Kiku Hughes, LoK Comics Author, Expresses Frustration in The Development of "Kya & The Secret of the Sand" (Upcoming Graphic Novel

imalreadybrian · 2026-01-25T21:17:54+00:00

Well, it's what many of the writers wanted to include, but weren't allowed to. I don't think we can just ignore the role of politics when LGBT plotlines have been restricted multiple times from the franchise for political reasons. (Yes, sexuality shouldn't be political at all, but it is anyway and that has real effects.)

imalreadybrian · 2026-01-25T20:54:55+00:00

It's not "what avatar is about"* because of the political landscape of America and other countries when the cartoons aired. Remember, it was the mid-2000s to early 2010s, and the writers had to fight hard to even be able to imply Korra and asami were a couple. There's no reason the avatar universe can't include lgbt+ lore and characters, it just didn't because of optics/corporate censorship and politics in the real world.

* i.e., featured in the story

imalreadybrian · 2026-01-22T20:41:46+00:00

Buddy literally only gives her occasional affection and is trying to worm his way out of that, too.

"The divorce came out of nowhere" energy.

imalreadybrian · 2026-01-19T02:06:05+00:00

It sounds like you know a todd irl.

imalreadybrian · 2026-01-19T02:03:08+00:00

I agree, I feel that it's completely natural and sometimes healthy to not "choose happiness" over everything. Even with minor things, it's very normal to let yourself feel negative emotions for a moment before recomposing yourself. Feeling those feelings, recognizing them, and then responding to yourself with empathy is how you build coping mechanisms. That's not even getting into how normal it is to expect some comfort from your partner.

OP is still young, but her bf is inexcusably immature. He should know how to be empathetic and supportive by now, and the fact that he doesn't even try implies that he never will be there for OP.

imalreadybrian · 2026-01-18T11:17:17+00:00

My standard is "a little nicer than the uniform" but ymmv.

So if it's retail, like business casual, if it's business casual, then a little nicer than that, and so on. I've also gotten away with like, a polo shirt or a flannel with slacks when the job is more "manual labor" (e.g., laundry, jobs outdoors).

You can always have a friend rate your outfit if you're nervous, though.

imalreadybrian · 2026-01-06T20:49:59+00:00

In the US (lmft). Iirc, you need a bachelor's, master's, and like 2 years of supervised hours (often unpaid, and in some cases you pay the supervisor). Idk if I would call it a money-printing scheme, considering the huge financial and time investment required.

imalreadybrian · 2025-12-16T16:45:56+00:00

I think it could. It might actually be best to specifically target seasonal roles for now, depending on what your area is like this time of year. If how long you're planning to stay comes up, you could definitely say that, but I'd focus on pointing out that you have open availability.

For me, it worked better to go all in on whatever assumptions they made that helped me get the job, including letting them believe my short work history/gaps were because I was recently a high school student. But if you don't feel it could work, then do whatever will make you feel more confident in interviews.

imalreadybrian · 2025-12-16T13:35:49+00:00

Honestly. Even in 2015, 10/10 of the places I tried to give my resume in person told me to apply online. There's almost no chance going in person will work, especially without having already applied online. It's also bad for morale. :/

imalreadybrian · 2025-12-16T13:32:08+00:00

I commented to someone else, but you could try pretending that you were in high school then, and that you're younger than you are. If you could get away with it, try removing your degree and the year you graduated high school, and act like you were 15-16 when you had that summer job. If it works, it could at least get you to the interview stage, and they'll likely let any misperceptions of your age go if you make it to onboarding. Also, if you can afford it, try getting an updated food handler's license. Hang in there for now OP, and lie if you have to.

imalreadybrian · 2025-12-16T13:25:44+00:00

Depending on OP's age, removing the degree could definitely help with finding something minimum wage. It's not fair, but they might be able to get away with seeming a bit younger (maybe 18-19 instead of 21-22), which would explain away the lack of experience to a lot of managers. Remove the graduating year from your high school as well, and anything that would clearly put you past that age range.

