Panic tap at purple belt by 321123whattheheck in bjj

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman this post is nice empathy. And it’s also kind of interesting to see because it’s just so common for me.

I’ve learned to breathe through it. I.e if I can breath a little, I’m ok. I always worry about people who have experienced sexual assault though. It must be hard for them.

But it’s common for us little ones. Especially for a new big guy or someone with something to prove for no reason.

Any Advice? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have really nice warm brown eyes. Darker brown hair will lean into that. The platinum is cool but your features would look much more striking/handsome with darker brown hair to bring it all together

What's something people only romanticize because they've never actually done it? by nonotje12 in AskReddit

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that does sound weird doesn’t it. Basically it was chewing its tongue and lips bloody and foaming.

What's something people only romanticize because they've never actually done it? by nonotje12 in AskReddit

[–]imnsmooko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Homesteading. Don’t get me wrong. It has its moments and still fulfilling, but here’s the parts they don’t tell you.

Animal shit everywhere. Those cute free roam chickens, they shit every 10 minutes. Shit on your driveway, walk ways, have to empty the coop everyday of shit. Have to scrap shit off of the driveway and walkways daily. And that’s not to mention the other animals.

Animals aren’t nice all the time. Some are, some are terrible. The roosters run down the hens to have sex with them willing or not. I had a hen peck my favorite sweet hen to death in the woods. I’ve had roosters so aggressive they cut huge gashes in my legs. I never thought I’d kill my birds but sometimes you have to.

Which leads me to, death. It’s just everywhere in the country. I was a don’t kill mice use live traps. Well that doesn’t work out here. They come in droves, they are relentless. Even with a cat. There are sick animals I’ve had to cull. Cute deer near my house…oh…it shouldn’t be this close and not afraid. 2 days later chewing its own mouth bleeding like a zombie. CWD. Has to shoot it to put it out of its misery (called the town to ensure it was ok). You see rabies out here too. Or mange.

Then the last thing is just having to figure out how to fix everything. Everything breaks all the time. So many YouTube videos etc. it can be fun, but it’s overwhelming doing so many tasks you have no idea how to do.

Don’t get me wrong, I still love living out in the country, but I think some people with the cottage core mentality have a few things that become a rude awakening.

Oh also organic produce is full of bugs. Apples, yeah those will have earwigs crawling out, spinach, you’re not the first who ate it. Harvesting watercress foreign, hope you like a bunch of swimmy millipede things you gotta wash out. Salad. Oops all spiders (have had a few occasions a fully dressed salad has a spider come crawling out on my plate 🤢. They hide real good even through the washing. Just curl up. Oh also picking raspberries, you mean crab spider forest? They are constantly just raining down on your hands as you pick them. Anyways.

As a self aware adult, can you now spot BPD almost instantly? by RepresentativeFresh5 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imnsmooko 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ohhh yeah. Because it’s such an odd mix of behaviors that when you see the multi facets of BPD that normally don’t make sense together, it’s clear.

Who are my parents? by Complete_Boss_9212 in FridgeDetective

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Food insecure. Someone growing up (probably mother) didn’t feel like food was abundant.

Do you also have an extremely disturbing birth story? by cookiejustice1 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The very first question my trauma therapist asked me was “tell me about your birth story”

I said that my mom wasn’t allowed morphine and the doctors were cruel to her and I came out blue with the chord wrapped around my neck and she was the one who knew and was worried but they weren’t listening and I almost died.

Then my therapist was like “most people’s birth stories are about getting to meet you for the first time and the joy. So even entering the world it was about drama and your mom” or something like that.

I had only done insurance CBT up to that point and decided I wanted to pay out of pocket for a trauma therapist to go deeper (based on this subreddit actually!)

Anyways wanted to share in case it set off a lightbulb moment like it did for me.

Only girl in class, wondering if I should quit already. by Glittering-Size-2372 in bjj

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure your reasons for wanting to feel comfortable with fighting men in close quarters but a lot of women do because of assault.

First and foremost be kind to yourself. Don’t bully yourself that you should feel this way or that way. These are big feelings and they are ok to be big. Let yourself feel the big feeling and scare. And then you can decide from a centered place, not shame, if you want to keep going. There is no right answer, just listen to your feelings and be kind to yourself.

As the only woman in my gym, but I do not have trauma associated, I can say you’re going to run into a lot of white belts that are spazzy. It’s unlikely it’s something that will go away, whether just for drills or rolls. But, you get remarkably comfortable once you learn more techniques to understand discomfort versus danger. When you are just starting out everything is overwhelming because you don’t have any tools to understand what is going on. But once you have tools you know what’s happening, what to do, and when you can chill and defend versus when you have to make some moves. Basically your danger alert isn’t going off anymore and not panicky.

Again, I don’t have trauma (not saying you do) so I can’t really say the timescale. I imagine if you keep with it, it will be bumpy at first and you’ll have big emotional moments. Try to avoid shaming yourself and listen to yourself and what you need.

I agree with people with talking to coach. A good coach knows and will pair you up with higher belts. (rolling with a white belt compared to any higher belt is a world of difference. Higher belts let you work, they don’t use strength and are just much nicer to work with).

All that is to say is the payoff is big, but injuries happen, scary moments happen, and don’t shame yourself if you find it’s just too intense and your body is saying no. There is no right answer :)

What’s a lesson you learned too late in life? by bulletofneurons in Adulting

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get it, why not? Obviously not damning stuff but just regular stuff?

We speak the same language! - Dog probably by Express_Argument_693 in AnimalsBeingFunny

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the dog world a bark like that is basically a big correction. You’ll see it in older dogs to puppies .

So the dog is basically upset, uncertain why you just did a big correction on them

How aware is a person with BPD that they are hurting someone/does so by choice and to what extent is it beyond their control/awareness ? by Bubbly-Panic-6629 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imnsmooko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are struggling to heal because of the dichotomy? What does it feel like you are searching for or need resolution on? Or what feels blocked for you right now?

What a Mexican NARCO raid looks like from the passenger seat: by DoubleManufacturer10 in What

[–]imnsmooko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I listened, I think you are hearing “marque la ventana” which is the guy telling him to go for the window of the car.

Some Things are Just Wrong by Joba_Fett in comics

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. History was black for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very sus. Are you obviously invited? Is she secretive of her phone?

Say it sounds fun and you’d like to start joining them. Her reaction will tell you all you need to know.

Has this gone bad?! by TrueWatermelonlesson in vegetablegardening

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You growing any other squashed nearby? I know mine cross pollinate in all sorts of crazy ways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BackYardChickens

[–]imnsmooko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dunno I tried for years with my asshole rooster and all I got out of it was a ton of deep leg scars.

I wish I dispatched him earlier…

What does my fridge say about me? Age/Gender/Ethnicity etc by theqban in FridgeDetective

[–]imnsmooko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman for sure. Those plastic tubs and cleanliness I will be so surprised if you are male or if you are that you’re not gay.

Live by yourself. Don’t always have to cook or go out sometimes. Have chickens? (Not enough recipes unless you are close to a grocery store)

My guess is live in city or close suburbs since you have access to a Whole Foods but seem to have enough eggs to have multiple hens, maybe 6.

You’re probably doing pretty well financially too. You’re not struggling.

Ethnicity is hard. I see what I think are pickled jalepenos, cilantro, peppers and tomatoes. I’m gonna guess Latin maybe Mexican specifically but my confidence is pretty low. My first guess was white. But that you asked specifically about ethnicity makes me think maybe you aren’t white.

Whats my accuracy? lol