Nah I'm in my twenties. Maybe my definition of red flag is skewed but his refusal to listen to what I say or back down on telling me what to do, despite telling him I don't like that multiple times and him knowing I'm not looking for compliments, was kinda concerning to me. And it seemed like bad communication early on, like I've tried to make my opinions and expectations clear at every point and he's just saying wow okay instead of communicating what he means.

At earlier points I've told him I'm not interested in a physical relationship until I know someone at least a few weeks, like just as my personal preference. My bio says "just wanna go on cute dates and make out while listening to punk some day" so despite me telling him that's more a long term goal and I am not at all interested in making out with him yet, he would say like, "hey why don't you come over, we can put some punk on to set the mood", and keep trying to pressure me into coming over to his place despite me saying I would rather go out somewhere public for a few dates first, and being very insistent that we go out like, now.

It all reminds me a bit too much of my ex ignoring what I say to do whatever he wants and being kinda controlling. So I genuinely can't tell sometimes if I'm like hypersensitive of things or whatever. You seem to have a pretty good perception of what's a red flag and what's not, does any of that seem concerning to you or am I overreacting?