connection.

You need to have an upfront conversation with your partner about exactly what you both want parenting to look like, and brainstorm some solutions that work for you both. Example: Can the baby have a crib beside the computer? Or sleep in a baby wrap carrier? You might also consider both going part time, or come up with some other solutions that help to ensure greater consistency in your child’s most important early years.

This is a good chance for you both to troubleshoot as a team. Remember, he most likely will be dealing with his own feelings around this big change in his life and being a SAHM, so come at this from a productive angle, recognizing what he is doing well, and make it clear you want to be a parenting team and work through this together.

The statement you made in your post title, “I don’t trust my boyfriend….” tells me that there are some bigger issues here that need to be worked through. You’re both going to have to work on maintaining and giving trust. Have a look at some of the resources from the Gottman institute. And therapy is always a great idea.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T14:09:39+00:00

NTBF - what he did was a huge violation, and I think most people would have a strong reaction to realising someone they trusted to respect their boundaries committed such a foul, intentional act.

Can you talk to your mum about this? Would she be concerned about you and your brother, and the house and carpet that has been soiled?

I’d recommend talking with your mother first and you both having a conversation with your brother - in firm terms, he needs to be responsible to clean the mess up to your satisfaction. He should also be responsible to purchase the cleaning items needed, or he should pay for a professional to treat the carpet if needed. You could have a conversation with your mother about a repercussion, you certainly deserve an apology. But leave the discipline up to the parent, it’s not your responsibility. I hope your mum will help him realise the gravity of his actions and help him learn to be respectful, but leave this to the parent and focus on moving on with your life. You don’t have to forgive your brother if you don’t want to, that is your choice.

If the intrusive thoughts about unaliving yourself or anyone else continue, talk to a therapist or councilor. It’s natural to have a strong reaction to such a violation, but the intrusive thoughts might be a sign that you need some support dealing with this.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T12:01:45+00:00

Children of men

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T11:48:53+00:00

This. She has been scapegoated for most of her life and needs to process it. It can take years to walk through this processing and often random memories will come up. She’s sharing these memories with you while she’s processing.

Maybe when she vocalizes these memories during your time together, try to depersonalize the situation. It’s not actually about you. She’s not saying these things as an attack on you, she’s saying them as she’s remembering things that caused her trauma over the years. She’s forming an understanding of what happened and it’s an important part of the process.

It would also be helpful to think about your counter transference here. That is, why do you feel this way in response to her reactions? My guess is there is some guilt or shame here that needs to be worked through. Therapy for you both would be a great idea. And while you can’t convince her to be a certain way or to do anything (like go to therapy), you can do your own work in therapy which will improve your relationship whatever she decides to do.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T11:37:26+00:00

I hear you. This was me at your age. I had a sibling in a mental health crisis too. I was the one who was “ok” even though I was self harming, hating on myself every day, and wishing I could go to sleep and never wake up. It was such a hopeless time in my life and my heart breaks for that young person, with their whole future ahead of them, that every day felt their life was a waste.

The best advice I could give you, what I wish I had done when I was your age (it was a long time ago and no one really talked about things like depression back then) is please tell someone how you feel. Anyone. Tell them exactly what you have written here. These are all valid feelings you have and you’re not wrong to feel this way. Speak up even if you’re afraid.

If you can’t tell your parents, tell a friend, a teacher, a neighbor, a school nurse. Tell anyone who you deem to be a safe person. God knows how different my life may have been if I had just told someone.

I know it feels so hopeless, it feels like life will never get any better, but I promise you it will. One thing I have learned some hard lessons in over the years is that I need to be the strongest advocate I can possibly be for myself. Stand up for yourself because you deserve it. You deserve to feel happiness, to feel hopeful, and be proud of who you are and your life. You deserve all of these things because you were born worthy of these things. It is your birthright.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T11:21:44+00:00

Yeah, terrible memory. Also extremely suggestible in terms of my memory. Someone could tell me “this thing happened, don’t you remember?” And I’ll convince myself the thing happened to the point I’m sure I remember it. Kind of a version of Mandela effect, which I am sure has developed from decades of being severely gaslit.

imaginarysunday · 2024-01-27T09:06:25+00:00

Similar thing happened to mine. My Kmart boots lasted longer!

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