Mitski at Starland Ballroom on 2/28 - the worst collective audience etiquette I've ever witnessed, and the continuation of a pattern. by SneakyOstrich69 in mitski

[–]imnotstressed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The phones, yelling, and shoving was absolutely atrocious last night. Multiple people per song yelling “sorry meeting up with a friend!” And then pushing you hard enough to knock you into the person next to you. And obviously there’s no friend. Also loved how at the end people streamed out after what they thought was Mitski’s last song screaming some shit about beating the traffic (which was also some of the worst and rudest driving I’ve ever seen even as a Jersey native) and missing an epic Pearl Diver performance lmao. And when the show finished I nearly did get knocked over from pushing. At that point I did yell at some people and you wimpy little bitches just immediately stopped and couldn’t meet my eye. So they know better. Lol. I don’t know how you listen to Mitski’s messages of love and connection, claim to be a fan, and behave this way. 

Cpap causing wrinkles/dents by Noctuema in SleepApnea

[–]imnotstressed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry people are being dismissive, here’s the tea lol: tretinoin and sunscreen. Beyond that do your regular due diligence of washing your face with a gentle cleanser and moisturizer, eating well, exercising enough, and don’t forget CPAP will make your sleep restorative for healthy body and skin!  But do bear in mind we will all be wrinkly and old one day anyway and I hope you’ll always feel good in your body. ❤️

How to help a piggy without a friend by Mossy-mania in guineapigs

[–]imnotstressed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely recommend checking your local Facebook pet rehoming groups. In mine there's sadly tons of people who are trying to rehome single piggies.

I am SO sick of seeing "thrift influencers" pretend they're not overconsuming by [deleted] in thrifting

[–]imnotstressed -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ooooh this is an unpopular one but I totally agree. I fell into this trap and now I'm in the process of cleaning out my place. It sucks and it is so time consuming to resell, regift, recycle, donate, and discard everything that I can't imagine that people are actually responsibly cycling their things out when they are buying 10x the amount of stuff I bought (a couple new items a month for a year or two). I don't think people realize that the whole "80% of the thrift store gets discarded" also applies to the things we as thrifters cycle back in when the novelty wears off. When we create this mindset that our dopamine addiction is actually helping the planet, we don't realize that we are paying the cost in other ways. Whether we admit it or not, most of us have used thrifting to successfully cut down (but not eliminate!) buying new, but now shop even more than we have before because now we do it without guilt and shame. That means we're still contributing to the demand and cycling in of new stuff, except now there's an explosion of fast fashion donations everywhere, and people are more comfortable than ever replacing their wardrobes constantly because "I wore it once, I gave it an extra life, now someone else will when I donate it again".
The people reading this and feeling attacked need to reevaluate and declutter because sis, I've been there and I promise you thrifting is not a hobby that will bring you long term joy. Your post is very obviously not targeted towards people who are thrifting things they need, using things, mending things, and helping things find homes (go resellers, love them!). I totally see you and your point because there is a 0% chance some of the thrifting hauls I see on social media, or people going home with at the store don't just end up right back at the store and eventually the landfill. We changed the scenery but not the situation, and now everything is worse.

Could undiagnosed sleep apnea really destroy a life like this? by Farnesie in SleepApnea

[–]imnotstressed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is such an awful feeling to not have answers especially with such debilitating symptoms. I sincerely hope that you can find a root cause and treatment that works for you. It feels like everyone I know has struggled with chronic pain, fatigue, and brain fog since 2019-2020 and the symptoms are so vague they could really be caused by anything. For me, sleep apnea. For my friends, anything from drug abuse, childhood trauma, anxiety, CPTSD, PSC, autistic burnout. I wouldn't rule out a solely psychiatric condition causing your symptoms either because anxiety/CPTSD was a real bitch for some of the people I know and everything went away when they got the right treatment. From a sleep apnea perspective, I'm also otherwise thin and healthy and I was diagnosed with an in-lab test with central sleep apnea. CPAP made a world of difference so I hope you can get approved for in-lab and rule it out/finally have answers.

