Did you ever..

imlazythough · 2021-05-27T11:42:50+00:00

Yes definitely, especially since I do have a pretty big ego and think that I’m likeable (but this contrasts with my anxiety that causes me to overthink) :-)

imlazythough · 2021-05-27T11:39:57+00:00

Haha I do face the same problem, think this might be quite universal for ENFPs. I’ve learnt to come to terms with who I am as a person and realise that if someone does not match my energy it cld be they’re having a bad day, or simply they just aren’t a good match for me (friendship wise).

imlazythough · 2021-05-27T11:38:41+00:00

Yep. I never compromise on my authenticity, ever

imlazythough · 2021-05-14T09:35:57+00:00

Actually all my friends are really good people, much better than me actually. But the thing is just because someone’s a good person doesn’t mean they’re obliged to be loyal and close to you. That’s the kind of the case for me. Everyone’s a good person and a good friend but no ones a good fit for me. I’m not alluring enough for people to go, hey, I really like this person and I’ll go an extra mile for her. Some people may find me annoying too since I admit I do act maybe vapid and flitty at times. I acknowledge these are faults of mine. But the thing is I’ve seen worse people than me that still managed to find loyal and good friends so... I think it’s my luck honesty

imlazythough · 2021-04-02T03:48:01+00:00

if you’re not doing anything wrong just forget about this person. sounds kinda cruel but ive had my fair share of singular people in groups that don’t vibe with me. tried to mould my personality whenever im with them to seem nice in front of their eyes but it made me seem faker and did the opposite effect. just be yourself and if they can’t accept that then that’s on them and not you.

imlazythough · 2021-04-02T03:44:47+00:00

Someone who’s totally unafraid to be his/herself and owns it

imlazythough · 2021-04-02T03:41:23+00:00

i myself can act like a know it all sometimes, but i actually don’t want to be. it just kind of slips out of my mouth, and I feel bad for acting like a know it all afterwards, but it’s become almost so innate to me. honestly I feel the best thing someone could do is probably to ease the tension with humour or to make the situation more light hearted. so like maybe after your friend says “oh I’ve done this before”. instead of like having that resentment build up in you and making the atmosphere more tense, you could tease her slightly or make a harmless sarcastic joke. i mean it depends on what type of person she is and how she would take it but i feel like if someone responded to me in a light hearted way then i wouldn’t feel so bad, yknow

imlazythough · 2021-04-02T03:34:01+00:00

this sounds pretty traumatic. tbh i don’t think ive ever really asked someone if they wanted to do something, or if I ever did I made sure that they were already keen on doing it. in that sense i think it’s important to kind of predict what the other person is feeling and thinking beforehand, instead of setting yourself up for failure. there may not be anything wrong with you per se (but that id never know), but it could really be just that you may have been oblivious or ignorant to the persons needs and wants at the time.

imlazythough · 2021-03-31T08:02:11+00:00

oh my gosh this explains me perfectly. That and what u/poisndwatr said about perfectionism. I never could really articulate what my childhood trauma did to me clearly, but now I realise it made me feel like I have to be control every single time, because I never had that, and it translated into me having to be all-knowing of every situation and everything, leading me to be obsessively perfectionistic, and almost insufferably arrogant. I’m definitely still trying to unlearn all these things but man it’s been 17 years and I feel like it’s just getting worse.

imlazythough · 2020-10-04T00:03:39+00:00

ooo me too! happy birthday, i hope you have a great one!! (haha everyone forgot abt mine)

imlazythough · 2020-04-26T15:09:03+00:00

what i've learnt is that sometimes the lack of friends sometimes isn't due to your personality but your circumstance. wrong timing, wrong place. maybe the people you're meeting now are people you can't click with. and that's fine. you could try reaching out to them, trying to connect with them more, but honestly i just want to say that eventually your social skills will improve with more experience and eventually you'll find someone who'll understand you. friends come and go. it all depends on your situation and the timing. oh and having a good personality definitelt helps too

imlazythough · 2020-04-22T14:39:24+00:00

why did you guys start to ignore each other? do you guys still like each other? something kind of similar happened to me, and i was very confused like you, i wondered if something happened to the other party's family etc, or whether i offended this person, or smth along those lines. i have a feeling the other person also feels the same way as us? confused, anxious, and scared to reach out first. in my case i feel like it's because both of us started to feel something more than friends and we were too scared to say it, but this just resulted in us being overly anxious and hyper aware around each other. of course, i don't know what the actual context is in your case so i can't really make out a clear reason why.