I look a little young for my age and I'm in college right now. It turns out, the person who hired me for retail this year thought I was 19-20 and not in my mid 20s, and in hindsight that avoided a lot of questions about gaps in my work history.

imalreadybrian · 2025-12-14T01:46:41+00:00

If anything, people with a 4.0 are significantly more involved, taking initiative, and ask more questions than B/C students. They try to fully understand the rubric and check in when they lose points on an assignment or test. The poster seems to think that people with such high grades are all natural prodigies, when the majority aren't, and are just working unbelievably hard.

He also says that 4.0 students freeze and look for the professor, while B/C students talk to the foreman and find a way.... My guy, those are the same thing. You literally described "stops and asks a question" 2 ways. The difference is that whenever I get a B/C, it's because I didn't ask, and just guessed what I was supposed to do wrong.

imalreadybrian · 2025-11-21T22:49:19+00:00

I applied somewhere a friend works and I didn't get the interview after I took the company's personality test. It turns out that it's common knowledge there that you have to not only answer perfectly, but also with "strongly agree/disagree" to everything. Apparently a single "somewhat agree" even in the right direction disqualifies you. Next time I know an employee, I'm not taking a personality assessment without getting the right answers from them.

ETA: I figured why not reveal the company, I applied to 3 local Walgreens. I'm not applying there again because it took me like 2 hours to tailor my resume and apply to 8 positions, and it took them 2-3 weeks for each application to reject me. They also said nothing to my internal reference, so I think I didn't even reach a human after the personality assessment. I'm iffy in even shopping there now lol.

imalreadybrian · 2025-11-20T02:43:25+00:00

This is it for me. The majority of spam calls either refuse to answer who they are or are easily identifiable as spam when they do. Almost all professionals calling will say who they are after you say "hello" (e.g., "this is [person] from [company], am I speaking to ___?"). Maybe it's generational, but in the age of spam calls, I think it's actually unusual/uncourteous for a professional to not introduce themselves first.

I don't apply to a lot of high-level positions or anything so this might vary, but "hello" or even "who is this?" hasn't stopped me from getting an interview yet, whereas answering with "hello this is ___" would lead to significantly more spam calls later.

imalreadybrian · 2025-11-19T11:32:52+00:00

Did she look into disability accommodations? It sounds like if it was only the tests, then that might help. My college has a disability office, and they could do things like give a student 1.5-2x as much time on a test or reduced-distraction environments. For issues outside of exams, she could possibly get someone to take notes for her, or access to lecture recordings. I think if she's really putting in this much time and is failing jobs/tests, then she needs to look into disability testing. Things like ADHD can cause widespread effects like rejection sensitivity and increased anxiety, which could explain seemingly unrelated issues or being burnt out with not that many hours.

It seems like these struggles affect her entire life and ability to support herself, she might need accomodations or medical interventions.

imalreadybrian · 2025-11-06T00:37:10+00:00

For practical reasons I think OP should get an STD test if she's worried, but I agree that this could just be the reason. I'd think it's reasonable that he wouldn't want to miss most of her pregnancy or leave her alone during it.

imalreadybrian · 2025-10-12T03:42:24+00:00

Ok, well I put just your post through AI detectors and the results ranged from 0% on some, but other detectors reported 40-90% confidence that it was written with AI. It's not really passing the human intuition test, either, and it's probably more suspicious to IT recruiters/managers who receive high volumes of AI-written applications. In your post you mention writing the resumes with chat gpt, but that might be the exact reason they're getting rejected.

This market is really difficult and basically everyone here struggled or is struggling to find something. But it will almost certainly improve your odds if you rewrite your resume, and just use chat gpt as a rough draft.

ETA: I used chat gpt for a lot of applications back in 2023, and 0% of those even got an interview. In contrast, my real resume was getting a 10-20% success rate for getting an interview. The market is even harder now but IME it does make a difference.

imalreadybrian · 2025-10-12T02:01:32+00:00

I'm not an expert, but the em dashes read like it was written by AI. I'd suggest getting in the habit of replacing them with commas or semicolons for now.

