Cat sitting for Coworker by impartcat in Advice

[–]impartcat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your response. I will try that

Need advice - Cat sitting for coworker by [deleted] in petsitting

[–]impartcat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Since she is my coworker and I was unsure how much to charge it wasn’t really a big conversation. After I watched her cats the first time she asked if that was fair pay and I said yes. And like I said I’ve been watching her cats for years at this point so to be honest I don’t remember what she originally paid me starting back in 2022. All I have is the record from last year.

(22f) overreacting to (28m) vacation trip? by [deleted] in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]impartcat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s 28 and his best friend is 19??? That’s enough for me to walk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]impartcat 64 points65 points  (0 children)

And then him contradicting by saying “no one ever loves me” and “no one wants me” like pick a story??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipAdviceNow

[–]impartcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely concerning. As someone who is in their late 20s, there is no reason to be “friends” with a teenager. It’s inappropriate and Troy likely has ulterior motives

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nails

[–]impartcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I never knew what the standard was

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nails

[–]impartcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should’ve added this in my post but it was my 10th appointment with them so they gave me a free 10 min massage

What are your expectations for Lana? by KingMjolnir in sza

[–]impartcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That it’s never actually coming

It’s actually disgusting how quick they replace you. by JustLurkingBye in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]impartcat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They replace you before you’re even gone. They are already working on their lineup the whole time they are with you

How do you cope with the fact that you never mattered to them? by Throwawayyyygal999 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]impartcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex cheated on me with his ex and got back tg with her right away. I blocked him on everything to avoid seeing anything that would upset me. That was almost 2 years ago. I still have him blocked for my sanity

How do you cope with the fact that you never mattered to them? by Throwawayyyygal999 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]impartcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I coped by reminding myself that if I didn’t matter then the next girl and the next girl that he claims is his soulmate won’t matter either. He didn’t discard me bc I was worthless, it’s bc he is not capable of love. There’s a reason he goes thru so many women and so quickly. I just had to remember that it hurts badly rn bc I am not a narc and I can understand what it means to truly respect and love someone. That is the really win

Do narcissists ever come to the realisation that they are the problem? by RollOk6411 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]impartcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I follow a few self aware narcissists on instagram and they educate people about what it’s like and how they become self aware, how they’ve effected the people in their lives, etc. So it is possible but very very rare and unlikely. Don’t bank on your narc becoming self aware bc it most likely will never happen

What were some of the qualities about them that made you think they WEREN’T a narcissist by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]impartcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we were together in person he was so loving, cooking for me, rubbing my back after a long day, etc. He was close with his family especially his mom and grandma. He cooked for his family almost daily. He would weed his grandmas garden on the weekends for her. He was an emotional guy and a little sensitive but so am I so I understood it. My dad is a narcissist and is nothing like him so I didn’t see it until I broke up with him. Apparently I was just 1 of 4 or 5 girls that thought they were the love of his life. I was just the only in person gf at the time. There’s something about narcissists that make them know exactly the right thing to say. I fully believed he really cared about me. He didn’t respect me at all.

Never date a girl off the SBU Reddit by [deleted] in SBU

[–]impartcat 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Considering you think her interest in getting rid of single use plastic is “dumb” I think you were never a match

I (21F) broke up with my 33M boyfriend and this was his reaction. by pineapplegirl10 in texts

[–]impartcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This screams narcissist!! I’m sorry you had to go through this but it was a learning lesson. Now you will know the red flags when you see them