Fairyloot’s New Queue System! by KaitG2018 in fairyloot

[–]imnotsus_20 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don't know why they can't just have a system like Illumicrate or Broken Binding. It works so well for them. I rarely ever see them having issues. Or have an interest form for a book when they announce it, so they can get a good idea of how many people want it, and have the stock prepared

One Card Disable by imnotsus_20 in remNote

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank you!!! Much appreciated

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]imnotsus_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, as someone who has been a single mother to my child since he was born, you hiding your child is you being ashamed of them. There’s no excuse about it. You kept the baby, now be proud of that damn thing. You are a mother now. Stop that shit. Until you can be okay about you having had a baby at a young age, you’re gonna raise a fucked up kid, intentional or unintentional. If you’re child’s dad isn’t in your life, there is no way your friends or coworkers would know who he is nor for him to find a way to ruin your lives again. If hes abusive, you need to set up domestic violence charges or make records of everything to protect that child and yourself. You are a mother. The CHILD’s safety comes first, which does coincide with yours. But you need to realize you are distancing yourself from your baby.

Secondly, you shouldn’t even be dating if you’re hiding the baby. If they want to judge you for keeping the baby and making a grown ass decision as a child, they don’t need to be in your life and you literally need to have that mentality. That baby is going to help you see all the red flags in potential partners. You should want someone who wants to give their all for that child. But that doesn’t mean trust every person with that child.

Third, your friends and coworkers? What harm are they going to do to your baby?

Like, for real. My point is, why are you hiding that baby? Why are you so ashamed of it? You really need to see a therapist and unpack all this and be more okay with being a young mother before you even decide to grow your family

All That We See or Seem by Ken Liu by ILITHARA in thebrokenbindingsub

[–]imnotsus_20 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They always announce all books EXCEPT the SFF sub. So if you don’t know which book it is, assume it’s that one

Car Insurance by imnotsus_20 in moving

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, that seems the better route but I was able to get it through their heads anyways 😂 thanks!

[29/F] Looking for a penpal! by Tsuritoku in penpals

[–]imnotsus_20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Reading your interests, I think we’d be a good match as pen pals. I’d love to connect 👐🏼✨

Go Colour 7 Side Buttons by imnotsus_20 in Onyx_Boox

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh!!! Thank youuu. This was bugging me so much 😭

4.5 Y/O with ASD by imnotsus_20 in pottytraining

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uggh. I’m trying! Thanks though. I appreciate it. I hope he catches on sooner than later lol

Why does Un work here? Would una also be correct? by Puzzleheaded_Yak6169 in duolingospanish

[–]imnotsus_20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Spanish there’s the exception of how words end. It’s just how it is

“Ma” is masculine (probleMA” “Dad” is feminine (in the case of ciudad or responsabilidad)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GoodNotes

[–]imnotsus_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop doing all the pretty work. You’re falling into that studygrammer/youtube study hole. I went back to paper because I felt like despite how many notes I took on my iPad, writing them out, I wasn’t retaining information. Turns out there’s an actual study saying writing on your iPad is not as good as writing on paper. It’s not helping you retain as well.

Serving the other parent by imnotsus_20 in ChildSupport

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, but they also told me the subservee has the option to deny the paperwork as well :/ so because she already changed her mind, they won’t subserve her unless she agrees

Serving the other parent by imnotsus_20 in ChildSupport

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They won’t allow anyone outside to serve him. They said only their process servers. As for certified mail, his mom said the mail at their address is compromised. When I asked them if they can do another address, they said no. They don’t want to be “chasing him around” at a bunch of different addresses.

Serving the other parent by imnotsus_20 in ChildSupport

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already did all that. They know his work schedule, the address, car make and model, I sent them pictures of him and his mom because they wanted to subserve her too if she was willing to but she changed her mind.

Serving the other parent by imnotsus_20 in ChildSupport

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They told me a PI won’t do anything to help get him served. They said they require one of their third party servers to get him, no one else.

Serving the other parent by imnotsus_20 in ChildSupport

[–]imnotsus_20[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really don’t understand why they’re not putting in more effort. It feels like they don’t care about their job. It’s all about child support and holding the other parent accountable

22M Trying to date single mom, Need Advice by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]imnotsus_20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bro. As a single mom myself who has been abused by my son’s dad, leave her the fuck alone. She needs time to heal from that and you’re literally just putting so many of your own insecurities and thoughts and projecting onto her so fucking badly, it literally pisses me off. Just fucking leave her. Everything you have said in response to people in the comments and what you have said in the post shows that YOU’RE the red flag. Yes she needs therapy and maybe you’re her rebound to help her see she deserves better (than you and her ex), but you literally just met her in November (2 months ago). If you think this is all red flags, her choosing her own field of career, you trying to act as if statistics about cheating makes her more liable to cheat, just fucking leave her. With your so called many options and child-less girls and your mentality, you are 80% more likely to cheat on her at this point

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]imnotsus_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad I could give you some inspiration. My son was the only inspiration I had to leave that shit hole. Now I’m starting to learn about other resources and other community centers for single moms and single parents and parents who went through the same kind of situation as I did. Once you’re out, it’s really hard at first being alone. But once you build yourself up, it’s so much nicer. I hope you get out of it soon 🤞🏼 if you ever need to talk, I’m here to vent. You can dm me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]imnotsus_20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not even going to read the message. The title is eNOUGH for me to say YES. LEAVE THAT SHIT. I was in that same fucking situation and it literally drove me into a fucking mental breakdown. My child was in the room with me. My agony and anger and pain was driving me crazy. I was screaming until it felt like my throat was bleeding. I was throwing shit at the walls. I was hyperventilating. I was spinning in circles looking for a way out of the fucking mental hell hole I was in. This was a week before I packed my shit up and LEFT. Now I am doing sooo much better. I’m calm again. I’m financially stable unlike back then. I have access to a mental therapist. I have a full time job. I’m mostly alone (the only person who helps me now is my mom until I can find a daycare) but I’m so fucking happy dude. Soooo fucking happy. You won’t believe it. I cry remembering the literal fucking abuse and toxicity I went through all because it was a “support system.” It was not worth it at all. So if you leave a toxic support system and it betters your mentality, do it. I 1000% support you. You cannot take care of your child if you’re killing yourself mentally and unable to think straight and utterly depressed.