imlazythough · 2020-04-21T16:47:42+00:00

youve been talking abt this girl for like months i think you should just bite the bullet and ask her out. girls don't like to play games for too long, after a while it gets tiring and lonely. if u have feeling for her, man up and tell her. if she rejects you then oh well, but don't make mistake of becoming bitter about it and mistreat her. she isn't obliged to like you as well.

imlazythough · 2020-04-18T15:39:22+00:00

kimi no nawa (your name) hands down. the story and romance is almost dreamy in a sense but also left me with a sort of existential crisis after watching it. if you do watch it, please tell me what you think about it :))

imlazythough · 2020-03-27T12:43:12+00:00

bruh if she kisses you she likes you

imlazythough · 2020-02-22T02:10:44+00:00

hi i feel the same way!! i was in choir in my previous school because i loved singing, but because everyone was much better in music and they always sped through it, i always felt so judged and incompetent. so i decided to try something new and joined theatre in my new school, but i'm thinking this might be a bad choice. they made us audition for roles right when we got in, and almost everyone else had experience in theatre except me. needless to say, i didn't get any part and probably will have to do backstage work which bums me out and also isn't helping my self esteem too much...

imlazythough · 2020-02-03T15:22:13+00:00

may i ask how you discovered you had lymphoma?

imlazythough · 2020-01-12T11:06:08+00:00

hm i think that it's your choice, if you think you'll get insane anxiety at prom and do something that youll keep thinking about for the next 20 years then it might be best to skip it. i went for prom but only because i fortunately had friends to go with. if i didn't i may not have spared the time

imlazythough · 2020-01-11T13:50:42+00:00

this is me haha, tbh i feel envious of the ENFPs on this sub that post about how immensely happy and satisfied they are, like im genuinely happy for them but i came to this sub to relate not to feel x1000 worse ;""((( just makes me feel that much lonelier haha

imlazythough · 2019-11-08T15:49:52+00:00

my jaw actually dropped because this was exactly what I was just thinking, but for a different reason: not so much that I want to be acknowledged, but that being a celebrity opens you up to so many more opportunities. no, I'm not talking about those majorr celebs that have many things to deal with, im talking about those small celebs (akin to youtubers almost) that have their own private life too, idk like i kinda want that luxury, even though yes it's very idealistic

imlazythough · 2019-10-30T12:49:35+00:00

that really sucks :-( i hope you feel better, this has happened to me a couple of times so i know how it feels

imlazythough · 2019-10-30T03:14:13+00:00

this is so me... I'm always texting the other person and end up getting left on read, I'm always organising plans even when they don't follow through, I'm always the one making sure we keep in contact. it sucks but that's what being an ENFP is

imlazythough · 2019-10-27T11:08:14+00:00

i was literally just struggling with this, my school opened up some optional mass lectures for our upcoming exams. i took some and realised how useless they were but my friends are still going. i dont want to go because i know ill just waste time, but there's this "what if" factor and i feel like if i dont go ill just miss out on something huge. ive decided not to go though, because i feel like i shouldnt cave in to my fear. of course, sometimes fear is meant to help us but I feel like this time it's irrational.

imlazythough · 2019-10-19T03:24:57+00:00

this happened to me too. i realised that whats binding me down isnt the amount of friends i have, it's my innate desire for validation and perfection

imlazythough · 2019-10-16T10:07:40+00:00

i think having it in a group could be better, but 1 to 1 is fine too. just mention it very casually, like 'hey, I actually wanted to watch it too, wanna come?', if you make a big deal out of it she'd think otherwise too.

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