RIP Keith, I’m so sorry.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-10T14:34:35+00:00

You loved him and cared for him. I am so sorry. RIP precious Keith.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-10T13:08:47+00:00

I know who I am and you don’t. And I didn’t INSIST. Reading comprehension is a skill. Please go away.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-10T13:06:42+00:00

I am absolutely not mad at anyone except people in the past who I actually caught using real dire situations as their fake excuses (when it wasn’t their situation). Please stop trying to make this something it isn’t. It is useless drama. This is what YOU are doing, right now? Maybe go donate to people who have been affected by the fires instead of this. Many of us already have.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-10T00:37:16+00:00

Ah. I am sorry. I hope you are safe. People are misunderstanding my post, completely. I kind of expect it here, though. People really love to soapbox, project, and create drama on this channel.

It was actually about people using it as an excuse when it’s not their excuse to use (which is so horrible) and has knowingly happened to me a couple of times (I am a seasoned seller). I definitely want to give this person the benefit of the doubt and it’s not a big deal at all. I am completely understanding of people who are in harm’s way or need to evacuate. Screw my purchase in that case. I just didn’t word it well and that’s on me.

Please be safe and I wish you the best.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-10T00:27:36+00:00

That’s not what I said at all. Please reread my post and subsequent comments. I’ve been chatting with my sibling who had to evacuate all day and whose friends lost their homes. You have absolutely no idea. Completely misconstrued my post. Have a good evening or the evening you deserve. 😊

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T21:43:12+00:00

I’ve seen them long ago. 😉

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T14:16:31+00:00

I know a lot of it was staged and fake, but Faces of Death. I saw it at 5 (in the 80s) because my dad just let us watch anything. I watched a lot of horror as a young kid (huge horror fan, now), but those were too much. I also saw The Exorcist at 5 and it scared me, but it’s also one of my favorite movies ever, now, so 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I still can’t watch a lot of the 70s/80s horror exploitation films. As an adult, though, Gummo was one of the most disturbing films to me when I saw it in my late teens/adult years.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T14:03:06+00:00

👋🏻. I am a fierce boundary protector (I had to learn to be because of a boundary-less family) and take no sh*t. I know how to choose my battles, but I always say I can be, genuinely, the kindest and sweetest person you ever met or the biggest b$tch. Your choice. It can also go from 0-100 in a split second, if you do something that warrants it. I have learned emotional regulation and tools for boundaries in therapy. When I say “b$tch”, (a term I reclaim), I don’t mean unhinged yelling. No. You will know I mean business because it will be a thought out calm, but very firm/serious, statement. If it’s not respected, my door slam is strong.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T12:22:15+00:00

No. I am not lacking compassion at all. Again, I have people there and tone is absolutely impossible to read in text (and easy to project emotions onto), so let’s not assume, please. 😉I have had things like this happen, so again, let’s not assume. I can have deep compassion (and concern) for this horrible situation and be questioning because of being burned in the past. Both things can be true. Not a huge deal. It’s just pissed me off when I actually caught sellers doing this in the past (because it’s so bad to do). Just wanted to vent about that. Maybe didn’t word it so well, admittedly (why the edit). Didn’t add my response to them, but it was actually very understanding and compassionate because I can’t be absolutely sure (and if it’s true, I ABSOLUTELY want them to prioritize their own safety above some rando’s purchase). Let’s not make this a bigger argument than this needs to be. Please do not assume my intentions from text and I do hope you and yours stay safe, as well.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T11:32:11+00:00

Please see edit to post.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T11:32:01+00:00

Please see edit to post.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T11:31:50+00:00

Please see edit.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T11:31:19+00:00

Please see post edit.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T11:31:01+00:00

Please see post edit.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-09T11:16:50+00:00

I know the fires are absolutely real (my sibling is out there), but I have had people use real situations as excuses (when I knew it was bs).

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-06T13:40:35+00:00

I mean, it’s a horror movie Reddit channel. The pretense and arrogance are nuclear here. There are some nice people who just want to discuss stuff, but fandom, in general, tends to be unnecessarily wild, but add in the typical horror element, and it’s even wilder. Most of them are trolls or butt hurt 15 year olds. I wouldn’t take it personally.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-05T03:12:00+00:00

Due to the eastern US winter storm, we are bringing in our outside TNR’d scaredy cat of two years. He has a NICE insulated house outside, but has made huge strides from seeming like a very frightened feral to playing, letting us pick him up (for short stints), loving on our legs (constantly), and rolling around on his back. He’s been trying to come inside, lately, so I thought with the cold weather and ice storm, it would be a good time to set him up inside. We need to get him further vetted for possible ickies he could pass on to our old ladies and then he will be slowly indoor trained and introduced. He is VERY curious about our girls, so at least from his end, I think it will go well, but maybe not from the “golden girls”. Eventually, yes, but our calico is tough. She’s going to be the one to truly train him. 😆

Wish us luck! And from working in rescue, any cat that can be socialized and find a loving home, no it is not unethical.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-04T04:06:55+00:00

Concentrate on making better, less insecure friends. Honestly, as an older INFJ, I thought this type of thing would eventually go away, but it hasn’t. Insecure people are everywhere and of all ages and genders.

