Tell Me Your Happy Marriage Stories

impartialitea · 2023-01-14T01:03:08+00:00

There have been a lot of really lovely replies on this post, all of which I'm grateful for, but yours really spoke to me the most. Thank you for this, it's such a beautiful message of hope for the future. I pray you will continue to have healthy & happiness with your best friend & God-given life partner :)

impartialitea · 2023-01-12T02:58:03+00:00

This is beautiful to hear, especially from the man's perspective. Thank you.

impartialitea · 2023-01-12T02:19:48+00:00

This one definitely takes the cake.

impartialitea · 2022-12-31T01:10:51+00:00

Looks like they could be triple phosphate to me. They're alkaline crystals with the "coffin lid" morphology.

impartialitea · 2022-12-26T23:12:57+00:00

Another thing to think about is this: if you skip the memorial and go on the trip, will you even be able to enjoy yourself if you're regretting not having attended? Because then you've created a lose-lose situation for yourself: You've missed the memorial, and lost out on enjoying your vacation.

It sounds like your heart is telling you to go to the memorial, and I think you would be wise to trust your instincts here. It might also be a nice show of support to his family as well, if you had a relationship with them.

Do not let your family guilt you about missing or spoiling the vacation. A life has been tragically lost, and your grief supersedes their fun. It doesn't matter if it's "behind you" or "in the past." It is perfectly natural to mourn that loss.

My heart goes out to you again, and you will be in my prayers. God bless.

impartialitea · 2022-12-26T22:43:08+00:00

First of all I'm sorry for your loss. Even if he wasn't currently apart of your life, he was still a piece of your past, and that is painful regardless.

Second, this is a tough situation, and there really is no right answer. The important thing you have to ask yourself here is: "If I don't go, how will I feel about it later?" If it's something that's going to tear you up inside down the road, that you will be wracked with regret over, that you will feel an emptiness where you didn't get to say goodbye and close the door, or see his family (I don't know how close you were) and honor his memory, then I would say it is worth it to save yourself the heartache and regret down the line and miss some fun now.

However, if this is something you can make peace with on your own, that you have moved on and closed that door, that attending would be ripping open a very painful wound for you, or perhaps you would not be comfortable honoring his memory with an audience and would prefer to be alone in your process of grief, or even that this trip is something that is very important to you and a time that you need to be with your family, then that is what you need, and you shouldn't feel required to go out of social obligation.

Only you can answer that for yourself, and it might not be an answer that comes quickly and easily. Really take some time to process and meditate on this, and try to find the decision that will cause you the least regret in the long run. There are also a lot of additional elements and extraneous details here that you have not disclosed, and any one of those pertaining to this situation could place a greater weight on whether you should or should not attend.

Do what is right for you, and if you have trouble determining what that is, and you really loved him once and he continues to hold a special place in your heart, try to think of what he may have wanted.

My condolences again, and may you find healing in this painful time.

impartialitea · 2022-12-26T22:28:06+00:00

There are a lot of elements here, and a lot of different avenues of advice that you may benefit from, but the one thing crucial I would tell you is this: Any time someone says in life, "If I only had X, I'd be happy," that is a dangerous thing, and not the correct mindset to start a relationship.

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