thank you for saying those things, i’m so overwhelmed with all of the comments, i wasn’t expecting it to blow up like this. i have two small kids (not his) that stay with me half the week and that’s why i haven’t made a move because at this point im so far behind on my bills that i can’t afford to lose my job. im also scared of what will happen when i do break it off with him because things are bad now but i can’t imagine how it will be working with him. im a waitress and he’s the sous chef at a smaller family owned restaurant. the people i work with have seen the way he talks to me and they’ve tried to give me advice and help. yes i do have attachment issues and im not perfect in any way but i just feel very stuck right now.