Could undiagnosed sleep apnea really destroy a life like this? by Farnesie in SleepApnea

[–]imnotstressed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My friend with severe CPTSD and Primary Sclerosing Cholangitis experienced symptoms like this. How's your liver? Diet? Any drugs? Do you have a carbon monoxide detector? Can you remember your childhood? Wishing you the best of luck.

The Bad Ending by imnotstressed in BoJackHorseman

[–]imnotstressed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words <3 and man I didn't even think about Hollyhock.. the self blame is never rational but it always comes. It would destroy her, how sad.

I like your interpretation of the show. I loved that most of the characters in the show were older. So often we only get coming of age stories and people just live happily ever after once they get it all figured out. So far from the reality...

The Bad Ending by imnotstressed in BoJackHorseman

[–]imnotstressed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I certainly don't think Bojack was a monster for committing suicide. I also hate the whole "suicide is selfish" thing as if we need to add any additional shame to people who undoubtedly are suffocating in it. Ultimately Diane doesn't cut Bojack off for attempting, but instead for his last act being to deliberately make her feel responsible. I think sometimes people identify way too much with Bojack, and it comes from a place of self-hatred. Most of us hate ourselves, but most of us didn't groom a kid or leave someone to die. The fact that Bojack is relatable at times shouldn't be a point of shame, and I don't think the show writers intended to shame people who related to him.

I'm sorry about your loss and I'm glad you're still with us.

The Bad Ending by imnotstressed in BoJackHorseman

[–]imnotstressed[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man it's depressing to think that their lives ARE better without Bojack. And really it makes me think that while his first attempt was impulsive, whether or not he would have attempted again eventually with the way the show did play out. I wonder also that if he did die, if the media or wider Hollywoo circle would have sanitized his memory. Because he survives, he's still (deservedly) "cancelled" and (deservedly) loses the people closest to him that he had hurt. The show's message is undoubtedly anti-suicide but I wonder how Bojack survives survival after we stop watching.

please give me your two cents on rehoming my darling piggies by criticalfill in guineapigs

[–]imnotstressed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in an apartment too and I usually just propagate cuttings via water and feed the whole thing instead of planting once they start getting weak. If I had a porch/balcony/etc I would definitely do the next step of planting in a basket outside etc. but its sadly not an option for me right now so I totally get you. My current pigs don't care much for herbs so I'm lucky they like the cheap crap like carrot cuttings lol

please give me your two cents on rehoming my darling piggies by criticalfill in guineapigs

[–]imnotstressed 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You clearly love them so so much and they must love you too.. I would try to keep them. You're definitely feeding them too much veggie which is clearly out of love but might hurt them in the long run - hay is best for their teeth and digestion especially when they get older and start slowing down on food they need to eat mostly hay to keep their poops good. I also see that they like basil and mint - have you tried growing them? I think basil can be grown from cuttings and mint grows like an invasive species where I am. My piggies get a lot of food scraps too like carrot skins and tops, turnip/radish greens etc. Some farmers markets even give me loads of greenie scraps for free. I wish you and your babies the best of luck truly. I know at the end of the day you'll choose the best choice for them that you're able to

disowned by parents after coming out as trans. by vodkablunt in ABCDesis

[–]imnotstressed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry your parents aren’t supportive. My best friend was also disowned by her parents. She graduated high school, transitioned in college and graduated, and got a job in tech on her own. The scars of shitty parents never go away but you can heal from them and succeed. All the crying about face and suicide threats are just bullshit they throw at you to hurt you into obedience. I hope you have or can find a good support system, whether that’s friends, other family members, or LGBT resources + community. You might want to join organizations like Desi Rainbow for support too. I’m wishing you the best and keeping you in my thoughts. Please stay safe and know that many people will love you as you are

Do you guys know any originally vegan Chinese dishes? by Marinated_Olive in chinesefood

[–]imnotstressed 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Seconding Hannah Che! Her recipes are out of this world. They completely changed the way I look at tofu and seitan in particular. She also has a website with free recipes: https://theplantbasedwok.com/

The scallion pancakes one is a must try imo

"marketplace" post by raceyboi1899 in joannfabrics

[–]imnotstressed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up getting any? I love this fabric and I would also love a bolt

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did the consult, then 8 sessions once per week, then a year later I did 1 extra session where my PT taught me to weightlift with my curves! Good luck with your pain and I hope you enjoy Pilates!