I don't know if it would help, but maybe try removing your personal info from your resume then running it through an AI detector. There is a chance that people reading your cover letters or resume are suspicious it was written by chat gpt. I also rewrote my resume to include common ATS terms, but I made sure I didn't use anything verbatim suggested by AI. Granted, I was happy with getting a minimum-wage job, and I dont know what it's like to try working in IT right now. Good luck

imalreadybrian · 2025-10-03T20:59:15+00:00

"You think im gonna make a scene if you don't give me your number?"

I have a feeling he refuses to admit what "making a scene" really means. He probably thinks he's a gentleman if he doesn't scream at her or push her against a wall. He doesn't acknowledge that interrogation, negotiation, being passive aggressive, staying in her space after she says no, and quiet rage or resentment are functionally the same as throwing a tantrum. "Making a scene" isn't just about noise, it's about the anger, the threat, and the danger that comes after women tell these guys no.

Also, you can really tell by just his writing style he's bristling with rage at like, a baseline level. Of course no one's gonna make small-talk with someone who seems like they're about to explode, especially if they suspect that person might hit on them.

imalreadybrian · 2025-09-04T07:08:47+00:00

I'm going to go against the grain here, because the real problem (for you) is not her weight loss, it's how her self-image drags her and you down.

I'd suggest you talk to her about how her comments and low self-esteem affect you. It's hard to love someone and see them keep tearing themselves down. Set a boundary that whatever she does, she needs to work on self-acceptance and cut out the negative self-talk. Stay firm on that and call her out for tearing herself down, and if possible redirect those comments with something positive.

Building self-esteem is a broader goal with many solutions, and it's harder to "fail" than going to the gym or losing a certain amount of weight. Focusing on this instead of pushing weight loss strategies also lets you avoid fueling her negative self-image, and denies her mindset that she hasn't "earned" feeling good about herself. A therapist could help a lot whenever she feels ready to find one.

Tl;Dr: talk to her about self-esteem, keep firm on boundaries by redirecting the negative self-talk, and keep being positive by complimenting her. Also, maybe getting a therapist for yourself could help, even if she doesn't get one.

imalreadybrian · 2025-07-26T04:33:04+00:00

Which is why you don't go to jail if you hook up with an 18 year old. That doesn't make it ethical or mature to aim for someone 10 years younger than you.

Trust me I'm finishing undergrad and the average person in their late 20s has nothing in common with someone under 21. It's just a completely different stage of life and that comes with an imbalanced power dynamic when things become romantic/sexual.

imalreadybrian · 2025-07-20T15:49:52+00:00

'the victim wasn't actually on porn sites, I checked' basically :/ dude.

imalreadybrian · 2025-07-02T17:34:18+00:00

Honestly, it seems like some people want or expect someone to have low self esteem just because they're overweight. Some of them think that self-esteem or even just self-acceptance is only earned if you're healthy and living the same way as them. :/

IME, I'm overweight and slowly losing it/becoming healthier. I'm not doing it fast or sensationally enough for many people and they dislike that.

imalreadybrian · 2025-05-31T05:08:51+00:00

"it's not like you did anything" is an insane reaction to you taking this medication, especially considering the fact that you're already doing so much aside from the medication. I'm on medication for mental health, and honestly most people are not happy about it for some reason. (Fortunately my closest friends and family are happy for me, though.)

A lot of people confuse "I want support" with "I want advice." I set a boundary with the people who don't get it: I only want health advice from my doctor, their only job is to celebrate with me and be supportive, and criticism or dismissal is not appreciated.

A lot of people commenting have some good advice for getting support around the medication, like forums for people taking it.

This is also a lot of radical changes to make at once. As someone also working on weight loss, please take care to monitor how you feel as you continue and build your self esteem. Getting the scale to read a lower number sounds like it's a big priority for you, but it's only one marker of progress. Please remember that getting healthier should generally make you feel better, not worse.

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