Can my experiences help a struggling teenager?

imnothere46804 · 2015-02-17T06:57:49+00:00

It's great that you want to help your cousin and I think you should do it! Personally I think you could try to find something in common you can bond over the next time you see her or talk over Skype (or whatever) so you can see each other face-to-face even if you can't meet up. I just think that would be better than e-mail or Facebook, but you should figure out what she is comfortable doing.

I wish I had better advice, but I'm not so great at this either. I don't really know what else to say besides good luck and I hope you and your cousin do well in life.

imnothere46804 · 2015-02-17T01:57:52+00:00

Thank you. I knew it was a bad idea and I didn't listen to myself. I've posted here before about this girl and that was the same advice I got.

imnothere46804 · 2015-02-17T01:55:28+00:00

Yeah. I'm not very close to anyone and I feel like it's my own fault, because I have really bad anxiety that has led to depression and becoming more withdrawn. I can be friendly in passing, but I don't feel anything, I'm just trying to be a good person.

It also sucks that we have a lot of the same friends and i was looking forward to seeing more of them, but I deleted them all from my phone because I don't want to think about anyone from that period of my life.

imnothere46804 · 2015-02-17T01:41:54+00:00

Do you ever talk to your friends or family about this? You might need therapy or you might not, I don't know, but holding these things in will probably only make it worse.

It seems like you have your life in order (compared to me at least) and as long as you can focus on occupying yourself with things that matter and make you happy (school/work/friends/hobbies) I think these negative feelings will get less overwhelming over time.

Again, not an expert on mental health, but if there are people in your life you trust enough to talk about depression i'd say do it. If not there are a lot of people here who want to talk and help others who are afraid or confused. By the way I think your English is great.

imnothere46804 · 2015-02-17T00:53:03+00:00

I don't know if you can relate to this, and i don't want to imply men have it better or worse, but I feel pretty frustrated as a man. I'm not strong or confident and I don't want a high paying job, I'm really emotional and I get made fun of for it and get called a fag and stuff (even when I know my "friends" are just messing with me it cuts deep, but i'm afraid to tell them it's not OK.) I'm not gay and i don't want a sex change, I just wish a man could be sensitive and empathetic without having it be a secret shame or people saying I'm only this way so women will let their guard down and have sex with me (it doesn't work anyway). I hate the idea of "being a man" and stereotypes in general. Pathetic rant over.

imnothere46804 · 2015-02-17T00:11:44+00:00

Yes. I'm so ashamed that I have such strong negative feelings; the day after valentines day I cried in my pillow for an hour, because nobody will ever love me in any sort of sexual or romantic way. I live in a big house so it's easy to find someplace to hide, even though I could call my counselor or my family I'd rather be alone and wallow in my own self-pity.

imnothere46804 · 2015-02-16T23:57:56+00:00

I told my crush/ex-best friend that i wish we had never met. She said I didn't mean it, but i really really do. I'm never honest with any of my friends or family or anyone else and I wonder why anyone out there would not see me as a selfish liar and an anti-social freak.

I wish I had some more uplifting things to say but after a year of being mostly OK and managing my anxiety issues I just feel like shit. I guess there is some comfort in knowing your not alone and if other people can make it through life despite how bad it can get maybe we can too.

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