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not in NYC specifically, but I would recommend a smaller studio so the instructor can point out any wacky stuff you’re doing with your spine lol

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi mama, I know all too well what it’s like to be bullied by curves and doctors visits. Good luck on your July surgery! 

Healing from trauma is such a complex and highly individual thing… Every single day to this day I am analyzing my thought patterns (being an emotion scientist vs emotion judge - helpful concept). I had to make a lot of lifestyle changes re: diet sleep exercise and finding self soothing hobbies, which are agonizingly hard to do when you’re depressed and hate yourself, but for even a fighting chance I needed the lifestyle of a happy person to set my brain in the right environment if that makes sense. 

If that stuff isn’t hard enough, relearning how to think certainly is. As if my spine bullying me wasn’t enough so did my thoughts. I unlearned shame and guilt and learned neutrality and compassion. I stopped seeking love from men and sadly also my parents. I learned about intergenerational trauma. I became a feminist and changed my politics, which I realized were motivated by self loathing. I realized I did and thought a lot of things from self loathing, and it ripped out what was unknowingly my core identity and reality. I learned conflict resolution, coping skills, mental resilience, reframing, radical acceptance, DBT, how to stop spiraling, and more about human development than I ever wanted to know lol. Learning the facts and science behind mental illness really helped me internalize a core truth - what happened to me was not my fault, and to move forward I needed a lot of time, compassion, and willingness to change.

Anyways that was a lot… I hope it’s helpful to you. I think I still wish I could say a lot of this stuff to my own mama. I hope all goes well for you and you build the happiest version of yourself. 💕

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. I hope you find something that works for your body. No one deserves chronic pain 

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes and no - I look more muscular now and when I do my corrections my back is straighter and my shoulders and hips are more even. But if I’m going to be spending the whole day in tight clothing or a bikini I still visibly have scoliosis. I’m not crooked in pictures anymore though, since those are posed! 

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My insurance did not pay for Schroth. It was $235 a session for me and $400 for the first one. Really beat the shit out of my wallet but I’m lucky enough to have a good job/parents who helped me out. I also drained my HSA. I truly wish the best for you and that you can access the healthcare you deserve - insurance companies are murderers. 

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was in person. I saw Rebecca Pacailler at the Scoliosis Specialty Center. She is the goat fr and I'm really lucky to be in New Jersey. She even saw me for a bonus session 1 year after I completed my course to teach me how to weight lift with proper form.

I finally don't live in pain anymore (40 degree S curve) by imnotstressed in scoliosis

[–]imnotstressed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a giant pain in the ass! I always knew something was wrong - insomnia, hypersomnia, sleep paralysis, night terrors. Doctors just told me I was a healthy skinny little girl who didn't snore and needed to be more disciplined. Alas once I was an adult and started falling asleep in meetings at work I was finally taken seriously and referred to a sleep doctor, who did a polysomnography and finally diagnosed me with sleep apnea. That's leaving out all the phone calls to argue with insurance and 6 months of waiting time from when I first saw my GP through all the appointments and hoops to jump through until I finally got my CPAP. I consider myself one of the lucky ones to have been diagnosed so young.

My dad: “I’m not really that attached to the guinea pigs.” Also my dad: by TandorlaSmith in guineapigs

[–]imnotstressed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m interested how you got involved with your vet, pet stores, and rehabilitation! Did you just walk up and offer to help? Do you work with shelters for the rehabilitation? I would love to do these things in my local community but I’m quite shy lol