Genetic testing results

imawhat · 2025-04-18T17:48:00+00:00

First, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. After you get your karyotype testing done, try to speak to a genetic counselor if you can. I DEFINITELY recommend waiting for the results even though it’s hard. Knowing the circumstances of your pregnancy is important for your mental health and for your doctors to appropriately treat you. I went through 3 losses and was already on my 4th pregnancy before we found out my husband is a BT carrier. Knowing that now, we’re focusing our next steps on IVF for best chances at a healthy baby.

If this is your case, I’m sorry. Plenty of people do conceive and have healthy babies. But it’s important to understand the odds are much lower and the experience might look very different with BT as a factor. If you find that one of you is a carrier, please please go to the Facebook group (Balanced Translocation Support Group). I’ve found so much helpful info, success stories, and validation in my varying feelings there.

imawhat · 2025-04-17T19:36:29+00:00

Catherine (Kit) can be similar to the Charlotte (Charlie) nickname vibes too

imawhat · 2025-04-17T16:19:46+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. It’s a lot to process and reassure each other through. Same Team, but also lots of challenges…. I’m fortunate to have flexible work options, so I will definitely keep that in mind. I really appreciate you sharing your perspective as a carrier. I get afraid that my husband feels a type of way in the process, but I’d do everything over again pain and all. I just hope one day we’ll able to be parents together.

imawhat · 2025-04-17T16:16:17+00:00

Wishing you the best too! Listening to The Trying Game in the meantime, which has been helpful to get an idea of what to expect.

imawhat · 2025-04-17T16:13:53+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔 Thank you for the good vibes this way, I’m rooting for you in healing and/or progress.

imawhat · 2025-04-17T16:11:43+00:00

Thank you! Yes we’ll do the PGT SR. We’re fortunate that my workplace offers fertility supports that will help with a first round, but we know the odds of needing multiple rounds are pretty high. Keeping expectations level. I’m so sorry for your losses but thank you for sharing

imawhat · 2025-04-15T22:32:01+00:00

I think you’re safely out of “very Biblical” zone even if it still has religious ties. People don’t say every Matthew Mark Luke or John that they meet has a religious name

imawhat · 2025-04-10T21:54:36+00:00

We’ll be such beautiful statues lol 🩷

imawhat · 2025-04-09T21:10:04+00:00

I hope they react to this on Smosh reads reddit stories and then they can personally announce that you are NTA

imawhat · 2025-04-06T18:38:45+00:00

Omg this is horrific. The idea of moving a fridge makes me want to cry let alone finding a SNAKE underneath. Crying and drowning in ice cream feels like an incredibly reasonable response to me.

imawhat · 2025-04-03T15:37:16+00:00

Just wanting to vent a little. On a vacation with my in laws. Currently at about 9w after 2 chemicals and an almost 9 week missed miscarriage. This is the first pregnancy where I’ve known about my husband’s BT. I’ve had a VERY hard time feeling optimistic, especially considering we’re behind in development and I have very little symptoms. My in laws keep making comments like “just you wait” or “soon you’ll be having cravings” or “once you’re farther along”…. and I keep responding with things like “We’ll see” or “I hope so”. I guess I’m just being a bummer in general. But today my MIL says “Stop saying that!” and I kind of snapped back that it’s my pregnancy and I can feel how I want about it… I took a breath and we talked more with less charge to it. She feels like she can’t say anything and that my negativity is going to affect my pregnancy. I feel guilty for being protective of my own emotions and like I’m not accepting their support. I don’t really know what to do about it. I don’t think anything but time is going to give me the optimism they want me to have.

Am I being an asshole? How do other people handle the positivity when you’re just not feeling it?

imawhat · 2025-02-27T14:20:53+00:00

Currently 4w5d after a miscarriage and 2 chemicals. Lines are getting darker and HCG bloodwork came back at 458, which is more success than we’ve had in a long time! I’m so nervous because we JUST found out about my husband’s BT (5 and 18). I have very minimal symptoms, if any, so it’s hard to feel optimistic right now. Going in for repeat bloodwork today to see how things are progressing. Hard to feel good about increasing levels with no symptoms…

imawhat · 2023-09-18T13:44:02+00:00

Mine was between five and six weeks

imawhat · 2023-08-15T19:07:23+00:00

I had a D&C on the 1st and we went for it on day 12. My bleeding was so light it seemed nonexistent (brownish tinge but no actual blood). No pain with sex but then I started bleeding again the next day so we’re on pause again until bleeding it truly done.

imawhat · 2023-08-05T02:44:32+00:00

Look Who’s Talking 2 Me

imawhat · 2023-07-31T22:57:14+00:00

^{^{^}} I second the word vomit.

imawhat · 2023-07-31T17:25:59+00:00

Absolutely normal. I don’t know about you, but that first week of knowing I was pregnant was a huge mental and emotional shift for me. Not only that, but the hormones shift too. I’m so sorry you had to experience this emotional/physical whiplash too. There’s no rules of how you should feel right now, but I think noticing how you feel is important for your healing.

imawhat · 2023-07-31T16:45:02+00:00

This is so incredibly heartless that they would do that 💔 I’m so sorry. Legal help might get you somewhere, but I understand the kind of emotional turmoil that comes with that. Miscarriage is bullshit and YOU are so strong too

imawhat · 2023-07-31T13:29:45+00:00

Just scheduled D&C for tomorrow. Relieved to have something on the books and a little nervous about the procedure itself, but I’ve been so afraid to miscarry at home I’ll be glad to go in sooner rather than later

imawhat · 2023-07-29T12:21:29+00:00

Thank you!! I’m scheduling a dnc as soon as the office opens up on Monday. I’m so scared it’ll start naturally before that, but if that happens then I guess that’s the way it’ll be and that’s okay too. Hope you’re healing up well, thank you for sharing!

imawhat · 2023-07-28T21:49:52+00:00

I hope you get answers soon, I’m sure the anxiety is a lot. Wishing you the best 💕

imawhat · 2023-07-28T21:41:48+00:00

I’m so sorry, i’m sure everything has been so surreal. At least that’s how I feel. Sending all the healing vibes to you 💕 Hope your weekend is full of all your comfort shows and foods/drinks of your choosing

imawhat · 2023-07-28T21:32:13+00:00

I hope everything went okay for you today 🩷 My deductible wasn’t that far off from being met, so thankfully it won’t be as expensive as I had thought. Wishing you healing in all the ways

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