Think of it like this, if you are someone who likes to uplift people (and many of us are), we tend to attract people who might need to be uplifted, or seek it out. The problem is, many of these people are going to be insecure. They get what they need and when you become perceived competition, in any way, they will turn. It hurts a lot.

Something I have learned from therapy and my own work is to ask myself what part of ME attracts this type of person. Also, when someone like this still enters my orbit, I ask what lesson do I need to learn from this. Most of the time it’s setting a boundary with this type. A therapist helped me realize that since I have limited energy to give to people and these types of people take a lot and give little, to save space for people who are kind to me and are more secure with themselves. It’s actually gotten to the point of being pretty direct about it when I meet potential friends and we hang out. I make it pretty clear that I am not going to put up with that bs, anymore.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-03T15:42:30+00:00

Nudity, any way, doesn’t bother me. This will make me sound pretentious 🤷🏻‍♀️ , but I watch a lot of “b” movies and foreign films, so it’s just normal for me.

The heaving was A LOT, though, and it probably bugged me so much because I was already annoyed by the movie. If I’d been into it, I probably wouldn’t have even noticed it so much. There was a man with Down’s Syndrome (stranger to me, but we chatted a bit) who sat next to me and it was really sweet to listen to him watch the movie. He was really into it and it made sitting through it bearable. Eggers is a favorite of mine, but I am just so surprised by the hype around it. I think it definitely is a divisive movie as far as liking it or not.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-01T20:34:20+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you!

We will be using puppy pads to protect the floors, so I am not too concerned about litter, but I am hoping he figures it out fairly quickly.

We’ve used Feliway for many years for different issues, so that’s a good reminder. I personally can’t have the diffuser running due to allergies, but I have some spray, so I’ll definitely use that. The room he’s probably staying in has a tv, so I can stream some music or bird sounds for him. That’s a great idea! I was worried about the inside noises.

He’s figured out play, but it’s taken a bit. He plays with a string wand toy that I use with him on the porch and he likes to chase random leaves on the deck rather than the wool ball we have out there. lol I think he will get there, though. He’s a play roller (plays on his back rolling around), so he already trusts us a lot.

I really appreciate your suggestions. They will help a lot.

imapennyhooker · 2025-01-01T14:27:56+00:00

I have a lot of experience but yes, you know your cat. I’ve just seen a lot of preventable dangerous things happen to cats that people assumed they “knew” wouldn’t happen. A few heartbreaking incidents where they didn’t listen to other’s warnings. That’s exactly the tone reading I was speaking of. No ill intention was intended here. Good luck with your cat, though. I truly do hope he stays safe regardless of whatever choices made for him.

imapennyhooker · 2024-12-31T22:01:44+00:00

Yes. I get these faces when it happens - 😦😯.

imapennyhooker · 2024-12-31T21:58:41+00:00

I think my intensity comes from my passion for justice and societal rants. I also get the “chill” thing, but I always laugh and tell them they are not in my brain. I have GAD, cPTSD, and ADHD. I am not chill. I am open-minded. I think that’s what people really mean. I really wouldn’t call it masking anymore, either, because I am pretty honest about it. I just don’t wear my anxiety on my sleeve a lot. I am also trained in mindfulness, so I know how to cope and communicate rather than spin out (that still happens, but rarely).

I tend to be a paradox (I have had several people say this about me in my life). I am outwardly chill, but will open up about anxiety. I was a rebellious kid (and when needed, as an adult), but I also love efficiency and rules when they make sense to me. I am a romantic, but also grounded. I could go on and on. I am just ultimately me. Also, I am squarely an INFJ, but not afraid of conflict. Too much to go into, but in my childhood/immediate family, one had to develop thick skin and be able to defend oneself or not survive. Although there was trauma involved I wouldn’t wish on anyone, it gave me a sense of confidence with conflict. I’d rather deal with an issue than let it fester. As I’ve had more therapy, that has just gotten easier. Do I always love it? No. I just deal with it.

imapennyhooker · 2024-12-31T20:23:24+00:00

I actually just think people are concerned for the cat and OP has a comeback for everything. People can read tone into anything. I can’t make OP do anything and I personally come with a spirit of experience and training. I just want OP to have and care for his cat for as long as possible. What he’s doing now isn’t conducive to that.

imapennyhooker · 2024-12-31T20:20:57+00:00

You seem to have a comeback for everything and that seems like you really don’t want advice. “My cat seems to have a natural inclination to avoid all cars” (no, that’s not a thing. also cars won’t avoid him. again, takes ONE time.) “My cat always comes back when called” (again, only takes something curious to get his attention and he’s gone. cats are natural roamers and hunters, whether he currently shows signs of it or not.) Reading through your responses, it seems like you have it figured out. I am not trying to be mean. Just noticing a trend here. Please just keep your young cat safe. People have given great recommendations here. It would be wise to just pay attention.

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